Why Smart People Can’t Be Consistent – Trauma Healing Training For Profitable Business 

By the end of this episode, you’ll learn:

The 1 nervous system reason you can’t be consistent

How to use eastern methods and modern neuroscience to find consistency

What you MUST know about discipline for more ease, pleasure and abundance in your life

Don’t let inconsistency hold you back from your goals.

Recommended episode: How To Stop Your Self Sabotage – A Profitable Business Nervous System and Trauma Healing Training

By the end of this episode, you’ll learn:

The sneaky nervous system limit that keeps you worried, anxious, and stressed

The only way to make your hearts desires come manifest, using the body

3 steps to stop self sabotage using nervous system regulation

TRANSCRIPT:
[00:00:00] You’re a smart person, that’s why you’re here listening to this podcast. And I know that you probably struggle with being consistent. We’re gonna bring more consistency into your life without doing things you hate.

[00:00:11] By the end of this episode, you will learn the number one nervous system that you cannot be consistent. How to use ESIM methods and modern neuroscience to find consistency and what you absolutely have to know about discipline to find more ease, pleasure and abundance in your life for the rest of your life.

[00:00:46] Sheridan: In our last episode, we spoke a little bit about the upper limit, the amount of pleasure and success the nervous system feels safe receiving. We’re going to touch a little bit more on that today. So just to recap super quickly. , when [00:01:00] you are stretching your upper limit, so moving past the amount of pleasure and success that the nervous system feels safe, seizing, receiving the body begins to feel unsafe and it will do things such as self sabotage, worry, complain, or do things that you know that you shouldn’t do or create new problems to solve that are really not that important and not going to get you towards your goal, to, uh, Make sure that you don’t go to this place that your body perceives to be really unsafe.

[00:01:32] It only perceives it to be unsafe because it is unknown. So here’s the reason why smart people can’t be consistent. It comes down to one thing that we’re going to work on in two different ways using nervous system regulation inspired on polyvagal theory and Ayurveda. We’re kind of bringing in together here, the Western and the Eastern.

[00:01:58] And it comes back into [00:02:00] this idea that an active mind, there’s so much, there’s so much energy in your mind. There’s so much energy in your mind. Your active mind will do this little thing where it invents a problem. To solve an active mind would rather solve a problem that it knows how to solve then solve a problem that it doesn’t know how to solve and your nervous system kind of dictates where energy goes and how your mind and the state of your nervous system.

[00:02:32] So whether I’m in a fight, flight, freeze, fawn or regulated state, the state of your nervous system dictates how your mind perceives is going to best use that energy. So if we’re, if the body perceives the unknown to be unsafe and it still has all of this energy in its head, it needs to use it in some way.

[00:02:56] It doesn’t want to create the thing that you want to create because [00:03:00] it thinks that that’s going to be unsafe. It invents a problem. It gives you new problems to solve. So you spend all of this time and energy, for example, thinking about how can I be more consistent instead of being more consistent. So you might find that you have an active mind.

[00:03:22] You’re smart. If you’re listening to this podcast, like you’re smart, you’re doing things in your life, you’re ambitious, you’re self loving, you’re a million things. And so you might have trouble being consistent. And that might be because if you, your body knows that if you were consistent, it would get a lot of things done.

[00:03:46] It would serve a lot of people. It would receive a lot of money. Things would get really, really good and that might be petrifying to your body. Hmm.[00:04:00]

[00:04:01] Yeah. It might be petrifying to your body. Like what if things got better? How would that feel? Some of you are going to be sitting there like, Oh my God, Sharon, it would feel really, really amazing. It would feel really amazing. Yeah. It would feel amazing. I have no doubt. And a lot of the time there are parts of ourselves that aren’t so sure that it would feel amazing.

[00:04:23] And this can manifest as simply as I don’t want to pay more taxes or it could manifest as I’m worried that if I earn more than my husband, I’m going to lose them. Or what happens if I earn more than my dad, if I’m more educated than the rest of my family or if I get canceled on the internet, if you really sit and think about it, what would happen if things got good?

[00:04:44] What new problems would I have? What specific challenges would I have? You will have them. Challenges don’t disappear overnight because you earn more money or you sign more clients or you work less hours some do but[00:05:00]

[00:05:02] So when we are trying to be more consistent, and we find that we have an active mind that makes it more difficult for us to be more consistent, we really need to come in, in both the back door and the front door. When I say back door, I mean that it’s more of like an indirect, subtle way. It’s very, very potent, but it’s more subtle.

[00:05:27] address the imbalances that are making your body feel like it needs to invent these new problems of figuring out why I can’t be more consistent instead of just being consistent and We can do that in a couple of different ways So a lot of the time our mind begins to get really active in inventing these problems because it is Imbalance with the elements of wind and fire.

[00:05:56] When wind and fire are out of balance in your overall mind body [00:06:00] system, including the nervous system, it creates a lot of movement and it makes it really, really hard to stay consistent. And then it exacerbates this active mind, which then creates more problems, which then makes it more hard to stay consistent, which like you’re all over the place.

