The answer to lack of motivation isn’t to go looking for it. It’s to go underneath, down into the engrained nervous system patterns creating your slump.
You’ll walk away from this episode:
- Clear on how lack of motivation can relate to the father wound/ divine masculine and providing you with a profound, lasting solution.
- Knowing how to alleviate these motivation slumps through deep, actionable insights that are grounded and long-lasting.
- Able to cultivate a healthier, more focused approach to your entrepreneurial journey, leading to better emotional and financial stability.
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TRANSCRIPT:
[00:00:00] You’re trying really hard to increase your income. You’ve tried all the things and your motivation is a waning. I’m not about to give you some quick, cute pep talk. I’m about to give you something that creates deeper, lasting results. You that have so that you have less of these moments in the rest of your career.
[00:00:16] By the end of this episode, you will know why this slump or this lack of motivation is feeling so intense. I know that you can tell that it’s something deeper than slump. What you’ve been looking at so far, and you’re going to understand how that relates to your understanding to the divine masculine, and you’re going to have a solution.
[00:00:52] To alleviate your lack of motivation in a way that is deep, grounded, [00:01:00]long lasting and actionable from today.
[00:01:03] I get it. You’re doing a lot of things. You’re probably like creating or working really hard to create really good content. Maybe you’ve hired a VA. Uh, maybe you’ve joined like a program because you wanted accountability because you were lacking focus. Maybe you’re really focusing on getting the right for you.
[00:01:19] funnel. Uh, maybe you’re starting to feel like a tension between, okay, I need to like get some things done. I need to bring in some income and it’s starting to feel really unsupportive. Maybe you’ve been in this for a couple of years or maybe you’re starting out, but either way, you, you just feel like something is off and maybe you resonate with having ADHD or maybe you resonate with having a past of trauma.
[00:01:49] Maybe you don’t, but what you do know is that things tend to go better when you focus on a holistic approach. That sounds like you keep listening. If it doesn’t, you may not be in the right
[00:02:00] place. I love you anyway. So I am a somatic trauma therapist and I specialize in working with entrepreneurs. And if you’re feeling these things and you’re pulled to this episode, I can tell you that possibly most likely your business might be activating your father wound or at least some sticky dynamics that you have around.
[00:02:21] Money or action. We’re looking at one of the two and the more that you and I get to know each other And the more that you listen to this content the more that you come to the master classes Then we chat on DMS and the more it the easier it’s going to be to differentiate Which it is but some of them most of the symptoms are really Overlapping.
[00:02:40] I’m going to name some of the most common symptoms of a trigger father wound or some ickiness around money. And I’m going to be referencing the same ones that I have on side of the father wound flow chart. If you do not have the father wound flow chart, and you’d like to follow along with a visual support for this podcast episode, please leave me a message on Instagram.
[00:02:59] Just [00:03:00] saying a flow chart and I’ll get that to you. You don’t need it to listen to the rest of the podcast. Okay. I just really like, you know, I’m a visual person, so I appreciate it when people also share their, their podcast notes, which is essentially what that flowchart is. It’s the most comprehensive way that I’ve shown that I’ve seen that shows how we can get to the deeper root cause of the reasons why we’re experiencing these symptoms.
[00:03:24] I’m calling them symptoms. I don’t know how you feel about that word, whatever. Anyway, so some of the common symptoms of a father wound or a triggered attachment style around money is that you are attracting codependent coaching relationships. So you’re placing your sense of success or work worth on how your clients respond, or you feel really responsible for their results.
[00:03:44] Maybe you find them, maybe you find yourself getting triggered when they’re kind of sharing a lot of information with you, and it feels like boundaries are kind of broken. Missed like mixed. It’s difficult to hold boundaries. Maybe you have difficulty focusing or restlessness [00:04:00] and you might have a bit of a weird, I don’t want to say weird, but like a difficult relationship with goals and discipline, meaning that at the end of the month, you often don’t actually achieve what you desire.
[00:04:12] And it feels like you’re kind of almost behind. Perhaps you’re the type of person who jumps to solve problems in the future. You’re already thinking about what could go wrong in September, in the middle of June, maybe. Maybe you tend to be a little bit of a perfectionist. You want to be perfect. You want the people around you to be perfect.
[00:04:37] Your content has to be perfect. If you have a, uh, assistant, maybe you tend to micromanage or you struggle to delegate or you’re just doing everything all by yourself because you’re worried you’re kind of living under that. If you want it right, do it yourself type thing. Um, or you struggle to get things done because they’re, they’re not right.
[00:04:55] You work a lot, you push yourself, you work till exhaustion, you struggle to know [00:05:00] when to rest. You Feeling okay, resting. And you also tend to use energy on things that do not have a high, um, ROI. So don’t give you a good return on your energetic investment. It’s a lot of the time that’s like implementing every thought that you have.
[00:05:16] If you’re a healing person, you like, like to heal and you’ve been in the healing space for a while, you probably have been following and staying on this healing hamster wheel and often prioritizing working through your triggers and emotions at the expense of action that supports your dreams. Not saying we need to be avoidant about it, but there is also like a healthy level of boundaries around healing versus doing some of the work.
[00:05:44] Other symptoms might include not having a healthy sense of confidence to pursue your dreams. So you feel incapable. You feel like you couldn’t, you shame yourself. You’re like, I should have been further along by now. I don’t know if I can do this. She can do it. But like, could I, it’s feels [00:06:00]really hard to like, Yeah, it just feels like impossible.
