There is 1 weird way you know you need to heal your relationship with masculinity – and no, it has nothing to do with your relationship with men.
By the end of this episode you’ll know:
- The surprising way anxiety decreases and entrepreneurship creates when you heal your divine masculine
- The ONE thing all smart, female entrepreneurs can learn from the divine Masculine
- 1 x 90 second embodiment practice to cultivate the divine masculine inside for more ease, less anxiety, more intimacy and money
Recommended episode: November 20 58: How to Heal the Worthiness Wound to Receive More Love and Money – Trauma Healing and Nervous System Training. Click here to listen
TRANSCRIPT:
[00:00:00] Did you know that there is one weird way that you know that you need to heal your relationship with masculinity? And no, this has absolutely nothing to do with men . In today’s episode, you’re going to learn the surprising thing that can happen when you heal your divine masculine, along with what That actually means and all the misconceptions around it.
[00:00:34] You’re going to learn the one thing that all smart female entrepreneurs can learn from the divine masculine and the men around you. And the one 90 second embodiment practice to cultivate the divine masculine inside so that you can feel more ease, less anxiety, experience more intimacy. Erica, for recommending this podcast.
[00:00:56] I appreciate it. I actually got inspired in the middle of my [00:01:00] shower and kind of recorded a little voice note while after our conversation. And if, if I can, if there’s any discerning parts of that voice note from my shower conversation with myself, I’ll, I’ll include it in the edit. But yeah, that was fun.
[00:01:17] So let’s dive in. I think we need to discern, first of all, what the divine masculine is and what the divine feminine is. Now, this can be related to sex and gender, but it’s, it’s not necessarily in the way that I’m speaking about it today. The divine masculine and the divine feminine are energies that exist.
[00:01:37] They’re archetypes. They’re ways of experiencing energy. They’re different ways that you can experience the world or that you can posture yourself from the world. Every single person has both inside of us. We have both the divine masculine and the divine feminine. Each person in each different moment, literally moment of their life, experiences a different combination of these energies.[00:02:00]
[00:02:00] But we are that which experiences both. Both of them. A lot of the time these things are misunderstood and so, and they’re kind of taken to a place of wounding or we experience a really big trigger around them. So I’m going to explain what they mean to me for the context of this episode. We’re not going to do a deep dive into them.
[00:02:19] There will be a time and a space for us to do that. It is not today. The concept of Let’s think about the concept of the masculine. Masculine, the divine masculine is a container. It is he who observes. And now we’re pulling on tantric, um, philosophy, yogic philosophy and polarity and kind of elements of Taoism and the I Ching.
[00:02:42] But the masculine is the He who observes, it’s the container, it is that which kind of protects the space and provides a space where the feminine gets to be the energy. The masculine is [00:03:00] the container of observance, it is everything that is a boundary, it is very clear, um, and it protects this space and it provides a space for the feminine.
[00:03:10] The feminine is everything that is a boundary. The feminine is she who moves. The feminine is she who explores, she who dreams, she who is energy. If masculine is everything that is stillness and quietness and, and, and kind of like almost death, that kind of is nothingness, it’s the observer. The masculine is the arid desert.
[00:03:31] The feminine is is the amazonian jungle that is everything all at once and wants all of the things and moves very quickly and it is all of the things and aye aye aye aye she is the chaos she is the expression she is the change she is that which is forever changing and the masculine is that which is forever focused and still we have both of them inside so The one weird way that you know that you [00:04:00] need to heal your relationship with masculinity is if you’re experiencing a lack of focus, you’re experiencing anxiety, you’re experiencing a lot of uncertainty, and the one really weird thing is if you’re experiencing a lot of dysregulation.
[00:04:18] If you feel dysregulated, if you go into anxiety, if you go into hypercriticalism of yourself, um, perfectionism, if you go into procrastination, if you go into shame spirals where you go and you think that you’re not good enough, if you go into judgment, if you go into anything that is not a beautiful experience of receiving the moment exactly as it is right now with equanimity and peace, even if you’re experiencing big emotions.
[00:04:46] It is a sign that you would benefit from healing your relationship with the divine masculine. Why? Because proper regulation of your nervous system, meaning you being able to [00:05:00] experience fluctuations in the the stress response of your body will actually help you accept and accommodate all of the chaos and the change in life without associating them with your self perception.
[00:05:15] So think of the masculine is the frame. I am that which frames. I am that which creates, creates a space. Right? And I allow the Feminine to kind of flow through me and around me and it just changes all of the time And there’s lots of ups and downs, but I am the masculine I can experience it without collapsing and making what the feminine energy of life is doing mean anything about me.
[00:05:42] Right? The masculine is, is there. Whatever the feminine is doing, it doesn’t really change, the masculine just observes it. Now, a lot of what we do inside of our minds, especially as female entrepreneurs, we’re literally drenched in estrogen, which [00:06:00] means that our nervous systems tend to have more of this feminine energy in, in general.
[00:06:04] This is, I’m not speaking in absolutes, but we’re drenched in estrogen, meaning that we experience more of this change energy. Estrogen changes, the feminine nervous system changes, we have hormones that change all the time. And what happens a lot of the time is that we identify with being the feminine and that which changes.
[00:06:25] And so all of the things that happen in life and the client said this and then that person said that and now my aunt is sick and then I have to go over here and then my partner did this and this guy that I’m dating is this and what does that mean about me? is a sign that we are in this chaotic energy of the feminine.
[00:06:42] When we are able to cultivate a divine masculine side, It is able to observe the emotions inside of us, observe the thoughts inside of us, observe life happening through us and around us without collapsing into shame, without collapsing into what if there’s something wrong with
[00:07:00] me, without spending time spiraling into what if I’ve made a mistake or what if I’m going to fail.
