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10 Ways I Regulate My Nervous System For Profitable Business, Stress And Anxiety Relief

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Overwhelmed? Busy? Still building a profitable business? Try these 10 ways I’m regulating my nervous system as business gets busier and life gets crazier. 

As the year wraps up and things get hectic, it’s very important you have easy tools you’ll actually use to allow you to work on and in your business with ease.

In this episode, you’ll discover:


10 effective techniques to regulate your nervous system, paving the way for financial success, creativity, and well-being.

 

A better understanding of how to leverage sunlight, deep breaths, physical touch, vocal toning, dance, and more to thrive in both your personal and professional life.

You can start using these tools today. Click play.

 

Recommended episode 62: How to Make Money During Emotional Rollercoasters

 

 

TRANSCRIPT:

 

[00:00:00] Sheridan: These are the 10 specific ways that I am regulating my nervous system as a business life gets a lot busier by the end of this episode, you will know the three key things to do if you are managing the roller coasters of life, as well as 10 a. m. Easy things that you can do today that will regulate your nervous system so that you can bring in more income and ease.

 

[00:00:43] And stay till the end because I have an important message from my heart to yours.

 

[00:00:49] This episode will be released around Christmas and holidays are happening. It’s the end of the year. People are getting really, really busy. So these are things that I [00:01:00] want to encourage you to use literally today as you manage the busyness or the roller coaster of your life.

 

[00:01:07] Because the truth of the matter is no matter how. Much you’re feeling right now when you’re experiencing busyness or roller coasters in life It doesn’t actually need to equal less income. What it means is that more support is needed I have built this business by doing while doing some really crazy things.

 

[00:01:29] I traveled for four months all around Australia I healed some really intense complex trauma almost alone. I have been through so many dark nights of a soul a lot Of them I don’t know if it’s the, yeah, it’s just a lot of them and I’ve packed my bags and left for new countries many different times.

 

[00:01:51] I have lived through tragedy, I’ve cried, I’ve laughed, I’ve learned, I’ve spent a lot of time watching Netflix and [00:02:00] looking into the eyes of my loved ones on sunny days in soft grass. I have studied, I have loved, I have let go, I have trusted, I have braced from fear and I have lived all of the colors of life in between.

 

[00:02:13] I never, ever, ever, ever, ever have I let my desire to live a full life mean that my business cannot support me in it. No. It means I support myself and I support my business and then that business supports me. So right now, I’m transitioning. You’re transitioning. My book is in the works of getting published.

 

[00:02:38] And I spent five hours dancing last night. And regulation has just become so such an important part of my business plan. And the reason that we do this is so that we can enter into this space where the better it. Gets the better it gets. And if you’re sitting in a lot of anxiety right now, that might not even feel, , may not feel very tangible.

 

[00:02:57] It may not feel very real. I want you to know that that’s [00:03:00] okay. And it’s part of the process. And if you’re in the place where you’re like, Oh yeah, I’m getting to that juicy place where it’s getting really good. Uh, you can still use these tips. They apply for you at both levels. So let’s go down into the 10, the 10 things that I am doing to regulate my nervous system in this really crazy stage.

 

[00:03:18] of business. Yay. Oh, guys, I just really love, I just, I’m really happy and I love my life. Yeah. Anyway. Okay. Number one, spending time in the sun. Why? Basically because sunlight actually triggers the release of serotonin, uh, which is a mood regulating neurotransmitter. That means that it makes you feel good.

 

[00:03:40] It is very regulating to the nervous system. And what this does is it creates a sense of wellbeing and it helps minimize anxiety. If you tend towards more of a freeze nervous system state, meaning that you find it really easy to get like lethargic and overwhelmed and going to shame or judgment things, or you just feel heavy and like you can’t get [00:04:00] things done.

 

[00:04:00] I really recommend spending as much time in the sun as you can, particularly if you can just getting sun on your skin and sun in your eyes. If you can do it within the first 15 minutes of waking up, not through a window. You would be winning. I do not do that, and I’m still a very happy person, but if you could do that, like, five gold stars.

 

[00:04:22] Number two, taking three baths before looking at my phone. Look, I’ll be honest, I don’t do this every single time, but I do do it more often at the moment and I try to be more mindful of it, just being aware that I’m in like a really big transition period. And the reason that we do that is that When you take really big, deep breaths, what you do is you kind of turn on the branch of the nervous system.

 

[00:04:46] That’s called the parasympathetic nervous system. This is the rest and digest nervous system. So just taking those three breaths, it just creates a sense of calm. And it is more likely to take you out of a fight, a flight or a freeze [00:05:00] response, which can be stimulated both by the phone. And you could also try to use sometimes what we use.

 

[00:05:07] Let me articulate that better. Sometimes we use our phone to avoid feeling something that we’re feeling because it’s really uncomfortable or our body perceives it as unsafe. So by taking these three deep breaths, what we actually do is we become more mindful about like, what am I feeling? And this decrease, and we start processing what we’re actually feeling, which in the longterm decreases feelings of overwhelm.

 

[00:05:32] Sometimes what also happens is that when we look at our phone, it’s a lot of stimuli, right? And our nervous system can actually perceive that to be really dangerous. But maybe it’s also very hypnotizing in that it can kind of put us into this trance state where we almost can’t pull ourselves away from the phone.

 

[00:05:49] And so by taking these three deep breaths, what we’re doing is we’re kind of counteracting any Stress or a discomfort that might already be in the system as [00:06:00] well as anything that we might experience By looking at the phone and engaging in all of the stimuli of the phone. Sound good? Okay, number three I’ve been cuddling with my cat so much my I have two beautiful cats and I have one who I have a really particular bond with she’s She’s my baby, you know, if you guys have had cats, you just have that like what animals, you know, where you just have that really deep bond.

 

[00:06:26] This is my beautiful, lovely cat. And I’ve been really prioritizing cuddling with her. Because I enjoy it, but I enjoy it because , what it does is it releases oxytocin which is a stress reducing hormone. And it’s this really natural way of soothing your nervous system. So I’ve been really just enjoying those times and taking up space to cuddle with her unapologetically and without judging myself.

 

[00:06:54] Because I know that in the long term it… Gives me a regulated nervous system, which helps me [00:07:00] access my intuition, which helps me access my creativity, which helps me access, perspective and helps you move through life in a more easeful way, which makes me like make more money and have better health. It makes sense, right?

 

[00:07:14] It’s a small investment cuddling with my cat in order to reap a lot of benefits. The fourth thing that I’ve been doing, I’ve been doing a little bit more often when it’s just like actually beginning to feel like, Oh, okay, a lot’s going on here. Big emotions, big thoughts, big decisions to be made. And it’s humming low and deep and really locating or kind of putting that home.

 

[00:07:37] deep into my chest. Now that kind of means I put the intention deep in my chest and I try to kind of make a sound or make a hum that sits inside of my chest. What this does is it stimulates the vagus nerve, which is associated with the parasympathetic nervous system. So what it can do is it kind of says to the vagus nerve.[00:08:00]

 

[00:08:00] It does this thing kind of called toning and it says to the vagus nerve, Ooh, Hey, you can go into that state of rest and digest. And when we do this more consistently over a longer period of time, it means that your vagus nerves does something called increased tone, which essentially means that it becomes more resilient and more responsive and kind of helps you flitter between stress responses and a calm response.

 

[00:08:25] It becomes more able to respond to the world in an appropriate way. And so by doing this low and deep hum in your chest, not only are you bringing yourself into a calm and relaxed space so that you can engage with the world with intelligence and responsiveness immediately, but you’re also Increasing your Vegas tone nerve, which over the long term is going to help you feel like make your body more resilient, able to take on more stress or responsibility, uh, in a positive way, in a positive way that says, you know, I’m [00:09:00] really strong and you can maintain that sense of, I’ve got things I can do hard things.

 

[00:09:05] And through that space, access for creativity and, and connectedness with other people. When my other episodes, we talk about why that’s so important when you’re. Build it a business, but I think you can understand like if I’m not anxious and worried, then I tend to get more done, do more things and have deeper connections and sales is what easy, , fifth dancing.

 

[00:09:28] Oh my God. Just movement, especially dancing releases so many endorphins, which just. Regulate the nervous system and boost your mood. It also helps up helps release kind of pent up tension and stress So if you feel like you have a lot going on just getting into your body and having a groove Having a dance is amazing.

 

[00:09:46] You can do this in so many different ways You can do just like a three minute little boogie fest by yourself in your room Or bachata for five hours to the point where I broke my [00:10:00] tennis shoes Both work, both work, choose which one you want. Uh, okay, next one, six, hugging my loved ones. I’ve been doing lots of hugging, I think it helps as well, I, partner dancing helps I get more touch to touch, , and that re, it releases oxytocin, but just hugging your loved ones and like taking, I think it’s nine seconds the nervous system needs to really feel the oxytocin and release oxytocin from a hug.

 

[00:10:30] Connecting with your friends and your family and your partner and I and I really specified loved ones, you know, I think it’s really good to Connect with just one person and maybe you and your partner can have a nice cuddle But for me what’s really been very impactful and resourcing for me and helped me felt feel more um safe in my body And safe in my life.

 

[00:10:52] And it’s really helped me heal a lot of like interpersonal trauma that I had around connecting or being seen or being loved or being [00:11:00] seemed as worthy is like actually hugging a lot of my friends and creating a culture where. My friends and I hug each other or grab each other by the arm and, and, and have that sense of physical connection.

 

[00:11:13] And it’s been really, really healing for me, , friends, sisters, sisters, girlfriends and boyfriends, brothers and guys. And it’s been really important. Uh, number seven, sweating at the gym. So basically. Exercise increases endorphins, exercise, reduce, reduce the stress and anxiety, , and getting a good sweat in not only does it bring in these endorphins and gives you that biochemical response of , I can, like, it feels good.

 

[00:11:40] , what it also does is it increases your capacity of , of being able to say, Oh, I can do really hard things. I remember I had a knee injury when I was a teenager and I was told that I was never. Going to be able to run again. And I didn’t run for a really long time, but the other week, uh, my trainer was like, I want you to run for 10 minutes at this speed.

 

[00:11:59] And I looked at [00:12:00] him and I was like, Freddie. What the hell is he? You can do it. And I was like, and this is the power of having a coach. He was like, you can do it. I believe in you. And I would never have done it if it wasn’t for him, I would have said, you know, my injury, whatever I did it. I did it. Like I ran and I haven’t ran it for 10 years.

 

[00:12:17] And the reason I did it was because my coach was like, you could do it. And he was right. I could do it. Uh, and it just increases this ability of I can do hard things. Whenever you overcome a challenge, particularly with your body, you get the embodied experience of I can do hard things. And we’d like that because it increases their capacity to be in a regulated nervous system space.

 

[00:12:44] in front of stress. Exercise is stress. It can be perceived as dangerous, but when you do it and you stay in your breath and you stay in your body, you come out the other side and your body has this entire experience of , [00:13:00] Oh, that seemed really impossible and it seemed really scary and it actually wasn’t.

 

[00:13:04] I did it. Go me. We want more of those experiences because then what we can do is we can kind of transplant them onto business. And when you’re worried about , I don’t know, a sales pitch or posting on Instagram or writing an email, you can transfer that feeling of, I can do really hard things to the business.

 

[00:13:25] Fun. Number eight, crying. So your nervous system is basically holding a lot of energy all of the time and , we need to discharge that energy and if we don’t, it becomes too much for the, for the capacity of your nervous system and we go into a stress response, fight, flight, or freeze. That energy can be kind of a biochemical experience from an external stimuli such as like, I feel like I need to run away from a bear, but [00:14:00] it can, and it can also be the biochemical experience of emotions.

 

[00:14:03] So when there’s a lot of. Emotional energy pent up in the system, your nervous system now has less capacity because it’s holding all of this emotional energy, right? So some, one of the ways that the body actually releases the hormones and neurotransmitters and all of like the energy that the body is holding is through crying.

 

[00:14:27] Sometimes when we cry, it, it has a story. Like I’m specifically crying for X, Y, Z reason. And sometimes it doesn’t. Um, we don’t actually need to know necessarily why we feel like we’re crying or why we are crying. What we need to do is notice the desire to cry and let that come out through the body. What happens then is we complete the response, the emotional response that needed to occur when the original stimulus that created the response to cry occurred.

 

[00:14:57] Sometimes that’s something literally happened right [00:15:00] now and I feel like I need to cry. And sometimes when we’re doing a lot of this work is An experience that we had 20 years ago or that our mother had in the womb that wasn’t transferred onto us needs to be completed through our tears. And it’s just kind of only coming out now.

 

[00:15:18] So I want to encourage you if you find yourself with this idea of crying, not to judge it or necessarily even connect a story to it, but just allow your body to have that emotional expression. Right? What it then does is through that release, it kind of resets the nervous system and says, okay, cool.