[00:06:15] And it’s this big, you know, um, what’s it called domino effect. And so when we’re working through the back door, we want to actually invoke a little bit of discipline.

[00:06:33] I hear you guys, this is Freya. She is my cohost. She helps me. She asked me the questions that you guys are already thinking, cause I know you guys are thinking them and she’s learning to build her business alongside you. And if you hate discipline, just like Freya here, I hear you. I hear you. I hear you. I hear you.

[00:06:51] Pretty sure every single client of mine that I’ve ever worked with has hated discipline. Not all of them, but like maybe 75%. [00:07:00] And so, a lot of the time, we actually feel like we hate discipline because of stability. Because maybe it’s actually related to a painful memory, such as, I had to be really disciplined when I was working in XYZ, or when I was getting my master’s degree, or, or, you know, when I was a kid, and it was really uncomfortable for me.

[00:07:23] And that’s really valid. Sometimes we just hate discipline because… We just like, we think it takes away from our pleasure or our freedom, but I want you to consider the fact that stability and discipline create freedom and pleasure because stability and discipline focus energy and it is focused energy that becomes more potent energy that in the end creates more freedom and pleasure.

[00:07:53] If you were disciplined with your consistency and you did it in a way that doesn’t feel like you’re [00:08:00] drudging through mud, But a way of like, I feel good in my body and I feel excited about this, then you will create more momentum and you will create more ease and you will create more freedom and you will create more pleasure.

[00:08:21] Now I’m not saying you need to just go and sit down and just be disciplined about that. I’m actually inviting you to look at discipline in a slightly different way. I want you to look at discipline in how can I increase the elements of stability, warmth and security through loving discipline, not just discipline for the sake of discipline, but how can I increase The amount of stability in my life.

[00:08:45] So routines are really helpful. The amount of warmth in my life, things like self massage or just being warm or being with warm people or the amount of security in my life. So what are the things that I can do that bring me a sense of [00:09:00] security for some people that’s wearing a specific t shirt regularly, or.

[00:09:06] You know, for me, it’s actually having eggs for breakfast. I love eggs for breakfast. I have it every single morning and my life changes a lot and I am moving around a lot and I, I find that having eggs for breakfast just gives me a sense of security. It’s a really nice thing for me. , maybe it’s meditation, maybe it’s.

[00:09:26] Having a coach, like what are the things that are warm and stable and secure in my life, and how can I bring more of them into my life? It doesn’t even have to be related to your coaching business or your service business or your product. It doesn’t have to do anything to do with anything of that. Some of the really good ways to do it that I recommend, um, some of my clients inside of body-based business, when we’re in body, in body-based business, we have an Ayurveda intake form.

[00:09:55] And we make specific recommendations so that we’re looking at how you’re supporting your business through [00:10:00] this backdoor. And so, when we’re trying to bring in these elements, some of the recommendations that I will make are having warm foods, having a stable routine in all parts of your life as you can, and making fun for spon making time for spontaneity.

[00:10:15] Don’t go overboard. Having sweet foods that are grounding, so that might be like red meat or sweet potatoes, like potatoes of any sort. These are slightly, these are kind of sweeter foods that are really grounding and just pull you back down into the earth and evoke the elements that of stability, warmth, and security.

[00:10:36] And that kind of lowers the imbalance of wind and fire, which is making your mind up in the air. Deck floating around unable to focus another way of doing this is with an Ayurvedic self massage which is called Abhyanga, which is just really lavishing your body in oil and Oh, it’s just beautiful. If you send me a message, I’ll send you a little PDF that I have for that.[00:11:00]

[00:11:00] Um, it’s, I’ll be on go. You can also Google it. So that’s the back door. That’s how we’re going to bring more consistency through the back door. Then we have the front door, which is the more direct way. And I kind of touched on this before, but it’s worth its own step. You need to look at your relationship to consistency and discipline.

[00:11:24] You need to look at how you feel. About being consistent and being disciplined. Is there in fact perhaps a trauma from when you were in academics? Is there a part of you that doesn’t actually want this thing and is self sabotaging? Are there perhaps emotions of disappointment or feelings of failure?

[00:11:43] That happened that you are experiencing inside of your body that you haven’t processed from the last time that you were really focused and disciplined. We need to look into the actual specific reason why it’s really hard for you to be consistent. We need to process and integrate that, learn the [00:12:00] lesson, gain the wisdom, and then move on and be consistent because you’re smart.

[00:12:07] You’re smart and smart people can be consistent. Sometimes it’s just harder for us. So what I would recommend that you do is take action on all of these things and then go back to the last episode, episode number 49. It’s called How to Stop Yourself Sabotage. Um, you’re going to learn more about the nervous system limit that keeps you worried, anxious, stressed and unable to be consistent.

[00:12:31] How to make your heart’s desires come manifest using the body. And then the three steps to stop self sabotage using nervous system regulation. Enjoy, you’ll find the link below.