190: Why Productivity Advice Fails —And The Nervous System Approach That Works

This episode is for you. Today, we're breaking down why traditional productivity advice fails high achieving women and what actually works in stead. By the end of the episode, I'm also going to invite you to the Academy.

So I'm going to do like the quick summary and then we'll dive deep just in case, you know, you don't have time to get to the end. Quick summary. The reason that most productivity hats don't work is because I assume that everybody's brain and body body functions the same way. Now I work with a lot of people who have chronic illness or a neurodivergent or have experienced some trauma, which gives them like a special, gives us a special kind of like flavor.

Thank you. And your business also has a really specific structure. I was literally just having a conversation with a client and she's kind of comparing herself to her car, um, what do you call them? Somebody that she lives with and they both have their own businesses and they both work from home and they work in different ways and she finds herself comparing the other person thinking, Oh my God, they're so productive.

You know, that feeling where you push through and you force yourself into a strict schedule and you probably get things done, but you end up feeling overwhelmed and like you kind of have left something on the table. You haven't lived up to the potential of what could have happened. You're not proud of your work.

And it's not because you're lacking discipline or a specific productivity hack. It's because you're not tapping into the intelligence of your body. And so you're working against it and it's working against you. You're not working together. The reality is you don't get tired, exhausted and unmotivated because you're working too much.

This is not a motivation issue. This is a regulation issue. So instead of trying to force yourself to be disciplined and be productive, what we're teaching inside of the academy. And what I'm asking, what I'm inviting you into today is to start looking at, okay, what is the feedback that my body is giving?

When to do them, what to do when you have a high energy day, what to do when you need more space to process or plan or rest, or you're not feeling motivated and how to be okay with taking some perhaps some time off or doing something else and knowing what to do to be still productive in those moments and having that confidence in yourself that you don't have to push through, even though it's scary not to stop doing things.

And then in the academy, we, okay. Help you structure your business in a way that honors those fluctuations. But we can only do this when we create nervous system safety. Because if your body perceives a task as stressful, overwhelming or unsafe, whether that's raising your prices or showing up online or making a big decision, you're going to resist it no matter how much willpower you have.

Then you create your allegiance strategy or your marketing or you create like the business plan and you design your work way so that you get more done in less time. There we go. So, the practice, if your brain feels foggy, unfocused or overwhelmed, you're going to try this one thing. We're all going to stand up right now.

I'm going to try and stop doing it and you're going to start shaking here and I want you to start tapping your heels, kind of dropping them down on the earth and then coming back up and then dropping them down on the earth. And then coming back up and then dropping down on the earth and then coming back up.

And we're just doing these heel taps with a soft body, shaking, moving some energy here.

And as you do that, you'll notice that your body kind of changes and you, you experience a little bit more regulation and it's not saying it's going to fix it. I'm not saying that you're going to completely change your entire state,

but then I want you to come in and you can kind of ask your body,

What is going to make money? What is going to get me to the right person?

And then you're going to ask, What do I need to make that happen? And you're going to go and do it. Now there is a disclaimer. Around this, this practice works, but there's a lot of fogginess that can happen inside. Either you don't get an answer to that question, or you do get an answer, and you don't have the confidence to trust because there's a part of you that thinks that you need to be doing something else, thinks you need to be creating content, thinks you need to have a strategy to do it this way, thinks that, I don't know, you need to do something because that's what that person taught you or that's what you learned in school, but you don't really want to do it.

It is a practice and you show up to do it over and over and over again, and it gets so much easier. I promise you it does. Today, like this, this week has been insane. I have completed the first kind of semester of my psychology studies, which are tertiary studies, which are really important to return to me.

Um, my book is coming out next month. We had the first coaching call for the academy. Sorry, my book is coming out in eight days. We had the first coaching coaching call for the academy. And in my personal life, like everything is just exactly what I wanted. And like, it's literally a situation where like I wrote it down in my diary and it's happening the exact same way.

I'm like, yeah, it feels good. And that's what is on the other side. This gets so much easier. And I'm sure that I'll look back in a year and I'll be like, wow, even this time last year, I didn't understand how much better it can get. That is what is awaiting you inside of the Academy. When you connect with me, sending a message will talk about what the next 12 months for your body and your business looks like so that you can tangibly really, really feel it and really, really understand how the Academy is going to support you in getting there.

But if you're an ambitious woman and you want to create success in a way that works with your energy, not against it, you're tired of pushing past pushing harder and you want to do good work in the world. You are invited to the Academy. Link in the show notes to find some information about it. Send me a message on Instagram or book a call from that same link that I just referred to so that you and I can connect.