 

[00:15:36] Stress response completed. Let’s go back to normal. Then you have a more regulated nervous system and you can go do life and do business. Number nine, , switching coffee for tea. So kind of failed at that this week, but it’s been something that I’ve been doing now for a couple of months. And if you had said this to me a few months ago, I would have been like, what the hell?

 

[00:15:56] No, I’d never quit coffee. But. I have found, , and [00:16:00] it’s been for a couple of different reasons, but I’ve just found that by consuming less coffee, I just have more energy and my nervous system feels more calm and I am more in touch with kind of the truth of what I’m feeling inside of my body, whether it’s what emotions or energy or intuition.

 

[00:16:19] And It’s just because coffee stimulates the nervous system. It brings in this artificial activation and that can increase anxiety and it can also mask your intuition and your connection with the real energy inside of your body. When you switch that for tea, it has a calming effect. A lot of them have a calming effect and it can reduce anxiety.

 

[00:16:40] But more importantly for me, it’s just, it’s less, most teas are the ones that I’ve been have less of a, uh, Activation on the body. It has less, it’s less impactful and so it helps me really feel into like the truth of what my body is [00:17:00] experiencing, the level of energy it has, its needs, its emotions, its desires, its, you know, intuitive voices.

 

[00:17:07] The tenth and the last is noticing but not changing my breath. So, It’s just connecting with the breath. Nervous system regulation. I’m going to say this. When you listen to this, if you take anything away from this podcast, this is it. Nervous system regulation is about connection, not about control.

 

[00:17:26] Nervous system regulation is about connection, not about control. So when I want to regulate my nervous system by simply connecting to the breath, I start becoming more present. It reduces anxious thoughts. It brings me back to the moment and it helps me access a different state of awareness, a different state of consciousness that anchors me into my body and then allows me to move forward with life and business.

 

[00:17:54] Hmm. So I’ve given you a 10 pick one, pick one, pick one, pick one and allow [00:18:00] yourself to play with it. Don’t try to pick all of it. Pick one because you are doing an amazing job. I know you are. If you’re listening all the way down to the end of this podcast, you are doing an amazing job and I know that sometimes it is hard.

 

[00:18:13] And I know that sometimes you doubt yourself and I know that sometimes you get caught up in your own self judgment and your shame cycles. And I know that sometimes you are really, really hard on yourself or you have really, really high expectations. And I want you to know that that’s all normal and that’s all okay.

 

[00:18:29] And you have a vehicle inside of your body that literally wants to work with you to create all of the dreams and desires on your heart. We just need to learn how to drive that vehicle. And by practicing just one of these. Just pick one of them. Don’t try to pick all of them. Pick one. You are going to learn so much more about driving your specific life vehicle, both in business and in relationships and in every single thing [00:19:00] that you’ve ever done in your entire life.

 

[00:19:02] And that is what I am here to help you with. Good work today. Sending you. So, so, so much love. If you would like to take this a little bit further, I want you to go back and just go back to the other podcast number 62, which is called how to make money during emotional rollercoasters. It’s, it’s a nice little story about one of my clients who has gone through one of the biggest, most difficult parts of her life.

 

[00:19:33] And in the meantime, she booked and fully booked her first. Program. Her first group program. So really freaking awesome. You are going to love it. I’ll make sure that you have the link below in the show notes and be kind to yourself. [00:20:00]

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Embodied Entrepreneur: Anxiety-Free & Profitable Business By Healing Trauma With The Nervous System By Sheridan Ruth Dec 07, 2023

Are Avoidance And Distraction Damaging Your Sales? Trauma Healing For Profitable, Nervous System Friendly Business

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Are you struggling to distinguish between genuine productivity and mere busyness, feeling stuck in avoidance and distraction loops?

 

Inspired by the incredible journey of my client Laura, you’ll learn 3 steps to break free from avoidance patterns impacting your productivity, sales and success. Laura’s story mirrors the challenges many of us face—being busy but not necessarily productive, battling anxiety, and yearning for ease in life and business.

By tuning in, you’ll gain three key benefits:

Learn a 3 step process to navigate distractions and get out of your head.

Understand how regulating your nervous system can lead to increased income, decreased anxiety, and enhanced ease in both personal and professional realms.

And discover how embodying your authentic self not only fosters productivity but also transforms your sales approach, making it genuine, stress-free, and something you can be proud of.

Your next steps:

 

Get Regulated:

Start regulating your nervous system in the moments of each day when you have little time, space and privacy. Do this by downloading my Nervous System Regulation PDF where you’ll learn how nervous system regulation/dysregulation looks in your mind, body and habits, and exactly how to return to a grounded, calm space – so you can get it all done.

 

Download the Nervous System Cheat Sheet.https://pages.sheridanruth.com/nervoussystem

 

Listen to the next episode:

 

33: How Geri Went From Self-Doubt & Anxiety to Self-Expression & Success

Feeling stuck, unsure and doubting yourself, your process and your decisions in business? Before Geri and I started working together she was too:

Lacking the confidence to execute and take action in her business (despite really dedicating herself to the work)

Feeling unsure about what she needed to actually do or create in her business to keep the needle moving forward.

Feeling stagnant and unfulfilled in her self-expression and voice

Now, months into Body Based Business she has:

Increased confidence in her skills and speciality and started feeling grounded in her work and niche (without trying to niche!)

Easily identify and execute ONLY the most effective actions in her business so she could make a simple structure that lets her rest and reach her full potential.

Feeling grounded in her own voice, self-expression and expression in her business

 

This podcast will share how she’s done it – so that you can too. It’ll also answer questions like “what’s it like to work with you?” and “why should I pick Body Based Business over other opportunities?”

 

 

TRANSCRIPT:

 

[00:00:00] Today, you’re going to learn about how to know if avoidance and distraction is damaging your sales, your productivity, and your business. By the end of this episode, you will have learned from a wonderful client of mine, Laura, how to know when you are distracting yourself, when you are avoiding yourself and exactly what to do and how to bring that into a place of productivity.

 

[00:00:40] Where you can do the actions that you need to do in order to bring in more income, decrease your anxiety and increase your ease in your life and in your business.

 

[00:00:50] So we really need to celebrate one of my amazing clients. Her name is Laura. She’s inspired this episode as well as some of the other conversations that I’ve been having with you guys [00:01:00] around how to make sure that you are, moving the needle in your business. I remember if you guys listen back.

 

[00:01:07] Oh, I can’t remember which episode it is, but I’ll link it below an episode with Jerry, one of the reasons that she joined body based business was because she wasn’t really sure how to prioritize all of the tasks that she had to do in her business to pick the, to focus her energy on the things that would actually.

 

[00:01:25] Move the needle forward and create income. And so this is something that I worked on with her. It’s also something that I work on with so many of my clients. So if you’re listening to this, you’re probably one of the people who’s like, okay, I have so many things that I need to do. Um, and you’re probably pretty good at keeping yourself busy.

 

[00:01:45] , but sometimes it doesn’t necessarily lead to income and sometimes it leads to an anxiety. So. We’re going to use a recent example with my beautiful client and friend, Laura, to help you

 

[00:02:00] break your distraction patterns and break your avoidance patterns so that you can bring in some more sales, bring in some more income, bring in some more ease.

 

[00:02:09] First thing that we need to know is that when Laura and I began working together, she was navigating some pretty significant, both professional and personal transitions. One of our biggest goals when we started working together was to integrate this new version of herself. She kind of uncovered this new version, had been doing a lot of healing and self reflection, especially around her career and the complexities of her personal life.

 

[00:02:33] And she knew what she really wanted and she was like, okay, cool. How do I take This realization and make sure that I’m integrating that into all of the little actions of my, both my personal life and my professional life. One of our key focuses was increasing her capacity to connect with her body from a sense of calmness and learning to feel her emotions instead of either intellectualizing them or distracting herself from them.

 

[00:03:00] [00:03:01] We’ve had two sessions so far and she is. Already teaching this stuff in a really, really wonderful way. And that’s why I want to share and celebrate because she’s teaching it in a way that, yeah, I think you guys will enjoy. So the other day she caught herself trying to avoid a feeling. She was feeling really like scattered and she’d also been feeling anxious and having some trouble sleeping and things that just felt like a bit off, right? She was feeling super scatterbrained and distracted. So she thought I’ll go sit and I’ll work. That makes sense, right? I have this to do list that I want to work through. But she was sitting down and she just felt like she couldn’t concentrate. . She decided in that moment to do something that her and I had been discussing, that she had been learning from me she actually messaged me and said, Hey, do you have any tips for when you’re feeling distracted?

 

[00:03:51] I was not on my phone, I didn’t answer. But 20 minutes later she messaged and she was like, actually, no, don’t worry. I’ve worked through it.

 

[00:04:00] But also if you want to make a podcast about it, cool. So this has been doing that, but she’d already worked through it. And so I’m going to share how she worked through it [00:04:06] what she actually did. It was she posted on her story in Instagram what she did. I’m going to read it to you. She said, I thought I would send a share example of me getting safe in my body from this morning. I was sitting at the table, half writing in my journal, half doing things on incident, and I realized I was in a distraction mode. There’s something I didn’t want to feel. I use Sheridan’s cheat sheet to see what state my nervous system was in, because honestly, I’m still learning how to identify this stuff and the way I could respond to myself to regulate.

 

[00:04:36] I worked out I needed to move the tense feeling in, of, in and out of my body. I stood up and these are the movings that came out, movements that came out. She was kind of doing like a, like a, a little dance type thing. Um, just intuitive movement. And she kind of opened her chest and then closed it and moved her hips a little bit.

 

[00:04:55] By the end, I felt more present and less tense. From there, I asked myself what feelings or

 

[00:05:00] emotions am I trying to distract myself from? What is my body trying to protect me from? Eventually I came to realize that there is some hurt and pain. I tried to then just sit with the hurt and pain and let it be there, not to change it or anything.

 

[00:05:13] After a few moments of that, I got up, jumped around, and now I’ll attempt to move on with my day. And so she did move on with her day and we spoke about it and she was able to get a lot done and she was able to focus. She was able to stop half journaling, stop half Instagramming. Just, and do what she needed to do, um, just by using this really simple process.

 

[00:05:33] So I’ll go through it again. We’ll identify it here together. Number one, she went to the nervous system PDF and decided and looked and said, how can I respond and regulate? So she used the nervous system PDF, which you’ll find the link to down below. Then she realized from that, that she needed to move her body.

 

[00:05:50] So she moved up and moved her body. Then she asked what feelings or emotions am I trying to distract myself from? What is my body trying to protect me? And she realized that she was feeling

 

[00:06:00] hurt and pain. She let the hurt and pain be there. And then she felt like she could get up and move on with the day.

 

[00:06:06] There we go. That was it. So it’s very simple. If you’re in avoidance and distraction, and it is impacting your ease and impacting your profitability, you need to one, regulate your nervous system to identify feelings and emotions. Three. Identify them by asking, what am I trying to avoid? And three, just let them be there.

 

[00:06:25] And that’s it. So you can literally take this process and you can use this very simple process and very supportive nervous system regulation tool so that you can focus on your work so that you can process big emotions and so that your life becomes so much easier and frees up energy to create more profit with less anxiety.

 

[00:06:44] This is. Not just about being productive. This is not just about making sales. Yes, those things are going to happen. This is more about living as the most embodied, happy version of yourself, and then using that freedom to create income and that

 

[00:07:00] authenticity to create sales that feel organic, that you are proud of, and that you can do without stress.

 

[00:07:06] I’m going to leave below in the links, um, the link for the nervous system PDF. You will find it so that you can go and remember the process is number one, how do I need to regulate? What does my body need to? Number two, what feelings am I trying to avoid or what would be really inconvenient to feel right now?

 

[00:07:28] And then number three, feel the sensation of that without trying to get it to go anywhere.

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Embodied Entrepreneur: Anxiety-Free & Profitable Business By Healing Trauma With The Nervous System By Sheridan Ruth Dec 11, 2023

Feeling Pressure Without Anxiety – 1 Skill Every Entrepreneur Needs To Master For Profitable, Nervous System Friendly Business 

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When it feels like it has to happen NOW… so  you’re swept away in stress or procrastination 🙂 

 

The struggle to balance urgency with healthy ambition is a skill embodied entrepreneurs can learn to reach your goals AND feel calm doing so.

In this episode you’ll learn:


The difference between an urgent trauma response and an intuitive, intelligent desire

 

How to balance “I must get things done” with the desirse that expand and stretch you

 

How to manage end of year/month urgency to reach your goals

Recommended next episodes:

Episode 39-43: How Your Nervous System Affects Your Business – Poly Vagal Theory & Stress Relief Training Part 1 – 4

 

The episode where I share what separates you from those who seem to have ‘cracked the code’ of business, and you. I discover the information I share here in a moment of ‘divine desperation,’ I started applying my trauma therapy training and nervous system awareness to business.


