4 Ways Your Wounded Inner Child Impacts Financial Freedom (Dysregulated Nervous System and Trauma Healing)
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Business felt hard until I changed this.
I thought…
- That lack of engagement/likes sales wasn’t a sign everything would fall apart.
- Spending time unproductive wasn’t a sign I was lazy.
- That hard work, discipline and dysregulation aren’t bad.
- That saying “no” or sharing my authentic thoughts and feelings wouldn’t result in judgment, attack, or abandonment.
In this episode I’ll teach you how to go from anxious, self-critical and feeling stuck – to feeling on track, increasing your income and doubling down on your ease.
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TRANSCRIPT:
[00:00:00] Sheridan: Business felt hard and it felt like everything was turbulent and a monumentous task and I wasn’t ever sure if it was ever going to work until I understood these four things.
[00:00:10] By the end of this episode you will know exactly what lack of engagement and lack in sales means and what it doesn’t. You’ll understand the key thing that will help you feel safe, to relax, to rest, and to breathe deeply and exactly why hard work, discipline, and dysregulation isn’t exactly as bad as it is made out to be.
[00:00:48] Let’s look at the four ways that your wounded inner child and dysregulated nervous system impacts financial freedom or makes business easier. Um, sorry, harder than it needs to be. These are not the only four ways. [00:01:00]These are some of the four ways that I was thinking about today and that I see to be really, really common in most of the clients that I work with.
[00:01:08] Okay. So number one, I used to think, or my wounded inner child, let’s go into that for a second. Um, so your wounded inner child is kind of, it will, there is this, Piece of us, or this part of us that lives inside of our body and inside of our psyche and communicates to us through sensations, emotions, thoughts.
[00:01:29] Things that it believes to be true or is concerned about or wants us to know about in an effort to protect us from some sort of pain or protect us from an event that it perceives will be painful. And so when we’re engaging in business or particularly with anything around money, just because of how inherently dysregulating money is to our nervous system, because it is related to, um, resources and belonging and the way that we are kind of situated inside of the tribe, it, it is inherently [00:02:00]dysregulating and it can, trigger, uh, our wounded inner child, which then gives us these beliefs or these thoughts or these ways of looking at business and things like that in ways that are not necessarily true and definitely not healthy.
[00:02:16] So four ways that, My wounded inner child and dysregulated nervous system impacted my financial freedom and maybe doing it for you are the following. Number one, I used to think, or my wounded inner child would tell me that lack of engagement or lack of sales was a sign that everything would fall apart.
[00:02:38] So my dysregulated nervous system kind of gave me this feeling That this visceral, very visceral feeling inside of this is wrong. I would have thoughts that would say, well, this is my intuition or this is my critical thinking. In fact, it was a wounded inner child that just felt wrong. That was very much based in shame and was looking to be [00:03:00] liked.
[00:03:01] Um, that was thinking the lack of sales, a lack of engagement means something is wrong. Therefore, I’m not liked. Therefore, I’m unsafe. Therefore, I need to amp up the way that I feel and the anxiety that I have around the ebbs and flows with maturation, with trauma healing and with experience and with body based practices.
[00:03:19] I’ve come to understand that ebbs flows and changes are actually a part of what makes entrepreneurship fun, attractive, and perfect for my creativity. My success is not going anywhere. for listening. My inner child didn’t understand this, had never experienced this before, and I had to develop this wise parent inside of me, this, this wise self, this regulated nervous system able to hold the dysregulation and hold the wounded parts of inside of me to understand that lack of engagement or lack of sales isn’t a sign that everything will fall apart.
[00:03:52] The other way that my wounded inner child or your wounded inner child may impact you Your financial freedom is if you’re [00:04:00]engaging in the belief or the thought pattern, or you have anxiety around this, that spending time being unproductive means that you’re lazy. I used to think that being unproductive, and I say that with like quote marks, meant that I was lazy.
[00:04:14] Before I was able to identify my business’s true needs as well as my own and then focus my mind enough when working to be effective, productive, creative, intuitive, and have fun, I always felt like I needed to earn time off. This gave me chronic stress. I couldn’t rest when I was resting. Um, and I was never really present and my best when I was focused.
[00:04:35] So I had to go through an entire process of choosing rest and ease, even when I hated it and learn that Rest actually serves me and my clients and all of my goals. I had to unpack all of the beliefs that I had around being lazy. And I also had to learn how to focus. Now, some of you will identify as being neurodivergent.
[00:04:57] I definitely identify as being [00:05:00] neurodivergent even though I haven’t been diagnosed and probably never will put myself in that situation. But a lot of us can have trouble focusing. When we have a dysregulated nervous system, or if we are neurodivergent. And so we need to learn two things. One, we need to learn how to focus.
[00:05:16] And there are different body based tools that we can use. There’s different ways that I can coach you towards that. And I’m happy to do an episode on that. If you would like it, um, just let me know if that would be supportive and send me a message and I’ll do it. And we also need to be able to learn to rest.
[00:05:32] And part of that is understanding. That being quote unquote unproductive or resting in true rest, resting your mind, resting your creativity, resting your emotions, resting your body, resting your spirit isn’t a sign that you’re lazy. My inner wounded child thought that it was because at some point she learned that it was, even though that wasn’t true.
