Myth number four, consistent income will make me happy. Joined by Hannah o' Donovan. One of the only female nervous system coaches in the online industry that I can stand. We are talking about the four myths of success that tend to burn out females today we're talking about consistent income will make me happy.

Some of the points that we cover include the difference between consistent, predictable, and growing income.

Most of us mean predictable, what your body thinks money will finally provide safety worth, permission relief. Why sustainable success is rhythmic, grow, stabilize, grow, and why you are worth cannot be measured by revenue.

📍 📍 Hannah is a somatic channel and nervous system specialist. After shutting down a multi-six figures figure business due to life-threatening burnout and daily anxiety, she rebuilt her work from alignment rather than survival.

She's the founder of Untamed Divine Feminine with eight plus years of entrepreneurship experience and more than 350 hours of trauma-informed facilitation and spiritual training.

Myth number four. Our final myth here is consistent income will make me happy. This is a juicy one.

Yeah. So two sides of this so that everybody understands that I'm not, I suppose gaslighting, anyone's experience is there is a real, tangible, wonderful, beautiful feeling of having. Consistent income and the safety and security that that provides us. As somebody with a Taurus Moon, if anybody is into astrology. Um, I experience that a lot. I, I, my emotions can be intense when I don't feel that I have stability and structure as

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around money. Um, and that's been a journey for me. Um, and also curiousness curiosity. Uh, what do you think it is

for those of you who want consistent income? First of all, how do you, just different things to pond around.

First of all, how do you define consistent? If you have the same, like what's your cycle? Are you looking for the same amount each month, the same amount each quarter, the same amount each year, the same amount each five years? Consistent. What does that mean? Number two? Uh. Probably you want it to be growing every year, don't you?

Actually? So is that really consistent? What are, what are you, what are you asking for? When you're asking for consistent, um, inflation, cost of living, et cetera, you, you probably actually want it to be growing. Um, so do you really want it to be consistent or do you want it to be predictable? And then also, why do you want it to be predictable?

What, what does that provide your body? What feeling does that give you? What does that affirm? What does that tell you? What story does that, um, how does your body interpret that as a story? So for me, I had a lot of, like, predictable income means that I've, I'm successful and I have a successful business.

And like I've, I've made it, I'm successful. Um, and also just another thing for us to ponder is you tell me one, actually, I've got two things you tell me. One place in the world, in the natural world where things are the same. Week on week, year on year, month on month. Tell me where they are. I have yet to see that. And also another one, don't forget that unless you are in a salary job and you are running any type of business or self-employment, you have a business. And just in case you didn't know or realize, most startups fail in the first two years, and majority of them never reach profitability. So they leak money their entire time and then they just stop. So stop being so hard on yourself and having

such high expectations and then being upset that you didn't achieve it. Just to put that in perspective.

Yes. Uh.

now I've vented.

Yeah, no, everything you said there. Yes. Like this is so, so on point because I really like what you just reminded us of there about the actual reality of how many businesses succeed and how they succeed. And, and I needed that reminder actually, because we look out there at the, like, you know, golden examples and we use those as our north stars and forget that that's like a tiny percentage of what actually succeeds and how they actually succeed.

And even just like if you take the podcast world for example, which this was a really like interesting thing to learn. The number of podcasts that actually make it past, like, I think it's three or five episodes comparative to the number of podcasts that exists is a very, like very small percentage. So even if you've made it to.

25 episodes, you are well beyond what a lot of people are. But in my head I'm thinking 25 episodes. That's nothing like I failed if I stop at that point. So that perspective shift is so important. But also I think asked all the questions that you ask. There are such like any, especially female founders, 'cause that is kind of the world that I live in.

Female leaders. Female founders, asking yourself the questions about your relationship to money and income, because it is highly unlikely that you are going to have any sort of consistent income, at least at the beginning of your journey. And if all you're worrying about is consistent income, your energy is leaking to a place where like that's all you're gonna think about.

And. Like you said, consistent income also comes with the idea of exponential growth in income. So it's not just, oh, do I make the same money every month or every year? But like, how is that money growing and if it's not growing, does that mean I'm failing? And why are we chasing these things? Because yes, at its base, like stability, safety, survival in our world does is connected to money, is connected to how we exchange energy, which is through money and our root fine needs that.

Stability needs that survival. So of course there is a base element of that, but beyond that, when you are chasing income, what do you think it will fix? Is it an anxiety issue? Is it truly a, maybe I'm coming from a place where I didn't have a lot growing up and there are those INM prints on my nervous system of.