This knowledge has helped me, and my clients:


Create sustainable income from your business

 

Build a somatic game plan, a road map, and a structure to support an increase in income, and ease

 

Spend more time taking naps, eating tacos and laying in the sun.

This episode covers the foundations of:


4 places your nervous system influences your business income and impact

 

What Poly Vagal theory is – and what everyone’s missing about it

 

How to start leveraging your nervous system for success – TODAY

 

TRANSCRIPT:
[00:00:00] So how do you move towards your goals and work with timelines without feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or procrastinating? You’re about to find out in this episode, you’re going to learn the difference between an urgent trauma response and an intuitive, intelligent desire,

[00:00:29] how to balance. I must get things done with desires that expand and stretch you and how to manage the end of year, end of month, end of week, urgency to reach your goals.

[00:00:40] A lot of the time when we experience, uh, pressure to, we have a goal essentially, maybe it’s a goal that we have. kind of given ourselves, like you really want to, I don’t know, let’s just say you really want to make 5, 000 this month, or maybe it’s an [00:01:00] external need, expectation or pressure, such as you have to pay rent or your taxes are due, or your kid has to pay for their childcare, something like that.

[00:01:14] Let’s say it’s something like that.

[00:01:18] Our body responds to that either. Internal desire to make 5k this month or the external container to pay your taxes with sensations. It communicates us to us with sensations or certain functions inside of the body, such as your heart beating faster, your digestion changing different amounts of saliva.

[00:01:44] Those sensations are often translated into emotions and then they are taken into the level of. Thoughts. Right. But essentially what they’re coming from is our body. Our vessel of our body is perceiving [00:02:00] through something that we call neuroception, perceiving and taking in information and translating that up to the brain, which then gets translated back down to the body.

[00:02:08] And we have this kind of symbiosis of communication between the two, which then you and I as humans, we experience and observe. Right? So when we’re dealing with things that need to happen, a lot of the time, the things that need to happen, we perceive them through that perception. We end up experiencing a lot of sensation because Of our relationship with that specific thing, right.

[00:02:43] And that relationship is going to change in so many things. And we’ll go into it a little bit, but we end up like, we see that there’s a goal. There’s this goal that has to happen. There’s this thing that has to be done. The end of the year is happening. My friend said something all of a sudden I need to pay rent, or I forgot that I didn’t organize enough money for my taxes, or I want to buy a new [00:03:00] iPhone.

[00:03:00] And so now I feel this sensation come into my body and. A lot of the time what happens is when that is a lot for the body to hold, to experience, and you haven’t, you haven’t practiced holding that specific experience enough for it to be neutral. It tips our body into a stress response. It tips the nervous system into a stress response because it’s like, Oh, that’s a lot.

[00:03:28] That’s a lot. That’s a, that’s an experience. I, this is new. I don’t know how I feel about that. That’s a lot. And when it tips it into the stress response, we can go a couple of different ways. We can go into a fight response, a flight response, or an immobilization response, which is tends to be either a freeze or a fall response.

[00:03:48] So what does this mean? Actually, let’s say it’s like the end of the year. It’s the beginning of December as I’m, as I’m releasing this or mid December as I’m releasing this. Let’s say that you had a specific income that you wanted to make. Um, and [00:04:00] maybe you haven’t made it. So we, we have that experience.

[00:04:03] I’m noticing that numbers are saying this, and this is what I wanted instead. And we have a sensational experience in the body. What happens if that extent, it’s sensational experience in the body goes beyond what our body is, uh, what our nervous system is capable of experiencing in that specific moment, we might go into a fight response.

[00:04:22] So that often looks like. Self critical you’re being you’re criticizing yourself, uh, or you start criticizing other people or you start getting annoyed like it was, there’s a lot of blame often it happened. It didn’t happen because of this. It didn’t happen because of that. We get really frustrated. Um, we can have a lot of self judgment.

[00:04:43] Uh, we can get really critical towards herself. That’s the one that I tend to go towards. I don’t know if you guys do. Uh, we can really step into the not enoughness. part of things. Um, it can be hard. So we have this like criticism come through, right? This [00:05:00] fight energy, this like knife energy is what I call it.

[00:05:02] And it’s like, I have to do this right now. But like, we, we want to kind of move towards and we get that pushy kind of energy. Like I’m going to go do this. I’m going to start thing. My to do list is this long now I’m going to go and I’m going to get this all done. And yeah. And now it’s not. Bad. It’s just to understand your patterns.

[00:05:18] These patterns can sometimes be very helpful, but we want to understand your pattern. So go into this like, eh, fighty energy either towards yourself or towards other people or towards your goal. You’re like, I’m gonna get this done. And then we enter into hustle and then we into burnout. You do work for 12 hours, 10 days straight, and it can be a lot.

[00:05:38] Okay. Oh, that’s just me. No, I’m kidding. Um. Then we can also have flight response. Notice your tendency. A flight response is going to look more like, Oh, I’m just so overwhelmed that all of a sudden I have so many things to do and I’m really scared and I’m anxious and I’m like flitting between the apps in my phone and I’m [00:06:00] half doing things and now it’s really hard for me to focus on something.

[00:06:04] thing, and this is when I get into shiny object syndrome. So I just like abandon all of the goals that I had. And I think if I just, I’m just going to go invest in this thing and I’m going to buy this thing and I’m going to start new, this new hobby, we feel really overwhelmed. And maybe we start talking to our friends a lot because we want to talk.

[00:06:22] This is a lot of talking energy. And it’s just like, Oh my God, there’s so much, it’s just so much, this flight energy. You can be really busy as well in this flight energy. People are really good at keeping themselves busy in the flight and the fight responses. So you can do that. Your body might also go into one of the immobilization response.

[00:06:46] The phone response might look more like kind of this people pleasing, but it’s, it’s with business people pleasing is super sneaky. So it’s like releasing content that you think [00:07:00] people will want. There’s a lot of control. It’s like if I kind of want to like control this person so that they buy from me or, doing what other.

[00:07:08] People what you think other people want from you. So for some of you, that’s going to actually appear as not making money because you perceive that somebody in your life doesn’t want you to, or they’re like, not going to love you. If you do, , for others of you, it’s going to be working in a specific way because I don’t know, like working all day when it doesn’t actually.

[00:07:27] Um, benefit you because you don’t want your partner to think you’re lazy or something like that. Um, we kind of just fall and we start looking to others for reassurance. We start looking to others to make decisions for us and take the lead. The other response is a freeze response where everything is going to feel really heavy.

[00:07:45] Um, and you avoid things that are actually going to help you. You feel really stuck and often hopeless or embarrassed. You’re probably still often moving through the motions, um, but it just feels really, really heavy and not very good. [00:08:00] Sometimes you’re not going to be moving through emotions and you’re going to be in one of those spaces where you like to kind of stay in bed for a couple of days.

[00:08:07] That also happens to some of us. So what’s happened here is that probably you have a desire. You want a new iPhone. You want to make 5k by the end of the month, or you want your income to look a certain way, or you want to pay rent. You have a desire. That’s the desire that a sensation of desire comes into the body.

[00:08:27] Um, and perhaps sensation of fear comes into the body and perhaps sensation of, I don’t know, maybe shame came into the body because you’re realizing you haven’t. Reach your desire, or you’re afraid that you won’t reach your desire, but you actually have this desire. What we need to learn to do is to hold enough desire in the body and its corresponding emotions.

[00:08:48] So if there’s fear wrapped around, or if there’s shame wrapped around it, or whatever it is, or if there’s hope and excitement wrapped around it, we want to actually learn to hold. Enough emotion and sensation within the body [00:09:00] without dropping into one of these stress, stress responses. And what this involves is radically being where you are now, breathing into it and not letting it change.

[00:09:10] Just letting it be there over and over and over and over and over again. Yeah. Yes.

[00:09:21] So many people, so many people come to me like, Oh yeah, but I’ve tried that. Like, okay, yes, maybe you have tried that, but have you truly 100 percent radically sat down and let it be there and being in it without being in your head or being with the sensation without trying to get rid of it? Or have you nourished the sensation?

[00:09:40] Have you, have you loved on that sensation? Have you loved on it so decadently that, that you just want to breathe it. In yes. And I actually mean your fear. I mean, your fear, be with your fear so decadently and breathe it in so much that it never wants to go away and you will see that it dissipates and it’s okay if it doesn’t as well.[00:10:00]

[00:10:00] And so we, and like, what is your relationship with your desire as well? Do you, how often do you let yourself just be with your desire and how can you be with your fear and be with your desire and see all of these goals as something that the sensation of being where you are right now. In relation to your desires, you can do it.

[00:10:25] And we do this, teach my clients in my program, buddy based business to do this by using resourcing. So making yourself feel empowered, making yourself feel like this, a beautiful container of a client. She calls it, she says, I’m a coffee cup because we talk about how she, she is the coffee cup and she can hold all of the different sensations of life.

[00:10:46] And, and she, she’s strong enough to do that. So we want to resource into that feeling of I’m strong and I’ve got this and I’m powerful and I can do this. And also we want to tend to your mind so that it can focus on the [00:11:00] sensation and the. experience of it. There’s a softening in my belly. There’s an opening in my jaw.

[00:11:05] There’s a tension in my pelvic floor without going into the mind of thinking about it too much and analyzing it and listen to another podcast on it. We want to be with it. And when you can really hold that whole experience in the body without getting out into the mind, without criticizing yourself, without going into shiny.

[00:11:26] without people pleasing or trying to make your business something that you thought that it needed to be, but it doesn’t, you don’t really want it to be or without going into hopelessness or shame, then you’re going to actually begin to notice that you can be with your desires without feeling pressure, without feeling urgency, and with enough imagination and capacity and curiosity to To access the intuition or the intelligence that you need to reach those desires in a way that feels organic and [00:12:00] feels fun and feels easeful.

[00:12:04] So that’s going to be your practice is. Being so deeply with that desire and you’re going to get dysregulated sometimes and that’s okay. Be with the dysregulation and you’re going to have to practice this. This is not something that I expect you to get right 100 percent now because you listened to a 10 minute podcast.

[00:12:21] This is something I’m going to invite you to be in practice with and you are in practice when you work with me. When you make the decision to begin to work with me. And you’re also in practice when you connect to this podcast, when you connect to this in community, this is a space to practice being an embodied entrepreneur, this is a movement, this is a community that you are a part of.

[00:12:45] So saying that I’m going to invite you to share this with one of your friends. Invite them into the practice of embodied entrepreneurship. And I’m going to recommend that if you have not listened to episodes 39 through 43, how your nervous system affects your [00:13:00] business, I want you to go back and listen to them.

[00:13:01] And if you have listened to them, but you haven’t listened to them in a few months, go back and listen. It’s very helpful to notice and pick things up and practice. Receiving information at different levels. You’ll begin to notice different things as you move along this path. This specific, , episode series is where I share what separates you from those who seem to have like cracked some code in business.

[00:13:22] I. Share with you the information that I found in kind of a moment of divine desperation where I was having feeling quite frustrated and burnt out in my business. And I started applying trauma therapy training and my nervous system awareness to the things that I’ve been doing. And it is the knowledge from these four episodes and the knowledge from this whole podcast, but really these foundational space, these four episodes that has helped me and my clients create sustainable income, build this somatic business plan, a roadmap and a structure to increase income and increase.

[00:13:53] Ease and spend a lot of time napping, laying in the sun and perfecting our [00:14:00] tacos. Tacos not me thing, but I have a lot of clients who eat a lot of tacos. This episode or the episode series covers the foundations of the four places your nervous system influences your business income and impact, what polyvagal theory is, and this is important, what everyone is missing about it and how to start leveraging your nervous system for success today.

[00:14:19] You will find the link to the first episode. Below in the show notes. Thank you for listening.

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Embodied Entrepreneur: Anxiety-Free & Profitable Business By Healing Trauma With The Nervous System By Sheridan Ruth Dec 16, 2023

Not Your Usual Goal Setting Advice. How To Build A Profitable Business With Trauma Healing, Nervous System Regulation And Stress Relief

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I had to figure this out blindly and it took me years, let me share it with you in 10 minutes. This is everything you need to know about goal setting from a trauma-informed and nervous system friendly lense. Thank you Erica and Ankita for this recommendation. 

You’re about to learn:

What to do if you can’t feel into your desires for the future


How to set goals when you’re not motivated by them


The ONE unique way you can stay motivated (when you’re not).


Hit play to embrace a future that aligns with your deepest desires.


Recommended episode:

How The Freeze (and Fawn) Response Sabotages Profitable Business – Poly Vagal Theory Poly Vagal Theory & Stress Relief Training Part 4

The most misunderstood nervous system response – freeze, and fawn. It’s the playground of procrastination, feeling stuck and depression, and even though it’s seen as the hardest state to shift, it’s not impossible. This episode share the missing element of mindset coaching, productivity hacks, therapy and polyvagal theory so you can:

Create sustainable income from your business


Build a somatic game plan, a road map, and a structure to support an increase in income, and ease


Spend more time taking naps, eating tacos and laying in the sun.

