Holding back from investing in your business, yourself, or the stock market because you’re worried about needing your savings in cash at any moment? If it feels ‘like the other shoe could drop in any moment’ this episode was made for you.
Press play to:
- Learn whether surface-level, short-term solutions or deeper, long-term approaches are best for managing your financial anxieties.
- When to pick surface level, short term solutions vs underlying unconscious nervous system patterns that are leading to your anxiety.
- How my client went from anxious and unsure how to spend money to feeling “like I know what I’m doing” with business investments, personal and stock investments, as well as feeling “supported and secure.’
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TRANSCRIPT:
[00:00:00] If it feels like the other shoe could drop and you could need your hard earned savings in cash quicker than you think, and that’s making you delay investing it in your business, in yourself, or even in the stock market, this episode was made for you. By the end of the episode, you are going to know whether or not you should be choosing surface level, short term solutions, which aren’t always bad.
[00:00:39] Or if it’s time for you to go deeper into the underlying unconscious nervous system patterns that are leading to having your anxiety, I’m going to share with you the best next step, which is an embodiment practice on how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur and make wise
[00:01:00] embodied decisions around your bills and spending your savings, investing in yourself or saving cash. Today’s. Podcast episode is inspired from the father wound flow chart, which details how your father wound might be impacting your income and your business and what you will gain by healing it to receive that. Send me a DM on Instagram. However, you don’t need that. to get the most out of the rest of the podcast.
[00:01:30] This episode is inspired by a client who is generous enough to let me use her transformation and her story as a teaching moment for us all. I was inspired to share with her, share her story as well, because it’s really similar to my own. If you’re a coach or some type of service provider, you know that we end up working with people who have had really similar patterns.
[00:01:53] And so most likely if you’re here, you can also identify yourself in this. When my client came to
[00:02:00] me, she literally wrote on her intake form that she holds her breath and tensions her jaw, tightens her jaw, were the words she used, when getting her credit card statement. She said, I have savings to invest, but I’m procrastinating doing it because it feels like in any moment the other foot could drop and it would be better to having cash, but this is just sitting in my bank account depreciating. you know, it could be as much as like 300 that you’ve saved. It could be as large as 300, 000 that you’ve saved. It could be 3 million that you’ve saved. I don’t know. But if you’re experiencing anxiety around your bills or around spending your savings, Yes, sometimes this is a surface level problem that requires a short term solution and sometimes most likely you’ve tried that just like my client when she came to me.
[00:02:52] When I noticed these tensions inside of my spending habits, I had already tried some of the surface level
[00:03:00] short term solutions my client had it well when she came to me specifically the We had both tried perfectly trying to plan our day in business. We had this thought pattern that was like, if I can just figure out my perfect wake up time, my perfect routine, if I can just find the best strategy, the way to like organize my calendar, or if I can find the best budgeting app, or if I can find the best planning agenda, or if I can even buy them the best sales script, then I can make more money, be more productive, um, feel like I have momentum, feel like I’m doing enough.
[00:03:31] And then I’m going to feel better about where my credit card comes. Hands up if you felt that way before. Meanwhile, this is something that she was experiencing. I haven’t quite been there because I’m really anti burnout, but she’d been working 12 hours a day, five days a week. And so in between her full time job and then building her business, she was working all day, every day.
[00:03:56] And when she wasn’t working, She was thinking about her business and she
[00:04:00]felt anxious about it and she felt guilt on the weekends and she felt like she felt like she had to always be online and like she had to like make sure that she wasn’t missing any emails or any opportunities and it’s almost like her brain always had to be on.