What not having a lot means, even if that's not necessarily the situation you're in now, that survival, um, can, can creep in of like, I'm not gonna be able to put food on the table, or I'm not gonna be able to take care of myself, what have you. Is it about uncertainty? Do you have a tricky relationship with uncertainty and not knowing what's gonna come in next month and that just weighs on you so massively?

Or is it a self-worth thing? Is it I am not worthy if I don't make X amount or if I'm not growing month over month or if I don't have revenue coming in every month? Like, what are you making that mean about your business? Like you said there, Sheridan, like a lot of businesses don't ever become profitable and if so, yeah.

What does that mean about. What are you making that mean about who you are as a person if you can't show this consistent income? And quite frankly, in my experience as an entrepreneur for eight plus years, one of the biggest things that I have had to expand my capacity with is my relationship to money, and is my relationship to inconsistency when it comes to money.

That's not everyone's story, but if I didn't, like if I was waiting for consistent income to make me happy, I would've been miserable for this past eight years, and I probably would've given up

very early on. And so it's like, I think this myth is really important to talk about more openly because if. If you feel really strongly in your business that this is something that you wanna be doing and keep going with, but you make not having consistent income mean you're failing, that's gonna be such a roadblock to so many other things.

Um, including your nervous system, feeling safe to receive without constant expansion, because that was another thing that you said that I really, really, really relate to, is this idea of exponential growth and that exponential growth is not organic because sustainable success looks like growth, stabilize, grow, stabilize, like, expand, contract, integrate round and round and round like it is.

The law of nature, it's death, rebirth, cycles all the time. It's not grow, grow, grow, grow, grow, grow, which eventually then leads to some form of burnout or stop or slow down.

That's actually capitalism,

Yeah. Yeah.

which my nervous system didn't hear about. We didn't, my nervous system was like, what? I didn't, I wasn't built off of what? I don't know.

Uh, no, a hundred percent. I agree. And like, again, talking about a whole other podcast episode, we could do a whole other episode on how absolutely unsustainable the fact that capitalism requires and the economy requires exponential growth. Like that is just like, and, and I could get into the, like, universe is all about constant expansion and we could argue back and forth, but regardless.

it's, and it's not to say that you don't have, um. An upward trajectory of growth.

It just, so if you zoom out on your life, you've probably

got an upward trajectory of growth, but within that it is what Hannah, you've said, increased and then I stabilize and maybe there's a dip, or maybe it's just stable and it's the same and then I increase and then I stabilize and then I increase.

So if we zoom out, we're in an upper trajectory, but if we are in the day to day, it doesn't necessarily feel like we are in an upper trajectory, which if, if I can add to that, I think that there's a really important thing that needs to be done that is done. I would say with, when you work with me, we do that.

A lot of this, and I assume it's the same with you, Hannah, where we actually just work to separate your sense of worth. From what's going on in your business, on your bank account.

Business is successful when there are so many things that come into alignment. The market, the economy, the politics, people's buying behaviors.

Um, the way that, uh, the, especially if you have an online business, what's going on with the algorithm? Um, so many things. And the, the people who often come up as like these overnight successes. They did 10 years of work and then all of a sudden something happened and they were already in the space and they were, you know, people, the biggest AI people, they've been going around for like 20 years.

Do you know how

long people have been studying ai? And all of a sudden we're like, whoa, no, they've done 20 years of groundwork. Um, so the success of your business, it requires a, it requires so many things that are just so, like, not even on the same, not even in the same universe as your worth. They are skills and

they are things outside of your control and. Your ability to navigate those things outside of your control, which are skills that are learned and refined and iterated upon, and have very little to do with your alignment and your worthiness and who

you are.

I, I could not agree more. And also it's circumstantial, like yes, there are a lot of people who made incredible things out of nothing. And then there are also a lot of people who started 10 steps beyond you or who have parents who were entrepreneurs or in the industry you're in or who have money or so, like, there's just so many different circumstances above and beyond skills as well that are not tied, like you said, to how worthy you are.

And, and this is why I am so. Deeply passionate about helping female leaders build success, whether that's in their personal relationships or in their work relationships that seize them through all seasons, because

Mm.

that is life. Life is seasons like we talked about. It's expansion, it's contraction. There will be seasons where you can absolutely put your head down and move towards your mission, like in this beautiful, synchronistic, hyper-focused way, and you were just able to get that done.

And then there are seasons where life happens, where a loved one might be sick, where you decide that you wanna have children, where you decide you wanna focus more on pleasure and joy, and being with people and presence. If we attach our worth to how much we're producing and how successful we are, or how much is in our bank account, or how our bank account is staying consistent month after month, we are unable to lean into the natural seasons of life.