Connect on IG and share how you relate to goals:

@_sheridanruth_

 

 

 

TRANSCRIPT:

[00:00:00] Sheridan: I had to figure this out blindly and it took me years. So let me share it with you in 10 minutes. This is everything you need to know about goal setting from a trauma informed nervous system, friendly lens. You’re about to learn what to do. If you can’t feel your desires, feel into your desires for the future.

 

[00:00:17] You’re about to learn what to do. If you can’t feel into your desires for the future and how to set goals when you are not motivated by them. Thank you, Erica and Ankita for this, for recommending this episode.

 

[00:00:29] So. If you want to build a business or you want to be an entrepreneur, it is essential that you practice feeling into the vision and the desires that you want in the future. We need to have a roadmap of where we go. If you are at all ever considering working with me inside of body based business, it is essential that you and I have kind of a goal that we’re working towards getting there.

 

[00:00:55] We’re going to get there much quicker. Doesn’t have to be the ultimate goal, the forever goal, and the goal can

 

[00:01:00] change, but we need to have a little bit of a roadmap. We need to kind of have a place to set the GPS towards. And if while we’re getting there, we decide, well, we don’t actually want to go there.

 

[00:01:09] We want to go somewhere else. It’s okay, but we need to have a starting point and an intentional. Point place where we would like to go. This can be really difficult. Because a lot of us have kind of interesting relationships with golf setting or interesting relationships with feeling into the future.

 

[00:01:27] So today we’re going to talk about this a little bit. I’m first going to speak about what to do if you can’t really feel into your desires for the future or feel into your, what you would like or your vision. And then I’m going to talk about. Maybe you can feel into that, but you can’t really set goals because one, you’re not motivated by them or two, something else is going on.

 

[00:01:52] Let’s get into it.[00:02:00]

 

[00:02:00] A lot of the time we feel that we can’t feel into our vision or our desires for the future, simply because in the past, the nervous system has perceived, Oh, I have felt into a desire of mine and it has consistently not been met. And I have felt consistent shame, disappointment, frustration. Sadness, hopelessness, and therefore what I’ve learned is that I’m just, it’s safer for me not to desire that thing.

 

[00:02:29] I don’t know, and I perceive that I’m probably not going to get that need met. And so I’m probably not going to. I’m not going to, I’m going to stop asking. We see this a lot, um, in people that have experienced, uh, some type of emotional neglect or lack of attunement, even if your parents were very, very much there.

 

[00:02:52] A lot of us are coming, you know, kind of. Around like my age, I think, um, a little bit older, we’re coming and we grew [00:03:00] up in a space where there was a staying of like, baby should be seen and not heard. And what the truth is, babies actually do need to be heard because the babies cry. That’s their way of communicating.

 

[00:03:12] And what they’re trying to communicate is that they need attunement. And a lot of the time when we’re left by our own to cry it out or to sleep, or maybe mom and dad can’t attune to us in the way that we need. Or there are other things happening, you know, maybe there’s a war happening and they’re kind of busy off being with the war or they had to be out working and we’re just, we’re not getting our needs met in the way that we really desire as an infant or as a child, or even as an adolescent eventually because reaching out to our parents and asking for support and expressing our needs and our desires ends in so much pain because they’re not met effectively and efficiently.

 

[00:03:56] What we do. So you just stop asking. [00:04:00] This kind of is the equivalent of going into a bit of a freeze response. Everything seems fine. We seem quite relaxed probably, but We stopped asking because we perceived that it wasn’t really safe to ask because that caused me pain. And so what we need to do as an adult is start to, we need to do a couple of things.

 

[00:04:23] One, we need to identify what we can feel in the body. Two, we need to make it safe to think about future goals. And three, we need to start playing around with identifying those goals. So my first question to you, if you were sitting in front of me and I had you as a client, I would just ask, you know, like, what can you feel, right?

 

[00:04:39] If you think about the future, what, what do you feel? Do you feel numbness? Do you feel resistance? Do you feel fear? Do you feel pain? Whatever it is that you feel, we need to do a practice around that. And we need to do, if you have resistance, we need to do a practice around that. This is something that you and I will go through together inside a body-based business.

 

[00:04:56] It’s not something that I can. Do right here now on this episode or on an episode [00:05:00] specifically, but you know, we need to do a practice around more. What do you feel? The second thing we need to do is to make it safe to think about these future goals. So part of that is alchemizing, integrating and recognizing the past hurt and feeling that experience in the body until the point where it kind of comes to a maturity and therefore it dissipates.

 

[00:05:23] So the energy is felt, it runs its entire course through the system. Then naturally or spontaneously it passes and it moves on and it dissipates. We also, that’s a somatic practice that you and I can do together. We also need to start seeing where it is safe to think about the future. So kind of noticing, kind of building up evidence.

 

[00:05:46] You have a lot of evidence right now, even if you’re not realizing it, you have a, you have a lot of evidence inside of you, uh, that it’s not safe to think about the future. And that’s. [00:06:00] Evidenced by the fact that you’re kind of struggling to do that. And so what we are trying to do is we’re trying to use the power of the organ of your brain to pick up evidence that it is safe to think about the future.

 

[00:06:19] So when your body experiences something, it creates a belief that helps you then. Mediate your behavior, essentially it helped me creates a belief and then your brain, what your brain’s job is to do is to seek out evidence that enforces that belief so that you can use that system so that you can manage life that works really, really well until your circumstances change.

 

[00:06:40] And there’s a system inside of the brain. It’s called the reticular activating system, and it essentially just helps us like. Look out for this evidence. So when circumstances change, so all of a sudden now it is safe for you to express your needs because you’re an adult, you’re no longer a baby, you’re no longer an adolescent, you can get your needs met.

 

[00:06:56] The reticular activating system is still looking for evidence [00:07:00] that it’s not safe to think about the future. So what we want to do, and it makes it hard for us to find evidence for the new belief, which is more based on your reality, but your subconscious body doesn’t know that. So your body doesn’t act like that, which reinforces the belief.

 

[00:07:15] It’s like this. Yeah. So we want to, we want to work on different levels. We want to work with the body. So the embodied sense of creating feeling, processing the trauma, all of that. And then we’re also going to get the logic brain. Um, On board to start marrying the embodied experience with the reality that you’re in at the moment and getting all parts of your brain on board so that we can see and, and trust and believe that yes, it is actually safe.

 

[00:07:44] So you’re going to start looking for evidence where it is safe to think about the future. For some of you, that’s actually going to start with like making plans on Thursday for Thursday on Monday. For some of you, it’s hard to make even plans about. Like next week for others of you, it’s gonna [00:08:00] be, can I think about things in five years and can I really feel into that?

 

[00:08:05] And we’re gonna start feeling and noticing even, oh, like I made a plan to go to a concert in three months and that was okay and I was able to feel into my desire to go to this concert, and then I went to the concert and, and that worked. So you’re going to actually concrete and write. Down and experience and feel in your body.

 

[00:08:24] Feel that like saying to your body, okay, Sheridan, you had a desire. Like if I do it to myself now, right now, it’s like Sheridan, you have a desire to move to Australia and you did it. And now you are in Australia and you did that. And so I literally will do this to myself. Like sitting and like you did that , and I had this experience with a friend of mine and I was like, oh, I, I did it.

[00:08:55] She’s like, yeah, you did it. And I was like, I started crying. I was like, oh, I did it. You know, that like I, I, I had a

 

[00:09:00] desire and I pursued it and everything’s okay. And I really mean like coning it in and kind of speaking to yourself in that space and be like, I did it until you feel that settled down into your bones.

 

[00:09:10] That’s important. The third thing you’re going to do is going to, you’re going to start identifying and like playing and brainstorming with what your goals are. Like be like a child, be like a child experimenting. We know that the curiosity and creativity and playfulness. Uh, states of a regulated nervous system.

 

[00:09:31] We know that they are states of your true self of your surrendered self. So use that curiosity and that play to start playing and brainstorming like, Ooh, what could my desires be? What could they be? That would be so fun. Like what could they possibly be? How fun. Play with them. Think about them. Fun. Try it on.

 

[00:09:53] Use other people to inspire you. Um, like. Think about what you were doing as a kid. Start playing [00:10:00] and brainstorming and write them down and feel what that would feel like in your body. See which ones kind of light you up, see which ones feel curious to you and just start kind of identifying them. And from there you’ll begin to notice which ones feel more aligned for you.

 

[00:10:15] And you can go from there and I won’t take you further on that. That’s maybe another episode, but those, that’s really where you’re going to begin. And this is going to take a little bit of time. It’s okay. Uh, don’t expect it to happen in the first three days. Allow yourself some space to do this, to recap, feel into your body.

 

[00:10:31] What you can feel, get curious about that. Make it safe to think about future goals, recognize past hurt and see where it is safe to think about the future and start playing and brainstorming with what your goals might be. Now, what do you do if you have these goals, but you’re just like not motivated by them?

 

[00:10:52] So some of you guys know this cause I spoke about it in another episode. I it’s interesting actually noticing [00:11:00] my own differences that I’ve never been particularly motivated around money. I’m really motivated to serve, I’m really motivated for, for change and impact, but I’ve always really struggled to be motivated around money.

 

[00:11:12] I think, you know, I used to work in finance and I think this was hard for me because everyone around me was motivated by money. My boss, he would actually try to motivate me on my money and I would be like, Jeremy, like, I don’t know why you’re saying this to me. Like I have no, I don’t care millions of dollars.

 

[00:11:30] Okay, cool. Like, and I was so much more interested in like, I was like, are these apartment buildings? Do they have like, are they green? Do they have a good heating system? I was more interested in that, than I was in the money of the deal. Uh, and so

 

[00:11:48] I’m sharing a lot. And so now what I’m trying to say is that now it’s a little bit different. I’ve definitely felt much more neutral and motivated and excited about monetary

 

[00:12:00] goals, which is interesting. So it’s interesting to be sharing this with you as you guys also witnessed me and my growth. Anyway, so I’ve had to have financial milestones in my business and be realistic about them when I’m not motivated by money.

 

[00:12:18] And so this is how I’ve done it. I’ve gotten really curious about what does happen around these goals. So this goes for anything, like if you’re going to the gym or whatever. So just, yeah, just get really curious. Like if you were to set a goal that like, maybe you think you want, let’s say it’s 5k months, what does happen around those goals?

 

[00:12:42] So if you look at that on a piece of paper, what happens in your body? Do you experience thoughts that would like take you towards, I’m afraid of. I’m afraid I won’t be able to do something. I’m afraid I won’t be able to be disciplined enough. I’m afraid mom and dad [00:13:00] will judge me. Or I don’t know. I’m afraid that will like put me into a box.

 

[00:13:06] I’ll lose my freedom, right? We get really curious about, okay. So if you put a goal, what does happen around it, and we’re going to need to identify and get, we’re going to need to get curious about that. And for a lot of you. For a lot of us, there might be some trauma healing to do around that. Some parts work, some inner child work, and also for some of you, it’s okay if there’s not, you know, I, with when I wasn’t motivated around money and still, I’m not super motivated by it.

 

[00:13:37] I’m not gonna like make that wrong about myself. I’m just, that’s okay. There are other things in the world that are important. So there is this level of self acceptance that is important and also curiosity. We want to just play with both and get curious, not because we want to change it. Um, we want to change ourselves, but get curious just because we like ourselves and we’re curious to get to know ourselves.

 

[00:13:59] So we’re walking [00:14:00] that line of self acceptance without forcing ourselves to be different and also getting curious just in case. Maybe there is something that could be easier for you. And then I want you to pick something you’re motivated by.

 

[00:14:10] Yes. Hi Freya. This is my co host gets to ask all of the questions that I know that you’re probably thinking as you guys build your businesses together. Freya. Yes. We are aware that you are not motivated by goals and here’s the thing, you are motivated by goals. Humans experience dopamine when we, when we achieve goals.

 

[00:14:33] Like there’s that experience of ticking off your to do list. Your body wants to accomplish something. It’s natural to experience pleasure when we achieve things, to experience excitement when we achieve things. And if we’re not, I would go back and look at how to get yourself out of a free state because that might be a sign.

 

[00:14:54] That you are in a freeze state. , so if you’re not feeling, if you’re feeling totally hopeless at [00:15:00] the end of this episode, go and have a look at the episode about, oh, you’re freeze. I will link that down below. So yeah, it’s normal. And even, and if, even if you are in the free state, honestly, like.

 

[00:15:12] Getting things done and achieving things and celebrating and bringing pleasure in is going to be one of the things that gets you out of the free state. So you’re going to want to listen to this anyway. I want you to pick something you are motivated by. You are motivated for things. There are things that motivate you.

