The Real Way To Manage Your Anxiety As An Entrepreneur with Inconsistent Income (For Financial Freedom)

[00:00:00] If you feel like you are pushing or you are forcing, you’re trying so hard to feel protected and supported by your business or even the people around you, this episode was made perfectly for you. In the next few minutes, you will learn how to cultivate a sense of stability and empowerment, safety, and security.

[00:00:34] Even when you have inconsistent income, exactly what to focus on to feel like you can stop running around in circles on your healing hamster wheel and the one common mistake that people just like you have been on their healing journey for a little while now, uh, make that causes them to feel exhausted and over it and feeling like, Oh, haven’t I healed this already?. 

[00:00:57] When I entered into the, , online entrepreneurial [00:01:00] space, I was a yoga teacher. I’ve transitioned through teaching yoga, becoming a yoga therapist, coaching around anxiety and hair loss and OCD and a million different things until I’ve landed here. There was one thing that kept showing up, which was no matter how much money I earned, I felt like it was going to go away.

[00:01:23] I felt like my success was going to go away. And I would project this onto the uncertainty of income. And I would think, well, if I just had a stable income, Then everything would make sense. It would feel good. I would feel secure and that’s stable income. I thought, well, I’ll say I’ll do like a group program or I’ll like plan my launch out perfectly or I’ll strategize everything.

[00:01:42] Or if I get my, , if I get my. Uh, like timetable down, right? Like that will make sense. Or if I have the perfect savings plan or something, and it was difficult. Maybe you feel similarly, maybe you’re in a position where you’re coming or you’ve been [00:02:00] in entrepreneurship for a little while, you’ve got some savings, maybe you’ve done pretty well in your career, but when you consider the fact that you’re, , Incoming entrepreneurship is more uncertain or fluctuates.

[00:02:11] It, it makes it more difficult to buy things you really like, like the expensive yoga membership or to invest an extra amount into your stock portfolio or your retirement or, um, or to consider perhaps making a larger investment like that. Buying a house or something, maybe it means that you feel extra anxious or tight or that you need to be a certain way around sales or marketing, and it can feel like there’s so much pressure that activates your inner critic and makes you feel stressed, which then makes it hard to feel focused in your business.

[00:02:42] And then you feel like really like guilty and gross. And it’s just like this bad cycle. I I’ve been there. Maybe you’ve just feel like you’re unsupported. I definitely had this as well. I just felt like I was unsupported. I had this like underlying feeling of I’m not getting enough support.

[00:02:58] I would kind of judge myself [00:03:00] for being needy or Something or I would like project it out to the people around me. My friends don’t support me enough They don’t do enough for me or my partner doesn’t support me enough He doesn’t pay for enough things or whatever and I would kind of project it out but it was this underlying feeling of Instability and not being protected and not being provided for in a way that felt safe, that was creating a larger anxiety.

[00:03:27] Because the truth is, it’s not about the inconsistent income. The answer isn’t to have consistent income. If you have inconsistent income, that’s more than enough to cover your needs.

[00:03:38] You will feel more secure, you know, you can be handed a million dollars tomorrow and you could have it fall through your fingers in three weeks. You can have a savings account that is perfectly cushioned and you can still feel anxious about money.

[00:03:53] You’re going to have contracts set up for the next six months and still feel like tomorrow you need to figure out how to get a new

[00:04:00] sale. Your anxiety around your income or your anxiety in general. isn’t about that thing. Anxiety is a messenger from the psyche, from the subconscious to look at something deeper.

[00:04:14] And that’s something deeper for many of us is how wound around the divine masculine, which is that which protects and provides. I’m going to reference the father wound flow chart. These are, I’ve created it to support us through the next couple of episodes because I’m going to be going and really detailing the symptoms, the problem, quote unquote problem or the wound that’s inside.

[00:04:39] And then what’s on the other side of healing those symptoms. You can listen to this episode. Referencing the father wound flow chart. If you send me a DM on Instagram and either myself or my assistant will send you the Google doc where this flow chart is. 

[00:04:53] You do not need this flow chart to listen to this episode, but if you’re a visual person and you like to be able to reference back, then

[00:05:00] you like to be able to read, I I’m happy to share it with you just so that we’re really clear about where we’re going. So, as I’ve mentioned, Some of the common symptoms of a triggered father wound inside of your business would be feeling anxiety around inconsistent income feeling unsupported and On the side of this flow chart, there are also some other wounds, some other wounds mentioned or other symptoms mentioned.

[00:05:28] You can also reference episode number one 27 and one 28, 13 ways. Your father wound is secretly keeping you anxious, overworking, and in scarcity. I will also link that below inside of the show notes so that you, if you haven’t listened to that, I highly recommend that you do the symptom is.