[00:04:15] I definitely felt this way at the beginning of my business. Even though I was resting, it was like I was always on thinking about it and there’s a beauty and a passion and like something so beautiful in that. Um, and also. Not so she thought the solution was to be more productive and work less But she would do that and she would feel guilty even when she wasn’t she had already invested in a coaching container for accountability But she ended up feeling distracted She didn’t reach her goals inside of that coaching container and she walked away with a really tense Relationship with the coach and also feeling a lot of shame around that She kind of oscillated between blaming herself and blaming the coach and the coaching container.[00:05:00]
[00:05:00] She thought that if she could make the coach fix something, then she would feel better. And then somehow her problems would go away. And there’s nothing wrong with this. I’m not here to, to shame or to blame. That’s not where we’re coming from. It’s just bringing awareness to certain thought patterns that we have, because it is that awareness that gives you the point, the decision point to change.
[00:05:23] Now, you can focus on perfectly planning. You can focus on being more productive. You can focus on choosing, um, to have somebody take responsibility for something that may or may not be their responsibility. That is fine. If that’s where you have capacity for. So you’re going to know if you have capacity for it.
[00:05:42] If what I’m about to present to you just feels like way too much. Hmm. Okay. Wait a second. You will know that you have capacity for it. If perhaps you just haven’t done it before and you haven’t learned the wisdom from taking the short term solutions or short term surface level approaches, [00:06:00]there’s a desire to like, give it a go.
[00:06:01] If you want to give it a go, give it a go. You’re probably going to end up back here at some point, but it might be with a different level of wisdom. So give it a go. I trust you. The people who end up working with me find that the downfall of the surface level short term pollution is that you do not get to the root of the problem or the energetic nervous system level, orientation, because your nervous system kind of orients to different things, thinking that that will provide it safety or alleviate its pain orienting to the problem.
[00:06:31] And you will either eventually return back to the deeper work, or you will mentally and physically burn out completely. And. Shut everything down and completely avoid it and ignore it. This is detailed inside of my father wound flow chart, which if you would like a copy of, you can DM me on Instagram, uh, to receive this father wound flow chart.
[00:06:54] Today’s. Podcast episode is inspired from the father wound flow chart, which [00:07:00] details how your father wound might be impacting your income and your business and what you will gain by healing it to receive that. Send me a DM on Instagram. However, you don’t need that. to get the most out of the rest of the podcast.
[00:07:13] It’s just like a helpful visual to have, particularly if you’re a visual person like myself. So option two is to actually go really deep in and heal the unique father wound. I want you to think of your father wound, not necessarily in that your dad did something or failed to do something, although that may be the case for you.
[00:07:32] It’s rather the way that your nervous system relates to every, anything that we might call Masculine, masculine energy. It’s seen in different ways, uh, depending on the school of teaching and the lineage. But I think of it as anything that tends to be more solar, more active, a little bit more outward energy.
[00:07:54] It tends to have something to do with provision. So being provided for, being, [00:08:00] um, Sorry, protected as well. It also has everything to do with containers and communication. Like container would be a period of time. This is the, the hour in which I’m going to record podcasts. You might have a, you might have an opinion about your structure.
[00:08:18] It’s structures. It’s kind of that like, Scaffolding of our life, as well as all of this solar actions that are more action oriented. It’s kind of like the hunting and the doing and the productivity and moving towards goals and, and decisiveness and protecting yourself, protecting your abysm. Anyway, once again, this is detailed a little bit more on that flow chart.
[00:08:38] So when you engage in anything that is related to this divine masculine. Performance, productivity, goals, strength, decisiveness, protection, your nervous system, if it has a wounded relationship with though that archetype or those actions, it defaults into a protective or a fear based [00:09:00]mechanism. And instead it becomes preoccupied with looking for love and safety.
[00:09:04] Gabor’s Mate Book Scattered Minds is a wonderful supportive resource that details this, um, a little bit more, , it is important for you to understand that your nervous system has an understanding of these things and its default way to look for love and face, love and safety is not just based.
[00:09:26] On what has happened in your life, your nervous system holds seven generations about what is safe and what is not about how to get love and how to get not about how to be provided for and how not to be about how to feel protected and how not to, about how to be productive and how not to. Therefore it is reacting not only to the moments in your personal life where you may have been hurt, abused, traumatized, disrespected, invalidated, but also By the masculine, all of these solar things, all of these action oriented things,
[00:10:00]but seven generations prior, seven generations prior.