 

[00:15:25] So I’ve identified that I’m motivated by service, like serving people. That makes, gives me a lot of pleasure to, to serve people. Enneagram two here. , so pick something that is motivating to you. Maybe it’s. I don’t know. Tell me what you tell me what it is, but if it’s not money, okay, well, what are you? Is it about developing yourself?

 

[00:15:43] Is it about, having impact, changing things, helping us get to a new earth? Is it about feeding your kids? You know, what is it? And I want you to pick a bigger goal that you are inspired to achieve. So that might be the vision of something might be getting a horse, it might be buying a car and then it might be.

 

[00:15:58] Dividing it down into [00:16:00] smaller ones, super, super, super, super, super, super, super small ones, things that you can do every single day. So it’s like, I want to do X, Y, Z, like, and you can use chat, T, B, T, like, this is my goal. Can you divide it down into the smallest things? And then pick the first one. And like all the steps towards the goal and then pick that first step and then divide that down into 20 different items and see if you can get it to be something that you’re going to do every single day that you can tick off your to do list.

 

[00:16:25] And you then fall in love with the process of moving towards that bigger goal so that we can get that dopamine so that we can get that pleasure so that you can start celebrating yourself as you tick off these smaller things to get to the larger goal. Why do we do that? Because dopamine, pleasure and celebration regulate your nervous system and they make They make, I’ve talked about this a little bit with my clients lately about like, we’re making this a fun experience.

 

[00:16:48] It’s like, we want to make it a game. We want to make this whole life experience a game, whole business experience a game. So if you can take them off into smaller ones and make it a game of how I’m getting there, you’re going to get to the bigger goal.

 

[00:17:00] And you can place that bigger goal as the motivation, knowing and making the connection.

 

[00:17:05] And some of you are going to have to really consciously make this connection of like, every time I spend an email, I’m getting closer to buying a horse, right? That’s option one, or you can pick smaller goals that you are excited about and focusing on achieving them. Notice how in both of them, we’re getting really small.

 

[00:17:26] So their smaller goal might be, I want to connect with 10 people and tell 10 people about my services. this week. And so your goal this week is to just focus on that. I really encourage small goals. Like maybe it’s like, if I want to serve people, it’s like, I really want to make sure that this podcast gets in the hands of, you know, 10 more people this week.

 

[00:17:47] Cause that will serve them. That would be something that would motivate me. So pick what, identify what does motivate you and create a goal that is very, very small around that. So it’s like if motivating you

 

[00:18:00] is being able to buy your child, a new toy, have a thing where every single time that you, write an email in your business, you, uh, get to put 5 towards the toy fund, you know, the college fund, something like that.

 

[00:18:18] Create a game around it. And I can think of all these things because I’m looking at this hypothetical situation from a regulated nervous system because it’s not my business and I’m not in it. And you know, this is also my job. So at the key, at the end of all of this, it’s getting creative and looking at things with pleasure and fun.

 

[00:18:35] And just simply saying, how can I make this more fun and how can I make this smaller? And how can I make this easier so that I can lean into more dopamine, more pleasure and more celebration? It’s a game. And you’re going to have to find a way that makes sense for you and start playing. So let me know how this sits with you.

 

[00:18:54] This is one that I’m really curious to have conversations with about. Uh, I haven’t seen anything like this on the internet or, [00:19:00]

 

so it would be cool to have some conversations with you guys. Send me a DM about what’s stuck out to you and. What, you know, what you’re going to be experimenting with. I will link my Instagram down below and I cannot wait to hear from you.

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Once again, if you do notice that you’re feeling really hopeless around this and you’re just kind of entering into that freeze response, please go ahead and check out the episode that will. Also be linked down below on how to get out of that freeze response and how to identify it and how you can support yourself in getting out of a freeze response so that you can come back with creativity and patience and perspective so that you can build your business with less anxiety.

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Embodied Entrepreneur: Anxiety-Free & Profitable Business By Healing Trauma With The Nervous System By Sheridan Ruth Dec 18, 2023

Parents: How To Build A Profitable Business, Anxiety Free And Kid Friendly – Stress Relief Through Nervous System Regulation

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Overwhelmed balancing parenting and building your business? In this episode, we dive into navigating interruptions with a regulated nervous system for increased profit and decreased anxiety. 

You’ll learn:

The BIGGEST gift you can give your kids and community
The secret to responding constructively to interruptions, leading to increased focus and productivity.
A unconventional perspective on balancing motivation for your business with dedicated parenthood, fostering a steady, clear, and creative approach.

We’ll end with 1 practical step you can start right now without needing to do any fancy rituals or even have access to your hands.

Listen to the 20 minute episode now.

 

After listening these are your next steps:

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First, you’ll start with The Embodied Entrepreneur 90minute nervous system training, and then you’ll be invited to book a call with me.

 

Inside this *free* immersive workshop, you’ll learn…⁠

-The ONE question you need to ask yourself to find more ease and less anxiety throughout your day

-What you MUST know if you want to create sustainable income in 2023 without chronic burnout or overworking

-The UNPOPULAR advice that helped me save thousands of dollars and hours in becoming a full-time coach

-The ONLY strategy you need to 2x your income and impact

-The 4 nervous system foundations to create more pleasure and ease and success in business

 

Recommended episode: 62: How to Make Money During Emotional Rollercoasters

In 20 minutes you will learn:

The ESSENTIAL tool to use to make money during personal crisis
What to do (and what not to do) when your personal life takes leaks into business
How to structure your day if you’re worried ‘the other foot is about to drop’


TRANSCRIPT:

[00:00:00] There are a few scenarios in life where your nervous system is put under so much responsibility, such as being a baron and also building a business. Today, you’re going to learn how to do both with less overwhelm and a lot more ease.

 

[00:00:15] Thank you for Amanda and Carissa for this recommendation, where we will cover parenting as an entrepreneur, how to stay focused when you are always interrupted and how to balance being really fired up about something in your business, but also balancing your parental responsibilities and the biggest gift that you can give your family and your business.

 

[00:00:38] We are looking today at parenthood, balancing parenthood and balancing. Business building business. I like to speak with you guys about what you’d like to see. , there were a couple of scenarios that seemed. Um, and it’s pretty common that actually a few people had

 

[00:01:00] mentioned. So when, um, Manda and Carissa mentioned these and we was chatting in the DMs, I was like, okay, we, like we have to come back to this.

 

[00:01:06] . We’re going to look at them through the lens of the nervous system so that you can use nervous system awareness and nervous system regulation to.

 

[00:01:18] Be the type of parent and business owner that you really want to be. This isn’t about giving you a prescribed thing to do. None of my work is. It’s about saying, okay, how can I use knowledge of the nervous system and how can I step back into regulation and what regulation means for me to be the best parent that I can be and be the best business owner that I can be and get it all done and feel good about it and then relax.

 

[00:01:45] So let’s look at the scenario around being interrupted kind of context is like, you know, you’re, you’re trying to focus on your projects, your tasks, you’re doing that deep work and maybe your child, um, is coming in and saying, Oh mom, can you look at [00:02:00] this? So mom, can you do this? And you kind of just keep getting interrupted.

 

[00:02:03] And of course you. Really value being an amazing mom. So you want to be really attentive to their needs. You want to hear them. And you also really value the work that you’re doing inside of your business. So you want to also be focused on your business, right? So if we look at this through the dense of the nervous system, depending on how we.

 

[00:02:21] Um, what state of the nervous system we are accessing in that moment, we’re going to respond to it in different ways. I’ll read them out. You see kind of where you land or maybe you land in between, or maybe you have a different example. You can kind of take note and say, Hmm, I wonder what nervous system response I’m having to the stimuli of being interrupted while I’m focusing on something.

 

[00:02:42] The first one would be a flight nervous system response. So this is where. Your body perceives the interruption as something that is very uncomfortable and kind of dangerous. It threatens something that is of value or important to you in that moment. And so it’s normal reaction or the reaction it’s choosing in that moment is

 

[00:03:00] to kind of, we want, it thinks the best way to get out of this is kind of getting away from it.

 

[00:03:04] So the flight response is going to be like. You are very rushed and you feel really overwhelmed and it’s kind of, okay, how can I do all of these things? And I’ll do that and then I’ll do this. And you’re probably feeling a bit scattered and okay, well, while I wait two seconds while that loads, I’ll go over here and I’ll do this and it’s just like, you know, okay, right.

 

[00:03:20] We’ve done that. And then you’re kind of floating around and you’re just like, go, go, go, go, go, right? Rushed, overwhelmed. You can feel it in my, you can feel it in my breath as I speak, can’t you? I can feel it on my body as I say it. Then we have the fight response. The fight response is fighting either towards them or towards yourself.

 

[00:03:39] So being really kind of snappy towards them and like, Oh, maybe like passive aggressive and maybe, um, Exploding or snapping in ways that you’re not really proud of, but we’ve all kind of done it before, or you’re really lovely to them on the outside, but you’re also very, but you’re critical to yourself.

 

[00:03:57] So you might be critical and explosive towards them,

 

[00:04:00] or you might be critical and explosive towards yourself. Or you might be both. The freeze response is going to, there’s two, there’s two kind of parts of the immobilization response, the freeze and the fawn. And you’ll see similarities, but they act differently.

 

[00:04:17] The freeze response is like, you’re going to feel super stuck. You’re going to feel heavy. You’re going to feel slow. It’s going to be extremely difficult for you to rapidly move between tasks and multitasks in the way that you would on a very agile or mentally agile day. You’ve seen yourself on those days.

 

[00:04:35] Everything’s going to start feeling really hopeless. It’s going to be hard to focus back on your work. Once you do get a moment, it’s kind of like, what’s, what’s the point of even doing this? You find yourself procrastinating doing busy work. You know, when you do get a moment to sit down, you’re probably sitting down and saying, Oh, like organizing your assignment board, organizing your to do list and the kind of thinking of how am I all going to, how am I ever going to get all this [00:05:00] done instead of maybe an alternative from a regulated and I’m giving you some clues here.

[00:05:06] A regulated nervous system might sit down and just be like, all right, cool. What’s next on the list? Let’s do it. Um, yeah, it’s just like this stuckness, heaviness, slow, less kind of hopelessness. And the fawn. People, places, everyone else puts your spouse’s needs first, puts your children’s needs first, um, puts your, your friend’s needs first.

 

[00:05:27] When you’re in that phone response, you’re tending to everyone else. You’re befriending everyone else and tending to them. Um, More than you are yourself. So everyone else’s needs come before your own. It’s, it’s an interesting one. And women tend to be more, um, fawn, more of a fawn response just because we’ve been socialized to tend and befriend people to create safety.

 

[00:05:54] That’s just how we’ve been kind of socialized and brought up. And it makes sense in our nervous system. So people please other

 

[00:06:00] people. This can then extend to people pleasing your audience. And then you’re wondering. Why you’re not making any sales and why you feel icky. So that’s for being interrupted.

 

[00:06:09] When you’re interrupted, take a moment right now. Say, okay, do I tend towards flight, freeze or fawn?

 

[00:06:21] Now, when you’re trying to balance all of it, so you have a really, you’re feeling motivated, inspired in your business, and you’re also feeling dedicated to your parenthood and it’s your responsibility. You have to, um, and you’re struggling to balance it all. Let’s look at how the different. The different nervous systems states would react.

 

[00:06:42] So we’d have flight. How would you do it? Rushed and overwhelmed. You’re rushing through everything in an overwhelmed, feels like balancing it all. It’s just you flitting and flatting and flat, that’s not a word, all over the place. You just, it’s just so many things. Your house is probably a mess anyway.

 

[00:06:57] Everything feels like a massive chaos. [00:07:00] Um, and you feel like you can’t catch your breath. Fight. You’re a snappy. You’re defensive. You’re critical of yourself. Nothing is good enough and nothing’s good enough for your children either. And you can be kind of blamey in your communication. You can be kind of, um, over controlling sometimes.

 

[00:07:21] Uh, you just, you know, you, you have this outward energy of like, if I can criticize or control, um, the way that everything else, everyone else does anything or the way that I do things, then, then everything will be okay and I’ll be safe. And, you know, It’s, you’re angry too, you get angry and frustrated or, or bitter if you’re a projector in human design, you get really bitter as well.

 

[00:07:43] Um, and if you don’t know what that is, just ignore it. Freeze. You feel stuck. You feel heavy. You feel like you can’t get anything done and you start to feel really hopeless. There can be a lot of procrastination in here. It’s hard to get out of bed. Oh, it’s hard to just send an

 

[00:08:00] email. It feels like what’s the point of even starting if it’s going to fail or if I’m not going to have time.

 

[00:08:06] I can’t figure out my calendar, like what’s the point. Then we have the form instead of balancing it all effectively. You ping pong between everyone else’s desires and your own. It’s the same thing. You’re not really balancing at all. You’re just taking care of everyone else’s needs, taking care of everyone else’s desires, saying yes when you don’t really want to, not even knowing what you want to say yes to, making sure everyone else is okay.