[00:05:53] The other way that my wounded inner child and dysregulated nervous system was impacting my financial freedom and maybe [00:06:00]impacting yours was believing that hard work, discipline and dysregulation are bad. I find that in this industry, there is this popularized movement that ease, you know, is like the one thing that we should be pursuing all of the time and that we need to quote unquote create success with feminine energy and orgasms.
[00:06:21] And like, I’ve literally seen, and I’m not saying that this isn’t true. I think there’s like, I always teach you to orient to pleasure. I really believe in the value of pleasure and I really believe in creating success from flow and from ease. There is a problem and that begins to villainize tension and hard work.
[00:06:41] The truth is feeling healthy amounts of stress is actually what creates fulfillment. It is what creates you feeling supported and, and stimulated by your business. It what makes, it’s what makes you feel motivated to keep going to get up. It’s what creates resiliency at what gives you a sense of purpose.
[00:06:59] [00:07:00] It’s what makes you a glowing person who is excited to get to work on Monday. We’ll We need to find inside your specific level of activation of, of tension, of stress and constriction. We need to fine tune that into your business goals and also into your lifestyle and into your body. When we find your sweet spot, then momentum happens with ease, but constriction and difficulty Is normal.
[00:07:30] It is a part of human life. And it’s certainly a part of entrepreneurship. And anyone who tries to tell you otherwise is probably just trying to sell you something and not actually in it. And they might be speaking some truth in some ways. But remember that it is a portion of it, and please try to be less black and white about this.
[00:07:52] We need a healthy amount of tension and stress in order to get stronger, in order to get [00:08:00] better at something, in order to improve. Otherwise, your amygdala will not activate and it will not pursue action. Um, otherwise you will not be able to practice new things. Your amygdala is what keeps you going.
[00:08:12] gives you the hormones that incite action and it needs to be activated to a certain level, not to the point where you feel unsafe, but to a certain level where it now floods your body with the correct kind of neurochemical and hormonal cocktail that inspires you to be excited to get up to work on Monday, an inner child that is.
[00:08:40] In pain and is pursuing ease, rest, orgasms at the sake, at the expense of your desires is not true embodied business. It is the pendulum flowing the other way from a trauma response. Okay, number four.
[00:09:00] I used to think that or my wounded inner child would think that saying no or sharing my authentic thoughts and feelings would result in judgment, attack, or abandonment.
[00:09:09] This makes sense because, you know, a wounded inner child maybe you’ve experienced, uh, a bullying or a, uh, Or maybe you’ve experienced some level of pain. Somebody has judged you. We all have these experiences in childhood that are painful for us. And we feel judged and we feel like we’re not enough. And we feel like we’re too different or something.
[00:09:30] And it creates, Oh, it creates so much discomfort that we then develop these stories, beliefs and patterns around saying no or sharing what we think that follow us into. Business and work. And for me personally, that manifested as I have this belief of like, I used to think that sharing my authentic thoughts and feelings would result in judgment, tech and abandonment.
[00:09:57] And I didn’t realize[00:10:00] about three years into my online journey that I was holding back parts of my personality and my opinions or my sense of humor or ideas, because I was so conditioned to do so. I was so conditioned that I didn’t even realize, and I probably do it a little bit now. Um, Anyway, and I’m working every day on not doing it, of being more me.
[00:10:21] And the way, the most effective way to stop holding back parts of you The most effective way to find the sweet spot between hard work and ease and rest and productivity and understanding your innate value, but also bringing value through service to your community and of understanding when you need to freak out about engagement or lack of sales versus a normal ebb and flow of business.
[00:10:48] The way that you understand that is through the three steps, the three pillars of body based business. It is by prioritizing nervous system regulation with lifestyle diet and energetic practices.
[00:11:00] It is by deep trauma healing, using somatic therapy to change these practices, change these habits, change these thought patterns and change your identity at a cellular level.
[00:11:10] And then it is anchoring into that and taking that action in changing your business strategy so that everything is set up automatically and with ease. This is the body based business way. So if you would like to go from anxious, self critical, and feeling stifled, Duck to feeling on track, increasing your income and doubling down on your ease.
[00:11:34] Your next step is to apply for buddy based business by booking your embodied sales call where we’re going to use an embodiment process to build a four step process to increase income and ease through these three pillars of buddy based business. You will find the link to book your embodied sales call down below in the description.
[00:11:53] The show notes cannot wait to see you on side of inside of your embodied sales call. [00:12:00] Um, you know, some people are kind of hesitant to these, to get on these calls. They feel like they’re going to be pressured into something or they feel like they’re, I don’t know, they’re, they’re a bit nervous to be honest about what you’re experiencing.
[00:12:12] That makes sense. You’re not the only one. I see you, I hear you and it’s okay. We’re going to use an embodiment practice and we’re going to use our bodies to make sure you walk away from that cold with exactly what you need. You’ll be invited to work with me if I truly feel in my body and I feel excited about working with you and I’m excited to enter into a relationship of work with you.
[00:12:37] And if not, then don’t. That’s fine. You walk away with a four step process and, and that’s really great. I’m excited for you. I’m not doing these calls to get a quick buck. I’m not interested in extracting something from you and you don’t even have to trust that in the beginning. All I ask is that you show up and you are honest and you are honest with yourself and that you are [00:13:00] honest with me and that you try your hardest to do so because that is the way that we make change in the world and that is the way that we get more money.
[00:13:08] And more ease into the hands of people like you who have good, good hearts and just want to do good in the world. And to be honest, that’s the reason that I’m doing all of this.