[00:07:05] When you can hold your frame, you can say, ah, this is life happening. Ah, this is the sales process, salesing. This is the people asking questions. This doesn’t mean anything about me. This is. This is the frame of me, and this is life flowing through me and around me. And so if you tend to dip into anxiety or into perfectionism or into procrastination, please come back to an embodiment practice I’m going to share with you in a moment.
[00:07:38] Um, my clients, I have a group program at the moment, Shameless Sales, we’ve been practicing this a little bit, so they’re going to be more familiar if you’re listening. Um, but I’m going to give it to you. The shot one in 90 seconds that you can use today, you’re going to come back to the embodiment practice.
[00:07:52] But before we can get to the embodiment practice, I want to talk to you about one last thing, which is the one thing that all [00:08:00] smart female entrepreneurs can learn from the divine masculine. Yeah, this is a good one. I’m in a really, uh, I’m, I’m feeling very privileged at the moment in my life because I have some really good men around me and, uh, they’re teaching me something and it is single focus.
[00:08:22] So the Divine Masculine and the Testosterone Soaked Nervous System has more of an ability to focus. The Estrogen Soaked Nervous System, it is really good at multitasking and it kind of feels like everything is screaming to you all at once to get things done. Whereas, the testosterone focused, um, nervous system is more about achieving one goal, resting, and then achieving the next goal, and they have this beautiful ability to focus on one thing.
[00:08:48] It’s really frustrating when it means that they don’t see the towel that needs to be picked up and put away, but it’s really good for achieving goals. And so smart female entrepreneurs like you and like me,
[00:09:00] what we can learn is to not always prioritize our spontaneous and intuitive, um, ups and downs, but to also learn that there are moments where it behooves us, it is beneficial to us to focus.
[00:09:15] The masculine focuses on tackling actual problems when they occur, not before they’re a problem, The feminine tends to search for issues. We tend to look for problems to solve. Your mind is always looking for a problem to solve, right? We tend to anticipate them. We’re thinking, oh my God, but if I do this, then six months down the line, I’m going to have to solve this problem.
[00:09:36] The masculine says, what is my problem in this moment? What is the best way that I can solve it using the least amount of resources possible so that I can rest? Okay. Now I’m going to do that. Okay. That is complete. Great. I’m happy. I will rest now. I will sleep. Oh, okay. And there is another problem. Next step.
[00:09:51] Repeat. We can benefit from that. We can learn from that. It requires a little bit of discomfort, but But there’s a [00:10:00] lot to be gained at the end. We save ourselves so much time and energy. And so a mantra that I kind of lean back on is nothing is a problem until it is a problem and it is safe to focus.
[00:10:12] I’ll be sharing another podcast episode about that in the next coming weeks. Oh, but that’s a good one, right? Beautiful. Um, now let’s do this embodiment practice. This is a 90 second embodiment practice that you can perform daily. That is going to help you. Okay. kill your relationship with the masculine and cultivate more of the frame of observation that I just discussed.
[00:10:37] Um, that’s going to help you have that single focus, have less anxiety and feel less emotional or mental turbulence as it relates to what’s happening inside of your world and the external world. Let’s take a few deep breaths. Wherever you are, you can do this. Um, if you are able to please close your eyes and start feeling into your [00:11:00] body.
[00:11:04] And we’re just breathing here, taking a few moments. See if you can identify your spine and your shoulders. I want you to inhale, lift up your spine, and exhale feel your shoulders broaden. And I want you to just become aware of the things that are inside of you right now. You’re going to observe the sensations.
[00:11:26] See if you can name one. Literally say to yourself, I am aware of this sensation.
[00:11:36] Then you’re going to do the same but with a thought. And you’re going to be very simple about this thought. You’re going to give it a topic sentence. You’re not going to go into the thought. You’re going to observe the thought. You’re going to say, I am aware of thoughts about.
[00:11:57] And then you’re going to identify if there is an emotion
[00:12:00] here.
[00:12:03] And you’re going to say to yourself, I am aware of this emotion.
[00:12:10] So see if you can zoom out a little. Becoming more aware of these things. Becoming aware of the sensations. Becoming aware of the emotions. Becoming aware of the thoughts.
[00:12:27] See if you can zoom out and become she who is aware, he who is aware,
[00:12:37] that which contains the experience. Now you can repeat this many, many times over. You can perfect it. You can get more elaborate about it. Um, there are many ways to play with it and to utilize it. But this is a basic, um, practice that you can begin playing with. If this is the type of, uh, episode that you really enjoy and you are [00:13:00] curious about how to heal parts of you inside in order to receive more love and money, I would highly recommend that you listen to episode number 58, How to Heal the Worthiness Wound to Receive More Love and Money.
[00:13:12] This is quickly becoming one of my, one of the fan favorite episodes. I have received so many compliments on this episode. People reflect back to me things that I said on it and I’m like, oh my god, I said that? That sounds good. I literally have just downloaded this to listen to again, because it is that good.
[00:13:29] By the end of the episode, all the things that I covered were the missing piece between therapeutic work, business development, and the worthiness ruined, the truth about charging what you’re worth, and the unseen connection between worthiness, love, and money, and how to use that connection to double your income and impact.
[00:13:45] It’s going to be really awesome for you if you ever wonder if you’re enough, if you’ve done enough, Or if this is working and you’re tired of doubting, I’m going to go listen to this again. It’s going to be a really good one. Anyway, I love you guys. All the link for that episode will be
[00:14:00] down in the show notes.
[00:14:01] Ciao.