 

[00:08:36] And I’ve noticed a lot of people who tend towards this form of this ping ponging. You might notice this as well. I definitely went through it. You’re probably pretty good at relate. You’re probably pretty good at maintaining relationships. You might notice that you’re kind of the go to friend for advice sometimes, or the go to one in the house for like, how do you do this?

 

[00:08:55] And you know, you relate to this if you’re maybe like an enneagram to, [00:09:00] um, or something, which I am. You’re like, You know, you’re very loving and you’re very nurturing and you spend a lot of time nurturing your relationships, but there are times where you do end up being the coach or the therapist or the healer of other people, um, in ways that are not super empowering.

 

[00:09:19] And so then you end up really exhausted because you’ve been giving to others and you haven’t given to yourself and you haven’t given to your business, then you end up frustrated and then we end up not doing things because now we’re frustrated or we feel hopeless. So what is the solution? Those are all the problems.

 

[00:09:35] What’s the solution? The solution is to access a regulated nervous system state of, I can, and then reassess the problem. There’s something that happens whenever we have stimuli coming to us and that, and that creates a nerve, dysregulated nervous system. Even if it is just for a microsecond, we have to solve the problem.

 

[00:09:57] Of the stress inside of the system and the [00:10:00] energy inside of the system. And we also have to solve the problem of the actual problem. So I’ve been interrupted or my schedule is overbooked that causes it response inside of my body. I need to set solve the problem of working through that stress response by regulating my nervous system.

 

[00:10:15] And then I need to look at, okay, how can I, um, how realistically, how can I nourish my child and nourish my business and nourish myself? What would that look like for me? Today, not forever, but for me today, what would that look like? And that really comes down to accessing the regulated nervous system state of, I can.

 

[00:10:43] What a great question guys. This is Freya. You may have heard her before. She’s my cute little assistant who is asking all the questions that you Might be asking as you guys build your business with less anxiety and more profit as an embodied entrepreneur. Yeah, so there are a lot [00:11:00] of ways that we can do this.

 

[00:11:01] One is we can work through the back door, um, and we can work through lifestyle, diet, exercise, and embodiment practices. And two, we can do the deeper work. Of kind of cleansing out the energy that’s creating a larger burden on the nervous system through trauma healing. So healing, maybe there’s a fear of not being enough, or you’re afraid of not having enough money, or you’re afraid that resting means that you won’t receive money, or you’re afraid that people will think you’re a bad mom if you’re.

 

[00:11:32] Um, feminine, not sex, like, um, feminine embodiment, you know, like the mom shouldn’t be able, shouldn’t do that type of work, or maybe mom shouldn’t be working, or if you, you know, there’s some deeper fears there, or maybe you’re afraid of, I don’t know, being seen, or maybe you’re afraid of success. You’re afraid that if you get really successful, you’re going to become one of those moms who doesn’t really spend a lot of time with their kids and that goes deeply against your values.

 

[00:11:58] So there’s a [00:12:00] Deeper concern or limitation or lack of congruence inside of your system that’s creating these little, um, I’m not going to say little because I don’t want to invalidate them. They’re quite large, but let’s say like kind of like, uh, smaller, um, difficulties in the grand, grand scheme of things of scheduling or having to, to figure this one thing out, you know, they’re really, really difficult and make such a.

 

[00:12:27] Big difference and have such a big impact on your life, , and your capacity, but kind of being interrupted or having a difficult schedule or balancing it all and knowing when to do what, , when we have a larger fear underneath that’s inside of the boat. The system that is an influence on how we respond to these day to day lifestyle challenges, it makes those challenges so much bigger.

 

[00:12:53] And so when we address that underlying fear, we’re able to look at these challenges from a place of [00:13:00] creativity, compassion, connection, harmony, steadiness, curiosity, power, confidence, perspective, and relaxation, and ultimately ease. That’s why we’re here so that we can look at all of the different problems in life and find opportunities, um, to connect with yourself, to connect with others and to create a life that brings you a sense of purpose and harmony, creativity and empowerment.

 

[00:13:31] And that brings us really to the essential question that we’re asking and the one that I promised to answer you, which is the biggest gift that you can give your family, your community and the biggest gift that you can give your family and your community yourself. Is a regulated nervous system. That’s what people want from you more than anything.

 

[00:13:54] They don’t want you to be perfect. They want you to be regulated and they want you to connect and they want

 

[00:14:00] you to be a safe person to be around in your sales process, in your business, in your marketing, in your family, in your home, in your, in your external community. That’s, that’s what people want from you.

 

[00:14:10] They want you regulated. When you are regulated, you create a sense of safety for them and you allow them to be themselves. And so what, what does that even mean? Why? And why do they want it? Humans perceive safety through each other’s nervous systems. And especially when you have children, it’s really important for you to have that regulated nervous system because you’re helping them do many, many things.

 

[00:14:36] And this podcast won’t be able to go into the scope of that. But for example, you’re helping, you’re modeling them how to deal with challenges. You’re modeling them how to be in relationships with others, how to deal with big emotions, how to relate to themselves, what they’re really looking for, what each human is looking for.

 

[00:14:57] And I could do a whole episode on this. I might, [00:15:00] I should actually, are two things, which is connection and congruence inside of your nervous system. You and I are always having a conversation. You’re having a conversation with everyone through our nervous systems, through our primal bodies. Now, primal bodies asking a thousand times a minute.

 

[00:15:17] Am I safe? Am I loved? And really what it’s looking for is connection. So are you and I truly connected? Are you true? Do you, are you present with me in this moment or is your mind somewhere else? And if it is somewhere else, can you be congruent with that? Don’t tell me that you’re present, but have your mind somewhere else, because I pick up, my primal body picks up that you’re lying.

 

[00:15:43] And that creates a lack of congruence, which means there’s something that we don’t know. There’s something you’re not telling me. And that makes me feel unsafe. Our primal bodies like connection. And congruence, we like things to make sense because it means that we feel safe and we want to [00:16:00] feel connected with each other because it means that we’re loved, which means that we’re safe.

 

[00:16:05] That’s the way that our nervous systems work. So. If we prioritize regulation and we prioritize connection and congruence in all of your interactions with your children and with your business, we’re going to look at these challenges in a little bit of a different way. So let’s just look at these two and maybe you can, before you, before you listen to mine, maybe just pause, take a moment.

 

[00:16:34] How could you. Interact with yourself, your business and your children, prioritizing your regulated nervous system. What would that look like for you in your life and your specific challenges?

 

[00:16:49] So how I approach this with compassion, connection and congruence and some of the other qualities of the regulated nervous system are constructive. It’s oriented [00:17:00] towards creating a solution. It’s steady, it’s clear, it’s curious. Has compassion.

 

[00:17:05] I already said that a few times. It is confident. It is creative. It’s connected to other people. Double up on that. Has perspective. It can see things from different perspectives. It’s driven by a sense of purpose and direction. Has power. So it has an ability to influence things. And effect change and it understands that it has an, it understands its power.

 

[00:17:26] It understands I can affect change. I can influence it breathes deeply and it has relaxed muscles. I’m interrupted. First thing I’m going to do is I’m going to connect with that person. I’m going to look at them in the eyes, turn around, look at them in the eyes, take a big, deep breath, just breathe down into my belly.

 

[00:17:47] And depending on the situation, you might say, Oh, like, I’m so excited. I’m so excited to look at that. That’s so exciting. Really genuinely don’t lie. Um, and I [00:18:00] have to finish this thing up and I’m so excited to come in two minutes and celebrate that with you, babe. That

 

[00:18:09] would be it. I’m so excited. I’m being congruent. I’m connecting with them. Maybe I take two minutes to just finish the thing that the little task that I’m doing and I go and I connect and I celebrate. It’s steady, lives up to its words. I go and I celebrate. Oh my God. Yeah, that’s so cool. Thank you for like so excited to celebrate this with you that you like you interrupted me and now I’m here and this is awesome.

 

[00:18:31] And I’m flowing and okay, cool. Now I’m going to flow back. So I’m going to go sit back down. Um, at my desk with my thing, I’m going to take two deep breaths and straighten my back. I’m going to look at the task that I was doing again. I’m going to notice if my mind wants to go down into, this is so hard. I can’t do things like this will never work.

 

[00:18:49] I’m going to witness it, take a few deep breaths, have some compassion with myself. I’m going to get straight back into the thing that I was doing. Now this is a practice. You’re going to have to practice it a few times for it to come easy. And [00:19:00] then it will become, microseconds. You won’t even notice it.

 

[00:19:03] Then if I was balancing, balancing, um, everything that I’m doing, if I was to look at it from a regulated nervous system perspective, number one, I would be present, really present, really connected with each thing that I’m doing. And I would focus on resourcing to hold more of what I’m experiencing in that part of your life.

 

[00:19:27] So that phase of your life, that moment, so resourcing to increase capacity. And I have podcast episodes on this that I will have. Link down to the show notes. So resourcing to increase capacity. So you don’t drop into flight, fight, freeze, or fall. These are all relatively advanced practices applied into very tangible moments in your life, in your business.

 

[00:19:55] We’ve also covered a lot of concepts today in the podcast, but you get to learn all of [00:20:00] this. The tangible practices, the advancedness of it, the how to apply it to your business, how to apply it to your family inside of body based business. This is a one on one six month program made just for you with my guidance to increase your income and decrease your anxiety.

 

[00:20:18] We build a business plan that honors your nervous system, honors your lifestyle, and honors your deepest desires. Then we work on executing it and mastering it for six months so that you walk away knowing exactly what you need to do to turn on and create income consistently, simply, and strategically. So if you are interested in increasing your income and decreasing your anxiety, the very first thing you’re going to do is install.

 

[00:20:46] with embodied entrepreneur, which is a 19 minute nervous system training. Then you will be invited to book a call with me. This training is really important. It is going to teach you the question, like the, the exact fundamental [00:21:00] tools that you can start applying today or tonight to increase your income and.

 

[00:21:05] Build your business using your somatic intelligence, not somebody else’s rule book, but regulating your nervous system, healing your trauma so that you can access that curiosity, that playfulness, that, that power, that self compassion, that intuition that you know is deep down inside of your bones. You’ve just, you’re just learning to access it more and more each day.

 

[00:21:25] You’ll find the link below to access this.

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Embodied Entrepreneur: Anxiety-Free & Profitable Business By Healing Trauma With The Nervous System By Sheridan Ruth Dec 22, 2023

What To Do When You F*Ck Up – Nervous System Training For Profitable Business With Trauma Healing And Stress Relief

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The secret to not taking things personally when you make a mistake or things don’t go your way. 

In this episode you will learn: 

  • The 3 exact steps I take clients through when they make a mistake 

  • The truth about nervous system dysregulation and why it isnt the enemy 

  • 4 essential reflection questions to ask about every action, goal and event in your business 


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TRANSCRIPT:

[00:00:00] Here’s how to stop taking things so personally when things do not go your way or you make a mistake. I probably shouldn’t be sharing all of this for free, but here we go anyway. Today, you’re going to learn the three exact steps that I take my clients through when they make a mistake, the truth about nervous system dysregulation and why it isn’t the enemy, and the four essential reflection questions to ask about every action, goal, and event in your business.

[00:00:41] Thank you to Roo for recommending this episode. If you guys have an episode that you would like to recommend, send me a message, um, and we’ll, we’ll get it up there. If you have something that you are pondering or something comes up in this episode, you’re like, hmm, Sheridan, go deeper into that, send me a message and I’ll make you an episode.

[00:00:57] So let’s look at this [00:01:00] through the lens of the nervous system. When you make a mistake, a regulated nervous system looks at that mistake with creativity, compassion, perspective, and patience. A dysregulated nervous system looks at things in many different ways, but the large kind of, um, like main categories that we can categorize everything into is through judgment, avoidance, or hopelessness.

[00:01:23] So, this might look like for you, you avoid making mistakes, so you don’t do anything or you don’t take risks. You kind of think about things a lot and do them less. Listen to podcasts about them and doodle less. I’m being, I’m kind of, I’m joshing with you. Is that a thing that we, do we still say that? Is that an Australian thing?

[00:01:41] So, yeah, you might avoid making mistakes so you don’t do anything or you take risks. Uh, you avoid kind of reflecting on your mistakes so you don’t take feedback from others. Or you’re not open to the fact that you might need to improve certain skills. I remember this is, this is one that I’ve struggled with a lot.

[00:01:59] [00:02:00] I I’m kind of known as the person, I have a friend, she sends me memes, she’s like, this is you, you don’t take feedback, there’s memes about not taking feedback, um, because I I’ve struggled with feedback, receiving feedback, and I’ve struggled with being open to the fact that I might need to improve certain skills.

