The Bossbabe community has lied to you, making you believe that the more BOSS you are, the more SUCCESS you’ll achieve. Then the soft girl culture went the other way and said the more you just RELAX and embody, the easier success will come.
Neither are true. I’m not asking you to just relax and chill out (when I know that just sends you further into your head).
Listen as we dive into the downfall of bossbabe AND soft girl culture and why high achievers get sucked into the idea that they are meant to do it all on their own. Making receiving support, guidance and even money the hardest feat and the opposite of what “Boss babes” say are going to happen.
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TRANSCRIPT:
[00:00:00] The boss babe community has lied to you, making you believe that the more boss you are, the more success you will achieve. Then the soft girl culture went the other way and said, the more you relax and embody success, the easier it will become. Neither are true. . In this podcast, I’m not going to ask you to just relax and chill out because I know that that just sends you further in your head.
[00:00:36] We are going to dive into the downfall of the bus babe culture and both the soft girl culture and address the nervous season, re nervous system. Reasons why. Hi achievers, such as you, such as me get sucked into the idea that we are meant to do it all by ourselves, or we just end up doing it by ourselves because it feels better.
[00:00:57] It feels safer. We’re going to look at how [00:01:00] this makes receiving support, guidance, and even money the hardest part of your life and why the opposite of what boss, boss babes say, hustle and success , happens. It actually ends up happening. That was not articulate. Why? Well, the Boss Babe Soul Culture says, which is like this.
[00:01:21] Be that person, work really hard, get it all done, actually creates the exact opposite, which is scarcity and overworking.
[00:01:29] Cutting right to the chase. I have a client, I have a couple of clients and we’ve been looking at this over the past couple of months. They’re working with me inside a body based business and body based business is my one month. It’s a six month one on one coaching program where we build a sustainable business using somatic intelligence.
[00:01:48] It has three pillars, number one, nervous system regulation, number two, trauma healing, and number three, , systems and, , kind of anchoring and actions and making momentum. So the second pillar is the
[00:02:00]trauma healing. And I found with two or three clients over the past six months that this pillar was coming up with this very, similar pattern.
[00:02:10] It’s one that I’ve recognized as well in myself. And back when I was doing OCD coaching, I noticed it a lot, but it was manifesting a little bit more in romantic partnerships. They will like, like these, in the romantic partnership it manifests as you feel like you’re always kind of like in charge of your partner.
[00:02:26] It feels like they never really, Are doing enough. , maybe you can be a little bit nitpicky, you can be a little bit criticizing. It feels like maybe they don’t have a vision or a plan. And you kind of feel like you have to like take control of everything or take responsibility of the house and the money and all of the things and even like do the emotional labor and like you begin to feel really exhausted.
[00:02:46] There’s a mirror for that inside of your business, which is you end up pushing away money and pushing away support because of a really, really underlying factor, which is Often, [00:03:00] as cliche as it sounds, a part of you feels that it would be either dangerous to be supported because it’s very vulnerable, or you don’t believe that you are worthy of receiving some level of ease or money or like just goodness in life.
[00:03:17] I noticed this in myself lately. I have like this, I did a podcast episode on it just recently. I think it’s going to be number 137. I’ll link it down below. And it was really, really vulnerable because I’m like at this place where I have an amazing living situation. I have amazing relationships. , I have amazing work life balance since I stopped sharing so much of my private, uh, private stuff, , on the internet.
[00:03:39] I have amazing finances. Like I, I get to go travel. Like I have all these freaking, my health is great. I have all these amazing things. And I, I catch myself like what, at least once a week crying because it’s so good. It’s so intense.
[00:03:54] It’s like, Oh my God, this is so good. I just, it’s like too much. I just almost like, there’s a part of me that’s like, I don’t know if I can deal with
[00:04:00] this. It’s so good. And I will, I will literally cry like consistently because of that. And I noticed this in my clients as well. They were pushing away support.
[00:04:11] You would try and support them and then no, no, I don’t need it. Their partner would try and support them. No, no, no, I don’t need it. And they had this underlying narrative of I can do this myself. If I can do this myself, I should do this. If I can do it, I will do it. I need to do it. And there was almost kind of a lot of shame around actually wanting support.
[00:04:33] Meanwhile, there’s a part of you inside. There’s, there’s a part of you inside. There’s a part of my clients inside. There’s been a part of me inside screaming. I just need, I just want some help see me. I just want some help because in the past being vulnerable enough to receive support, Maybe you were taken advantage of, maybe your vulnerability and your innocence was taken advantage of, or maybe you were told that you were of more value
[00:05:00] if you could do all the things, maybe in your society, your culture, your family, , women who were educated and had a, , degree as far as everything who had like a really wonderful job and a paycheck and also thin and also pretty and also doing all these things.
[00:05:17] Maybe they were the ones that were celebrated and somewhere along the line you thought, well, I have to be all those things too, to be worthy or, or maybe there was a time where somebody. was kind to you. And then they utilize that against you. When they left, you opened yourself up to receive some type of love, some type of guidance, some type of support.
[00:05:42] And perhaps they took advantage of you. I see this in financial abuse from parents. I see this in spiritual trauma from spiritual people, spiritual organizations taking advantage of you. Or maybe you just decided at some point that it was just better if you did [00:06:00] everything yourself. And that happens sometimes in you, like you just do it or yourself.
[00:06:07] I noticed this, it’s worth mentioning that sometimes we, we have a really good experience with a coach and we think that we should have, like, we have a good experience. We like working with them and then we believe that we shouldn’t go back to work with them because we should be like, okay, now, like we shouldn’t need their support anymore.
[00:06:30] And so we step away from, you know, relationships that bring more ease into our life because we think that we need to do it all ourself. And I just want to name that and say, if that’s you go back to that person, receive that support. If it worked for you, let yourself, let it be easy. You are deserving of ease.
[00:06:52] And now we can go into, and in financially fierce, we will go into actually the embodied practices that help you feel that
[00:07:00]you’re deserving of ease for now. I’m just going to say it because That’s the scope of this podcast, but what we’re doing when you join, how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur, or when you DM me money audit, you get your money audit, or you, when you join financially fierce, or when you join body based business, when you’re working with me, we’re going to create these practice environments where.
[00:07:21] You don’t have to be so independent all the time. You can receive support and baby, you can relax, you can rest, you can release your belly, you can soften. And as a result, you’re going to begin to see how much everyone wants to support you, how much joy it brings others to help you, and how good things can get.
[00:07:43] Because trust me, you have barely even touched the tip of the iceberg. Next steps moving forward is go back and listen to the podcast that I haven’t named or numbered. I’ll put it down below, like my really vulnerable share about, feeling like we need to be a certain way in order to have financial stability.
[00:07:59] And my experience with
[00:08:00] that in this launch and then join or DM me this on Instagram or email to join, how to stay. Sorry to join how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur. If you are interested in receiving a nervous system, money audit, DM me money audit, depending on our conversation and what I’ve learned about you, I’ll make some recommendations to you.
[00:08:23] And one of them might be joining groups. The group financially fierce. It might be something else that either has something to do with me or absolutely nothing to do with me. I’m here to orient you. , I love you. I can’t wait to continue along this journey. Yeah, even if you’re nervous, reach out to me.
[00:08:39] We’ll have a heart to heart.