[00:05:49] Feeling unsupported, feeling anxiety and wanting sustainable income, feeling a desire for sustainable income. What is probably happening though, underneath of [00:06:00] that is that your business is triggering your father wound and your father wound has something to do with, I don’t get enough love or resources or protection or provision from the The divine masculine, the universe.

[00:06:16] Common ways or flavors of this is feeling like money or success or your clients or your partner will abandon you or feeling a push to kind of pursue a high profile career or have a certain income because your father had really high expectations of you. Or on the flip side, if your father like doesn’t like the rich feeling like you need to not like succeed, supersede, go over a certain amount of income, like you need to stay poor because that will, then you’re, you’ll be a part of the income bracket that your father is in.

[00:06:52] And then that way he’ll feel really good when he provides for you, if he does in certain ways, or he will like approve of

[00:07:00] you because you’re one of like the quote unquote good guys. It also manifests as feeling. Powerless feeling like you don’t know what you’re doing having that thought of, I don’t know how, or I can’t just repeat during your day because we get in large part from our father, a healthy sense of I’m capable.

[00:07:20] That’s part of what the divine masculine, healthy, divine masculine will teach us. Once again, if you go into the. Father wound flow chart. This is going to go into that in more detail. It’s going to be really supportive for you. Send me an Instagram DM to get it. So if your father didn’t instill inside of you a healthy sense of I’m capable, you will consistently feel powerless.

[00:07:41] And then you don’t take action because you think you don’t know how, and then you don’t see the results you want, and then you feel shame about that. And then it makes it harder to take action. So you don’t achieve your goals. You also might experience a lack of self belief. So if your father didn’t believe in your ideas enough for you,

[00:08:00] maybe it was enough for your sibling, but it wasn’t enough for you.

[00:08:03] It can instill inside of us a belief that we don’t know what we’re doing and we can’t trust our decisions. I want to take a moment to really note and affirm that you may have had a really beautiful relationship with your father. You may not, but also understand that your nervous system isn’t necessarily responding just to your father.

[00:08:22] It’s responding to its understanding of everything that represents the masculine. So your nervous system holds seven generations of information about what is safe and normal and what is not. Therefore, when you engage in your life and you engage with yourself, when you engage in other people, your nervous system is reacting not only to the moments in your personal life where you may have trauma.

[00:08:46] Been not believed in, or you may have been hurt or you may have been traumatized or disrespected, or a abused, or just not supported by the masculine, but seven generations prior. We are 

[00:09:00] responding to seven generations of unhealthy relation with that which it represents the masculine, which is everything to do with containers commitment, um, provision support.

[00:09:11] This is detailed inside of the flow chart a little more, but. It creates this pain, right? And now you can go through and you can focus on perfectly planning your day or finding the perfect strategy or like working really hard or trying to, or you know, you can do, I’ve done, I did this and it was a little bit helpful.

[00:09:33] I pay myself a salary and that, that’s really nice. And so I, My, my income is the same all the time, no matter what my business is doing. And then I get to look and if I, you know, I get a really nice bonus this month, which is fun. Um, cause we made, we made some good money, which was nice. You know, that’s like an extra, extra support.

[00:09:51] Go on another holiday. Yay. Uh, it’s yeah, it’s, it, you feel supported. You can look at those strategy and inside of body based

[00:10:00] business, we do look at those strategies. However, we address the deeper emotional, emotional. pain and discomfort or cloudiness or ickiness or stickiness so that the strategies are much more effective.

[00:10:12] Because you’ve done the thing where you run around trying to do all of the stuff and get your schedule right and do this. You’ve done that. Maybe it was helpful. You’re probably tired and you want something else. So when we come in and we heal that underlying wound so that you feel more supported, so that you feel protected, now the inconsistency of your income does not cause you anxiety.

[00:10:37] It causes you to say, huh. Yeah, I’m gonna do this. This makes sense. Okay, cool. Spoke to my account and did that. Looks like the strategy is, oh my God, how fun. Let’s do this. Yes. I’m so excited. Let’s do it. It’s just easy. Like, and you can just achieve so much more and then you go and you make dumplings. Like it’s just, it’s just a vibe.

[00:10:54] So that’s what we’re here for. We want it to be easy. We want it to be simple. That’s what you’re going to achieve. You were going

[00:11:00] to achieve that. Ask me for the father wound flow chart, go and listen to 13 ways. Your father wound is secretly keeping you anxious, overworking and in scarcity. And if you haven’t already sign up for August 12th, uh, free embodiment practice called how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur.

[00:11:16] That’s the day that I’ll be opening the doors to financially fierce. And I cannot wait to see you there. You’ll find links below. Love you. Bye.