[00:02:18] It’s really triggered me before, and so, you, you might resonate with this one in the way that I do. Uh, it, it feels like a visceral reaction in your body whenever you get feedback on something that you’re doing, and it makes it really hard to improve, and so you just kind of avoid asking for feedback from your mentors, or from people who you’re learning from, or or from your clients or from your peers or from yourself sometimes, like how can I improve this?

[00:02:45] Uh, you might be hypercritical of yourself and also spend a lot of time in perfectionism. So waiting until the perfect moment to do a certain task, making sure the reel is perfect before you execute it, making sure that you said the right thing, making sure that [00:03:00] everything is perfect, um, and being really critical of yourself.

[00:03:03] Especially if and when you do make, when you make a mistake, we’re all, we’re all going to make a mistake and you feel really hopeless when You make a mistake, but this also kind of usually for a lot of people tends to hopelessness in general. Like, Oh, things are really hard in this business. It’s never going to work.

[00:03:20] There are too many people doing similar things. My spouse will never support me. Oh my God, there’s nothing I can do to get my family on board. Um, my mom keeps sending me jobs and telling me to get her. Like, you know, like hinting that I could get a real job or things like that. Uh, or you try to avoid making mistakes by pleasing other people and anticipating or guessing their needs before they articulate them.

[00:03:43] For example, yeah, um, well, what about if I lower the price? or let me change my calendar or um like editing what you say because you’re worried that it might kind of ruffle some feathers or it might like you can see something especially [00:04:00] us coaches or therapists we have this tendency we can see a pattern in somebody and They actually want, most of us, if they’re hiring you for your guidance, want you to point out that pattern, because they can’t see it, but we can see it.

[00:04:12] But, because we know that it’s going to create an emotional response in them, we avoid pointing out the pattern. You ever done that? That’s people pleasing. Of course, ask for, you know, you guys know me, if you’ve ever sat on a call with me or anything, I’ll ask permission before, before pointing out a pattern.

[00:04:31] Hey, I’m noticing this thing, can I, do you, do you want to hear it? You guys are always open to say no. Um, when, when you’re on an embodied sales call with me, that often happens. I’m like, okay, can I, can I, can I ask you a question? But it might be a little uncomfortable and you’re totally well within your right to be like, actually, no.

[00:04:49] I always say no. People ask me questions and I’m like, no, I’m actually not open for that right now. Anyway, I’m going on a tangent. So how do we stop taking things so personally? [00:05:00] The way that we heal this is with the body based business method, which is three prompt. One, regulation. Two, trauma healing. Three, strategic implementation into the business.

[00:05:10] Let’s look at each one of them individually. Let’s start with regulation. It’s really important that you understand something here. A regulated nervous system is not feeling easeful all of the time and just like doing everything like you’re floating on the earth, you know, it’s not all orgasms and Ease.

[00:05:35] It’s not. A regulated nervous system is a very resilient nervous system. Which means that it’s made to go into dysregulation or stress responses or difficult moments. And it’s made to get out of them effectively, efficiently, and with ease. That’s where the ease comes in. Yes, you end up spending more time in ease because, because we’re getting out of that um, stress response [00:06:00] quicker, we spend more time in ease.

[00:06:02] And there are other methods and real reasons why you would spend more time in ease, but why a regulated nervous system isn’t about doing everything with ease. Two different things, not the point of this podcast. We’ll go into that in a different one. So a regulated nervous system is resilient. It is made to go into dysregulation and then to get out of it effectively, efficiently and with ease.

[00:06:22] This includes sometimes being mean to yourself. Your mind is a beautiful, creative thing and we love it. Our goal isn’t to get rid of its thoughts. Our goal isn’t even to get rid of what you might call negative emotions, what I call uncomfortable emotions. Our goal is to bounce back into Let’s look at it again.

[00:06:51] What did I say? Creativity, compassion, perspective and patience.

[00:06:58] So, you’ve made a [00:07:00] mistake. You’ve You’re having an internal response to the external event, making a mistake. And an emotion is activated inside of your body and then latches onto your thoughts and a story is activated inside of your body. What we actually need to do is we need to move that energy that’s now inside of your body through the system slash alchemize it.

[00:07:22] There’s a lot of ways that you can bring regulation and move that energy through the system. Uh, however, relating to this specific one, what I’ve noticed most common in my clients in the world and in myself is that this is often, so taking things personally when you’ve made a mis, when you’ve made a mistake or things haven’t gone as you’ve expected, is often a sign of an inner child being activated.

[00:07:50] Therefore, the most effective way to begin regulation, bring regulation into your body. is what we call [00:08:00] embodied self compassion. This is different to self compassion because of the very essential part of it is embodied. In yoga therapy we have something called abhavna. In Sanskrit it kind of very loosely translates to a feeling tone.

[00:08:20] So when we create a feeling tone of self compassion Towards the energy, the activation, the story, the emotion, the self criticism, the hopelessness, the avoiding of mistakes, the avoiding, um, feedback, not taking risks, whatever your pattern is, when we create an embodied feeling tone towards that pattern, we regulate the system.

[00:08:48] It’s important to note here. That this includes an embodied self compassion, this feeling of self compassion that you feel in your [00:09:00] body towards even the part of you that wants to get rid of this. There is a difference between the knife energy of like, I have to get rid of this, and deep self compassion for both the part of you that wants to stop this behaviour, and the part of you that is engaging in the behaviour.

[00:09:19] We want to hold both of them inside with self compassion. This is a skill. That is cultivated and practiced over time. It is a skill that you learn when you join a body based business. It’s also a skill that you’ll be learning in my upcoming group program called Shameless. More about that later. Probably shouldn’t have said anything.

[00:09:39] Anyway, ah, I’m glad to say things that’s my business. Okay, trauma healing is number two.

[00:09:47] The way that we transition into trauma healing is by taking this embodied sense of self compassion, this bhavna, and then healing and re parenting the [00:10:00] inner child so that your inner child stops trying to get their need for approval met through the business and they start getting it met through you.

[00:10:11] Now, my training is with many different types of inner child therapy, um, IFS, internally family system, internal family systems, reparenting, like all of these different things. Um, and I take an embodied approach. Some inner child work doesn’t always come with such a high level of embodied self compassion.

[00:10:35] So if you’re doing this by yourself, I just want you to be really curious about that and also curious about kind of the methods you use to reparent and to heal and to support this inner child. Not that anyone is better or worse than the other, but I’m just. I want to emphasize the importance of having this embodied sense of self compassion and curiosity and love and care as you go about [00:11:00] healing.

[00:11:01] Um, so that we’re not leaning towards spiritual bypassing or toxic positivity. That’s important. So we heal and we reparent the inner child so that they stop trying to get their need for approval met through the business and start getting it met through you. Let that sink in. How is your inner child trying to get its need for approval met through your business or need for acceptance or need for safety through your business?

[00:11:29] And how could it instead get it met through you? This is a really big one we spend a lot of time on for a lot of different clients inside of body based business. Cool. I’ll make a podcast on that later. Then, once we have regulated the nervous system and created a new, um, Somatic experience inside of your psyche, inside of your subconscious.

[00:11:52] And we have reset your entire inner system. We now come back to the business. That’s why body [00:12:00] based business is 75 percent somatic support and 25 percent strategic implementation. The strategic implementation is still important and we’re going to do it from this embodied sense of creativity, compassion, perspective and patience.

[00:12:15] A regulated nervous system, a resilient nervous system. So we’re going to look at the event. And we’re going to ask the business questions. You’re going to access that business owner inside of you, that entrepreneur inside of you. We got embodied, now we’re being the entrepreneur. My lovely embodied entrepreneur, the questions that you are going to ask are going to be things like, what did I learn from this experience?

[00:12:38] What did I like? What would I change next time? How will I implement these changes into the business? And what does the human, what does me, the human, who’s executing the tasks in the business, or your assistant, or your team member, need to implement these changes? And that is how an embodied entrepreneur [00:13:00] brings lots of self compassion and also strategic changes that need to be made inside of the business to support the business growth when you make a mistake or when things do not go according to plan.

[00:13:13] If you’re interested in joining body based business so that you can Use the 75 percent sabbatic support and 25 percent um, strategic implementation, you are more than welcome to apply for an embodied sales call inside of this embodied sales call, we’re going to use a little bit of an embodiment practice to identify the four things that you need to increase your income today, this week, this month, um, and then if those four things align with What I am very good at, then you’re going to be invited into body based business, where you’re going to learn all the details that you need to know.

[00:13:48] And we’re going to get you enrolled. I will leave the link below for that, and I cannot wait to see you on your call. 

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Embodied Entrepreneur: Anxiety-Free & Profitable Business By Healing Trauma With The Nervous SystemBy Sheridan RuthDec 25, 2023

Why You Should Throw Away Your Sales Call Strategy – Nervous System & Trauma Healing for Profitable Businesses

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Your sales calls don’t feel sticky because you shouldn’t be doing them – or because you’ve got the script. They feel sticky because you’re trying to stick to a strategy that wasn’t made for you.

Most of us want to squirm our way out of getting better at selling. We think it needs to be icky. We think it needs to be like some magic formula that I need to learn from Gary V.

 

Not true.

 

Selling can feel natural, fun and easy.

 

The pathway there lies in your body. Deep inside you hold a Somatic Sales Strategy.

 

Clients who implement this framework have experienced: 

  • Making sales that seem “too good to be true” because they were just themselves on their sales call!! (not icky, not pushy – just themselves). 

  • Created marketing plans they can actually execute AND lead to clients – without feeling overwhelmed by their todo lists 

  • Have client’s “drop into their lap” – even after releasing them to other coaches! 

 

The Somatic Sales Strategy is what makes Body Based Business so effective at making sure you receive a return on your investment. 

 

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First, you’ll start with The Embodied Entrepreneur – The Immersive Workshop. 

 

Inside this *free* immersive workshop, you’ll learn…⁠

-The ONE question you need to ask yourself to find more ease and less anxiety throughout your day

-What you MUST know if you want to create sustainable income in 2023 without chronic burnout or overworking

-The UNPOPULAR advice that helped me save thousands of dollars and hours in becoming a full-time coach

-The ONLY strategy you need to 2x your income and impact

-The 4 nervous system foundations to create more pleasure and ease and success in business

 

https://sheridanruth.ck.page/embodied 

 

TRANSCRIPT:

[00:00:00] Sheridan: Your sales calls don’t feel sticky because they’re not in alignment or because you’ve got the wrong script. They feel sticky because you were trying to stick to a strategy that wasn’t made for you.

 

[00:00:10] By the end of this episode, you will know the one and only way your future clients make decisions. It’s not what you think, what you must know about sales. If you want to make them without feeling icky, pushy, or guilty, and the three questions to ask yourself to feel more confidence in all of your sales conversations.

 

[00:00:44] Sheridan: There was a time during the more new parts of my entrepreneurial journey, particularly online when I brought all of my work online and I started really doing sales calls where I would [00:01:00] show up to these sales calls feeling anxious or I would kind of avoid them. Avoid them and I would pursue like sales in the DMS or I would think I don’t need to prove myself I don’t have conversations with people about sales or I would show up and I would always end these calls Feeling icky because one part of me felt like if they said yes to working with me That I had like done something wrong.

 

[00:01:30] It doesn’t make logical sense But I had like done something wrong or that this was just a one time thing and the other shoe was about to drop. Or if the person that I was thinking about working with didn’t end up working with me, I would kind of berate myself afterwards. And all of this happened to kind of feed this part of me that felt increasing amounts of anxiety and discomfort around sales conversations to the point where I stopped having [00:02:00] them because I stopped speaking. I stopped inviting people to have these conversations. So I stopped making sales and I burnt out. Oh, I. It took a really long time to unpack this one. I also went through a period where I tried to perfect the sales script. I thought, you know, if I could just say these specific things and if I could just be this specific way, and if I had the right amount of availability in my calendar, and if my product was this, and I spoke about this beforehand and I spoke about this afterwards, I should just kind of get all of the things right, then, then I would, would, I would make the sale and then I would be a success and then everything would be okay.

 

[00:02:39] And this seemed kind of normal, right, because I’ve noticed so many other people go through this and in fact, there’s so many tools and resources on the internet where we can. Like the people sell you their sales script or people ask about them when they talk about them while they sell you messaging and say that it’s everything is easier when you have better messaging and

 

[00:03:00] all of these things, the environment that a lot of entrepreneurs find themselves in, especially if you’re on the internet, kind of tends towards invoking or inviting us to consume and spend more money on perfecting this sales problem.

 

[00:03:18] And. Yeah. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that. I think they’re really valuable resources. I don’t know if they’re always the most helpful. And the reason that I say this is speaking both from personal experience and then the experience of hundreds of colleagues and dozens of clients who have had this exact same problem.