[00:06:03] Sometimes you also might be hypersensitive or hyper vigilant to other people’s actions. What did they do? Did they click on this? What did they say? I had this call with this person, but she hasn’t emailed me in three months or three weeks or three days. What does that mean? Um, maybe you like check your engagement like every day or check your analytics.
[00:06:21] Um, you’re like checking your income goal really regularly and it’s not coming from a place in my apartment. It’s like you’re scared. You also might be ready to give up. And you might have thoughts like either I sign this client or I do the business or either I make 5k this week or I do, or I just give up.
[00:06:39] You might also have a sticky relationship with social media, meaning like you do those hiatuses or you like delete the app every couple of days or you do a mass unfollowing. Um, maybe you feel like triggered when you look, you can’t open your app without feeling triggered or you feel like people are going to judge you.
[00:06:59] Um, let’s look [00:07:00] at exactly how and why these things are happening for many people. It’s because your father wound or your divine masculine wound, or we can use different words. It’s all the underlying nervous system orientation and the way that the way that we use the words changes how each person responds.
[00:07:21] And I want you to use words that are empowering for you, but essentially what’s happening is that you’re engaging in things that are related to that. more active activities and activities that relate to performance productivity goals, strength, decisiveness protection,
[00:07:37] because your nervous system isn’t really sure how and how to access the healthier qualities. Of that, such as focus, such as, um, diligence, such as discipline, such as internal boundaries. Okay. We’re not going to do that right now. We’re going to do that at 5 p. m. Okay. That’s a really great idea. We don’t need to act on
[00:08:00] it.
[00:08:00] Look at that. Okay. Speak to yourself with love because you’re struggling to access that. You’re struggling to create a sense of embodied safety and unconditional love. And you’re struggling to have the energy inside to be motivated. Yeah. This isn’t about you not listening to an a podcast or not being disciplined enough.
[00:08:18] This is because your nervous system is looking to other things for safety and it’s preoccupied. with what your friends think of you, what other people think of you. It’s preoccupied with your relationships. It’s preoccupied with, , your analytics, like searching for, uh, superficial Signposts of safety and validation and love.
[00:08:48] We want social media to be like this. I think if I perfect this thing, then it will be like this. If I, uh, it would feel really constrictive to not act on all of my ideas. [00:09:00] It would feel really, really scary if my engagement wasn’t great. And if every reel didn’t do great, so I have to spend two hours on it.
[00:09:06] It would feel really, really scary if I wasn’t perfect. So I need to heal myself before I can send out this next email. Because your body doesn’t have anybody sense of safety and unconditional love. When you have that sense of safety and unconditional love, you adore your clients. You don’t have hard clients.
[00:09:25] Goals are exciting and joyful. You have that energy of achievement. It follows you around. You’re so present and appreciative your entire life. You don’t have to think so much about the future and you can put energy into your business. You’re not worried about being perfect. You’re very happy to go out and be imperfective, imperfect without sacrificing your high standards.
[00:09:44] So you have more satisfaction and less stress. It becomes easier to get your tasks done because you’re focused on them. And then you disconnect and there’s no push. You just disconnect and like, go do other things. And you also have the discerning and the wisdom and [00:10:00] analytical thinking to pinpoint your focus, identify the actions that have the highest return on investment, and then put your creativity into that.
[00:10:08] And while your interest in self development doesn’t necessarily waver, it’s not like you need to spend hours in your emotions. Instead, you balance them with decisive action, and so you’re able to feel the depth of the beauty of who you are and your emotions, but also make tangible process towards your dreams.
[00:10:26] There’s this deep sense of equanimity, and I’m safe, and I’m capable, and I’m grounded that, like, literally, it’s like, Eat seeds into your bones so that you can respond to other people’s actions or even your business’s needs, engagement, analytics, marketing, all of that stuff with commerce. You can say goodbye to thoughts about giving up and hello to creative problem solving where you get to have your beautiful business, your expression, your legacy and financial stability.
[00:10:54] You don’t find motivation by looking for motivation. You go underneath. You [00:11:00] find your unique flavor of the father wound. You create. love and support inside. And so then all of these ups and downs, they get to dissipate. But how, how do you do that today?
[00:11:14] What do you do with that today? You’re going to do two things. The first thing you’re going to do is you’re going to click down below and you’re going to sign up for how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur. I’m going to teach you anybody in my practice that is going to help you. alleviate the, um, slumps, sales slumps and emotional ups and downs that can come or lack of motivation that can come. Then. You’re going to start thinking about what would unconditional positive regard unconditional love for myself in all moments? What would that look and feel like? There’s a part of you that judges, there’s a part of you that wants to be perfect, there’s a part of you that analyzes. Can you zoom out and love that part of you?
[00:11:53] Can you zoom out and And for positive regard towards that part of you practice that [00:12:00] I’m really curious to know how that lands. This is usually something that I would share inside of a coaching call. So I’m curious to know how it lands. Practice that. Let me know if it feels accessible. Let me know if it feels doable.
[00:12:10] We’re in this together and I’m here to support you guys in your journey to the best of my abilities. So this is a collaboration and a relationship between us both. So let me know how that lands. And if it’s supportive, maybe something else to be supportive. We have options. I’ll see you inside of how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur.
[00:12:28] So much love to you.