And we miss a lot of that. And that's why I think building your own definition of success is vitally important to your success. And also that nervous system piece, um, is so important as well. And why, I don't wanna speak for you Sheridan, but I believe it's such a foundational part of the work that we do because at its base success is people who are able to be with the discomfort and the uncertainty for longer than the people who aren't.

And to not make that mean. That they are somehow better or worse as a human because of what is happening in their businesses or in their, you know, work life. Um, and if you are able to be with those uncomfortable moments where you're like, whoa, that was a big fail, or shoot, I called it really close this month with like bills versus revenue and Oh no, I overextended myself.

That was a big mistake. Or I have to pivot, or I lost money, whatever it is, and not be like, oh, that makes me real, a really bad business owner or a really bad leader versus saying, oh, I just made a really human mistake, and like, what can I learn from this?

And what can I learn from This is a big one.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah. That being said, all of that, if you find yourself and you're like, no, I really just feel like I need consistent income, that is really valid. And go

and find something that will give you that fin,

that financial security, um, 'cause we're not advocating for you to bypass your own if that's a real, genuine, true desire.

And for so many different people and so many different reasons. That is a real thing and that's not a failure in any way. Um, but just know that you may still need to look at. Your worth and those things because as we spoke about before, and the other myth, if you go into any engagement and you still have, and we always, the thing is, I say still, but like we're always, we're niggling with them all the

time. Um, if you, if you have some patterns around performing for money or feeling like you have to do extra for money or makeup or I don't know what these things are, or say yes more than you want to just know that you're gonna bring, you may bring that back into that engagement.

Um, and that brings us back to myth, to myth two, I think it was, which is like, what do you, what was the, what was the beautiful prompt that you gave us? Um, I wrote it down what might follow me that I would like to leave here. So we've kind of come full circle in that space. Um, yeah.

Yeah, I, I totally agree. And, and this is, I think such a beautiful reminder that each while as humans, we. Have a lot of the same things and a lot of the same wants and desires and, and maybe values and things that wake us up in the morning and keep us going. We also do have individual systems, and for some systems it's very clear that stability in a very specific way will make you happy, but it's always asking those deeper questions because when you reach that goal that you've been working so hard towards, like, for example, consistent income and think, this is what's going to make me happy.

I'm finally going to feel like I've made it once I get there. I've heard so many stories where people get there and I'm like, this feels nothing like what I thought it would

because we, and then we're still, we then just raise or move the goalpost, right, of like, oh, I'm

But then that,

Uh, but then, oh, now what's next?

How, okay, what am I setting? My, oh, I made a hundred K this year. Okay. I'm not even gonna pause to sit in it to receive it, to enjoy it 150 next year. And then if you're just moving forward, it's that beautiful book. And I'm forgetting, uh, the name of the authors right now, Ben Hardy. I think it is the gain in the gap.

Or the gap in the gain.

I've heard of it. I haven't read it yet.

Yeah. But just this idea of like, it's like the horizon. You're never going to meet the horizon. So yes, you can have these beautiful horizon goals, but they shouldn't be the, uh, measure of whether you've made it or not. Because every time you walk closer to them, they get further away kind of thing, right?

So it's this, this idea of like, how can we stay in the game? How can we be with the thing, you know, set goals to, um. Sorry, I'm getting lost here. How can we set goals to motivate us? Because that's a beautiful thing and we should certainly want, like, listen, I want women to have all the money. I want millionaires and I want billionaires and I want people to be rolling in it because I think good.

Um, lots of money in the hands of good people is an amazing thing, but do we have, we worked with our nervous systems in a way that it feels safe not only to receive, but to actually pause when we get there and say, this is enough, at least for now.

Thank you for listening. Just to recap, myth number one has been dual aligned work and you'll never burn out. You can listen to that over on Hannah's podcast. I'll make sure that you have the link down below in the show notes. Myth number two, pivot my life and my burnout will heal. Listen to that on my podcast link will be a down below myth number three.

Burnout is a big event. Hannah's podcast link below. Myth number four, you just listened to it. I'm happy you're here. Can't wait to hear your thoughts. Of course, if you wanna take this deeper with myself or Hannah, inside of all of our show notes for all of the podcasts, you'll find ways to learn more about working with us.

For me, that might be in a course. Uh. It or where I kind of curate all of the noise on the internet, that is not very helpful and set that up. So it's the simplest thing that you could possibly, um, consume and then apply and help you apply that to your life. And one-on-one work is where we go really deep into all of the patterns that we've spoke about so far and get you moving forward.

Alright, I'll speak with you soon. Bye bye.