 

[00:03:41] The amount of sales calls that I was doing was rising, sorry, it was staying the same and but the amount of people who are actually ended up working with me was lowering, but my anxiety was rising around it and you and I are both smart enough to know that there’s something

 

[00:04:00] kind of beneath the surface if everything seems like it’s supposed to be going well, yet it’s not.

 

[00:04:07] And you have anxiety. At that point, that anxiety was making my sales calls really awkward and ineffective.

 

[00:04:20] I’m going to talk in a little while about what I truly believe sales calls are for and, and what your job is on a sales call, but just to give some context first, so I did what I often do. Sometimes I avoid it first, sometimes I procrastinate it, but I do what I often do. And. I took one of the therapeutic practices that I had have learned in many of my trainings.

 

[00:04:49] It’s the one that I teach my clients. I took myself to my bedroom and I did this somatic inquiry and I found that there was this. This wounded

 

[00:05:00] inner child that was running the show the more inquiry that I did towards this inner child, I found that she was. Really worried about not having money. that was just because of her past experience, you know, I didn’t grow up with a lot of money.

 

[00:05:18] Um, it was difficult at a lot of times for me and my family. And, uh, as. I became closer to having money come in, what would normally happen, what was happening at this time was his inner child was always coming in and kind of taking control of the steering wheel because she was so anxious that we weren’t going to have money again, that we were going to have to rely on the government for food support and things like that.

 

[00:05:48] She was so nervous. That she felt that she couldn’t trust me to do sales calls. And so that’s why she pursued the scripts and the marketing. She spent money on these and she like worked with that coach and XYZ [00:06:00] didn’t trust me to bring that money in and hold it and keep it so that she would be safe. . That’s how I really discovered what sales is for me. I discovered it through a little bit of anxiety, through some pain, through some trauma healing, and I’ve completely transformed the way that I see sales. Sales for me now is. Oh, we’ll talk about it more in a sec, but just fun and nourishment and curiosity and innocence.

 

[00:06:29] And it feels glittery and it just feels like talking to friends, which is really awesome. And it feels like helping people, whether or not they end up working with me or not. It feels like the most natural thing in the world. But I got to this point through a little bit of pain. So the first thing I want you to know is like, if you are experiencing a little bit of discomfort around your income and your sales, then I want you to know that that’s normal and that’s okay.

 

[00:06:55] You haven’t done anything wrong. You’re in the right place and you’re right on time.

 

[00:07:00] You’re right on time. So, when we use sales scripts, what often happens is it actually creates kind of this pressure in your system, your nervous system that can lead to a fight or flight response. It adds this, and what happens is kind of this external, um, quality of like, okay, I’m going to use, I’m going to use this trick.

 

[00:07:29] The script I’ve learned this thing, and we then have internal dialogues and experiences that can activate this fight or flight response. And now a fight response, when you are using a sales script, looks like being that pushy salesperson, something that I know you really want to avoid. That flight response often looks like.

 

[00:07:56] Um, completely avoiding sales conversations,

 

[00:08:00] feeling anxious on the calls. That was kind of more my, that was more what happened to me. Then we have the freeze response, which can also happen because we still have pressure in the system. If it doesn’t get out through a fight or flight response, it comes into, it manifests as a freeze response and the freeze response with sales often looks like procrastination.

 

[00:08:27] So it’s all just kind of like, it’s like you in your business. It’s doing everything, but the thing that’s going to get you a sales call. And I think, you know, if you know, when you’re doing that, you’re doing everything, but the thing that’s going to make sales, your content’s awesome. Your business plan’s awesome.

 

[00:08:45] You’ve made your product. You’ve like figured it all out, but you’re not making sales. It also looks and feels like being full of shame. When you’re on sales calls, you’re having sales conversations. This [00:09:00] one sometimes you don’t even notice that you’re that you’re actually embodying shame because you’re so used to it I’ve definitely been there and it’s a tricky place to be because your animal body is communicating to somebody else’s animal body That, oh, hey, I’m, I’m in shame over here.

 

[00:09:20] Here we have, we have shame. What their animal body does, which everyone’s animal body does, which is do everything it possibly can to avoid shame. And unfortunately it means that no matter how perfect you get everything, they’re not going to want to work with you. It’s not going to feel right. Cause they want to avoid shame.

 

[00:09:40] You guys are both probably going to walk away from the call. Like. Almost in confusion of like, yeah, like we’re just going to see what happens. And you guys don’t work together. And it was crappy for both of you. What’s important to know. And this is what is really how I have come to [00:10:00] believe. And I’m inviting you to try this belief on for yourself.

 

[00:10:03] See how it feels. Through my experience, having many, many sales calls and doing a large amount of somatic inquiry around it, I have come to the belief that your job as a salesperson isn’t to make somebody say yes to you. It is to support, to support them in their decision making process and share your services with confidence.

 

[00:10:25] I’m going to say that again. Your job as a salesperson is not to make somebody say yes to you. It is to support them in their decision making process and share your services with confidence. So why is it so important that we pay attention to the nervous system while we’re doing this? Because if you are in one of those stress responses, you are thinking about the outcome.

 

[00:10:54] You are thinking about yourself. You are thinking about what you need. [00:11:00] And how to make it to go the right way, either through pushing, through being anxious, through avoidance, through procrastination, or for just showing up with shame. Cause we show up with shame really because we think shame is going to protect us.

 

[00:11:17] And so a regulated nervous system on the flip side actually wants to connect with others and support them. We have that engagement system inside of a regulated, sorry, we have inside of, yeah. Inside of our nervous system we have a We have a, an engagement system when the body perceives stress, it wants to run away or wants to fight or wants to freeze.

 

[00:11:46] It doesn’t want to engage when you are making connection through sales in order for them to feel embodied and anxiety free. And for order for you to do them consistently without burning out or without feeling off, you need to be coming

 

[00:12:00] from a regulated nervous system. Where engagement is a natural by product of just being who you are.

 

[00:12:08] Where connecting with others is a natural by product of just being who you are. And where supporting them is a natural by product of being who you are. And where feeling confident in what you can support them with and what you cannot. It’s just a natural product because then when you are in that really regulated space and you’re coming from that wise self, you recognize yourself as an expert and you want to guide people to your tools when it makes sense.

 

[00:12:39] And if it ever makes sense to guide them somewhere else, then you will do that because your goal, when you are coming from a regulated nervous system into sales and you’re not coming in with any sneaky little parts of you trying to manipulate the situation for some underlying reason that they believe is necessary.

 

[00:12:57] You’re coming in as an expert. [00:13:00] I know what I’m good at. I’m really awesome at this. You recognize yourself as an expert. You embody the expert. You embody that authority. You know what you’re great at,

 

[00:13:15] and you know how to support people, and you want to support people, and you want to guide them to the correct support. It’s not about trying to make them say yes, or work through objections, or say the right things, or like, like, no, that’s important, I guess, we’ll, we’ll speak about it when we work together a bit.

 

[00:13:33] You showing up ready to connect to another human being and what they need and how you can support them while recognizing yourself fully as an expert is the key to more sales. It is not another sales script. Think about that right now. What would happen to yourselves if you could fully Without a shadow of a doubt, recognize yourself as an expert, feel [00:14:00] into that authority in your body and hold it, hold it in difficult conversations.

 

[00:14:05] When somebody says, I don’t know if I can afford that. I don’t know if I could have time. What would happen if you could hold that embodiment of, I know who I am. I know what I’m great at, and I have enough space and resiliency and regulation and wisdom inside to support you. In working through your concerns about money or your concerns about time and really helping you make the best decision for you because a concern about money.

 

[00:14:43] That’s a thought. It may or may not be objectively true. We would have to have more conversation to find out. But if my anxiety or my procrastination or my shame or my avoidance doesn’t allow me to have those difficult conversations with love and 

 

[00:15:00] connection and engagement and ease and, and fun, then how am I ever going to help you make a decision about what you’re going to do for the rest of your life?

 

[00:15:07] I can’t. Because my wounded parts are taking over. So if you could show up 100 percent fully recognizing yourself as an expert, what would change? What would change? What would change is you could have sales conversations with so much clarity and pride and regulation and no anxiety at all. No anxiety at all.

 

[00:15:32] What if you felt fully embodied in those sales conversations? What would happen? And here’s another question. What do you need to overcome or to experience or to release in order to do so? What old story is your body holding that is telling you that you cannot support more people? What old story is your body holding about money, about receiving, about nourishment, or about

 

[00:16:00] responsibility that is running the show?

 

[00:16:05] And how are you going to go beyond mindset work? And trying to logic or argue with your mind? Which is a losing fight. Just to tell it that it is nothing to worry about. How will you go beyond just the back and forth in your head? To release these stories, to embody the expert, to regulate your nervous system and to do the inner work that allows you to show up as a space holder for sales conversations.

 

[00:16:32] Because sales conversations are conversations that change lives.

 

[00:16:40] Sales conversations are conversations where you exchange your expertise, your confidence, your guidance in order to support somebody else and you have fun doing it. And it has to come from your body. It has to come from your

 

[00:17:00] nervous system. Otherwise your animal body is going to communicate with the other person’s animal body.

 

[00:17:04] Even though you guys are talking forever, it may say something completely different. And your sales calls are going to feel out of alignment because in a way they are, they’re out of, there’s no congruency, your animal body, your nervous system isn’t congruent with the offer that you’re sharing or with the thing that you’re saying.

 

[00:17:24] And this is why we use a somatic cell strategy. We pull it down into the body, into the primal parts of the nervous system. The somatic sales strategy is a sales and marketing strategy that leverages the power of your body, your nervous system, plus strategic actions to support you getting your services in front of the right people and helping them decide that they are ready to work with you.

 

[00:17:48] This is the somatic sales strategy that has helped clients of mine make sales that feel too good to be true. Um, because they were like literally just themselves, not Nicky, not pushy, just [00:18:00] themselves. It has helped my clients create marketing plans that they can execute and lead to clients without feeling overwhelmed by their to do lists.

 

[00:18:08] And it has had clients drop into their lap even after inviting them to work with other coaches. This somatic style strategy is a key component because you are an entrepreneur because. You need. You like money, you want, you like eating your food, you like paying your rent, you like buying things for other people.

 

[00:18:27] You like supporting your charities. So the somatic sales strategy is what makes my program body-based business so effective at making sure that you can receive a return on your investment. You can start exploring some of the elements that are related to the somatic cell strategy by. Um, starting with my immersive masterclass, the embodied entrepreneur, this is a nervous system training where you are going to learn the one question you need to ask yourself to find more ease [00:19:00] and less anxiety throughout your day.

 

[00:19:03] What you must know to create a sustainable income this year, the unpopular advice that helped me save thousands of dollars and hours in becoming a full time coach. The only strategy that you need to double your income and impact this month and the four nervous system foundations to create more pleasure.

 

[00:19:21] Is and success in business. You will find a link for that in the show notes to recap what we’ve discussed today. We need to create space inside of you to come into your sales conversations or to come into your business without fight, flight or freeze responses. Your animal body will continue connecting with the animal body of the person that you are speaking to.

 

[00:19:45] And it is from there that they. We’ll make sales and purchase and buy decisions. And your job as a salesperson is not to make somebody say yes to you. It is support decision making process and share your services with confidence. This is

 

[00:20:00] something that is only going to be truly available when you can show up leaving your trauma around money, leaving your concerns, your anxiety, and your fears at the door and show up with a regulated nervous system that wants to connect with others and support them.

 

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Embodied Entrepreneur: Anxiety-Free & Profitable Business By Healing Trauma With The Nervous System By Sheridan Ruth Oct 12, 2023

How Your Nervous System Affects Your Business –  Poly Vagal Theory & Stress Relief Training Part 1

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Your nervous system will make, or break, your business. Do you ever wonder what separates you from those who seem to have ‘cracked the code’ of business, and you? I sure did! Until one day, in a moment of ‘divine desperation,’ I started applying my trauma therapy training and nervous system awareness to business. 

Then; a massive light bulb moment. That’s when it all began coming together. This knowledge has helped me, and my clients: 

  • Create sustainable income from your business 

  • Build a somatic game plan, a road map, and a structure to support an increase in income, and ease 

  • Spend more time taking naps, eating tacos and laying in the sun. 

This episode covers the foundations of:  

  • 4 places your nervous system influences your business income and impact 

  • What Poly Vagal theory is – and what everyone’s missing about it 

  • How to start leveraging your nervous system for success – TODAY 

Start regulating your nervous system in the moments of each day when you have little time, space and privacy. 

Do this by downloading my Nervous System Regulation PDF where you’ll learn how nervous system regulation/dysregulation looks in your mind, body and habits, and exactly how to return to a grounded, calm space – so you can get it all done. 

Download the Nervous System Cheat Sheet. https://pages.sheridanruth.com/nervoussystem

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Embodied Entrepreneur: Anxiety-Free & Profitable Business By Healing Trauma With The Nervous System By Sheridan Ruth Sep 11, 2023