[00:10:07] And so because you are, In embodied entrepreneurship, because you’re looking to cultivate a sense of embodied safety and unconditional loves or support in your nervous system so that you can then access the positive life affirming qualities of the masculine. You’re going to want to listen on like how to heal.
[00:10:30] What we’re calling the father wound, because when you access this embodied safety, unconditional love, your nervous system gets to take on these healthy, um, qualities of the masculine. And it allows you to experience things such as. My client finished with me and we have like an intake form. At the end, we do like a celebration call and it writes kind of like, what are your biggest three aha moments of our time together?
[00:10:57] And she literally wrote, paying my bills [00:11:00] and dealing with my credit card is basically a non event. It just feels like I’m supported. And I just haven’t really even thought about it in the last three months yet before we had anxiety. Now we don’t think about it. She said, I’m investing my savings and I feel like I know what I’m doing.
[00:11:13] I feel super, super safe seeing my cash gain returns in the stock market and also see the way that it’s supporting me in my personal and professional life. That’s a big deal. And the way that we’ve done that, and the way that I’m going to share how to do that with you, there’s a couple of steps. First, you were going to want to uncover your unique flavor of your father wound and create a healing environment in which it can find the love and safety that it’s been looking for.
[00:11:43] And when we do that, your symptoms immediately start disappearing. It’s not like a joke. It might be too good to be true, but it’s like, we don’t need the symptoms because the symptoms were a protective mechanism because there’s nothing to protect because we have a supportive environment inside symptoms, no longer necessary.[00:12:00]
[00:12:00] And you learn how to marry courage, focus, action, and discipline with safety, flow, and love inside of you and outside of you. These unique flavors of the father wound sometimes feel like, um, not believing in yourself because like one time you told your dad about something and he didn’t believe in you, feeling like you can’t do it, feeling like, I’m really confused, I don’t know how to do this.
[00:12:23] Um, also burning out and like, just like doing so much work, like those 12 hour days or trying to get everything perfect or being a little bit passive aggressive or feeling like there’s an urgency all of the time or feeling super, super scattered. Like you’re doing all of the things all of the time and like you just feel scattered and you can’t focus enough to create momentum.
[00:12:45] It’s not fun. This is the first step, understanding your new, unique flavor of your father wound of your wound within the divine masculine. And I’m going to share exactly how to do that inside of the free live embodiment practice called how to [00:13:00] sustainably make money as an entrepreneur. I’m really excited about this practice.
[00:13:04] We recently did an embodiment practice for a very small circle of mostly my one on one clients. And. The level of transformation inside of that 20 minutes is so beautiful. , everyone walks away with a little piece of different wisdom and it’s particularly wonderful because like, we’re not just doing like another masterclass or another thing.
[00:13:23] Like you guys have signed up for a lot of stuff for a really long time. Like we’re kind of over it. I don’t want to just like, Pitch you some random thing. No, we’re going to get in our bodies. It is such a gift to be able to share these things with you. It’s one of my favorite things to do, to be moving, to have music, to have breath.
[00:13:38] It’s the coolest fricking thing. Um, everyone walks away so happy with it and I’m so blessed to be able to just share it. So very excited to share it. It’s an embodiment practice on August 12th. You will find all of the information that you need inside of the show notes to sign up and let’s focus on that first.
[00:13:57] Let’s focus on understanding your flavor of the [00:14:00]father wound. If you can focus on understanding that for the next couple of weeks, then we’re going to work with how to address the deeper unconscious somatic patterns that are creating urine symptoms, and then how to find your healthy masculine expression, like what that looks like and how to marry flow with structure.
[00:14:20] Um, what burnout feels like and how to avoid it, but still be an active person. Action, um, how to feel power, how to feel, how to take away your sense of, um, running away from pain and therefore maybe avoiding some of your work. We’re talking deep, long lasting solutions, and it all begins with the embodiment practice, how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur.