3 Somatic Steps To Stop Doubting Yourself On Social Media (Nervous System Resilience, Confidence and Financial Freedom)

This episode will take you through exactly how I would coach around this question so that you walk away with resilience, confidence and clear next steps. 

Next episode recommended: 130: Why Money Security Requires More Than Just ‘Thinking Abundant Thoughts’  – Nervous System and Somatic Training for Financial Freedom 

By the end you will: 

1. Understand why traditional approaches to abundance mindset might be keeping you stuck in financial insecurity.
2. Learn how to tap into a deeper sense of internal security that transcends economic fluctuations and market changes.
3. Discover practical techniques to shift your focus from anxiety to actionable steps that positively impact your financial situation.

TRANSCRIPT:

[00:00:00] Today’s episode comes from a listener request to answer a specific question. If you have a specific question you would like to ask, please DM me on Instagram. I’ll put my Instagram below so that you can do that. I would love to answer it. So the question is, I have an online business that depends on marketing through social media.

[00:00:18] Therefore analytics are important. And when I don’t get feedback and good engagement, I find myself wavering in my conviction to walk this path. How can I become more resilient to this so that I don’t. So that I stopped doubting and keep moving forward towards my vision. Hands up. If you felt this, can you like put a little emoji in the comments below or something, if you felt this, or even just let me know on Instagram that you’ve, that you resonate because I’ve definitely been there we’re going to look at this through the pillars of body

[00:01:00] based business. So there’s regulation, trauma healing, and strategy. That way you’re going to walk away from this episode with a tangible thing that you can do today. To feel more resilient, stop doubting, keep moving forward and take care of your business as analytics and engagement so that you can address the underlying unconscious, nervous, hidden patterns that are creating this wavering.

[00:01:23] And then we’re going to look at how to strategically change things inside of the business so that this isn’t something that you have to kind of bump up against so much. I’m going to give some fairly broad, uh, recommendations. If we were sitting on a coaching call, I would go a lot deeper because I would have somebody to speak with, but it’s just me today.

[00:01:45] Let’s look first at what’s happening and why we’re in this predicament or why we’re in this pattern. What’s happening is that our nervous system is always looking to things that tell us that we’re safe and that tell us that we’re loved.

[00:02:00] Engagement, likes, um, comments and analytics, they tend to do a really good job at telling us that we’re liked, at telling us that we’re loved.

[00:02:09] That little like button, that comment button, it feels like somebody’s approving of you. Somebody agrees. It’s like, Oh yeah, it’s that little validation that so many of us have been looking for, especially if you’re coming from a place where it’s been difficult to express yourself or you’re sharing something that feels vulnerable.

[00:02:26] And so it’s really valid that you would be in this place. It makes sense that your nervous system is orienting and utilizing when it does go the way that you want as validation of yourself and your dreams and reassurance that things are going really well, reassurance that you’re going to get to your goals.

[00:02:45] You’ve put a lot of time and energy and money to these goals. So it makes sense that your body would be finding a I’m looking for ways to reaffirm and reassure you. That’s really beautiful. However, when we 

[00:03:00]notice that the things outside go not according to plan, or we are lacking a certain engagement or analytic or something, uh, it can put us into that place of doubt.

[00:03:12] Did I do enough? Did I do it the right way? Is my vision makes sense? It’s not a problem, it’s just not super helpful because that doubt makes it, you know, this cause like you’re experiencing it. It’s like that doubt. Now I have to go and spend time getting back to that level of confidence instead of spending time and energy looking at how to help the business get to the correct people in the right way.

[00:03:42] And bring in the revenue. Once again, there’s nothing wrong with this. It’s just, is it the most helpful? So how do we come more resilient to these changes and these analytics and things so that you can stop doubting and keep moving forward, but at the same time, we need to address that the business 

[00:04:00]does need people to look at it.

[00:04:01] We need people coming in. You do need to market. So the first one is regulation. If you guys don’t already have my nervous system regulation PDF for tools, tips, tricks for when you are low on privacy space or time on how to regulate, you definitely need that. Um, but you need to find those in the moment regulations that make sense for you.

[00:04:23] I had a client yesterday, she shared that it was really helpful to do a cold shower after a call because that like gave her her nervous system the reset that she needed. I have another client who really likes to do inner child meditations, he’ll experience he, he told me the other week about how like one of his websites went down and he felt like this.

[00:04:46] He’s like, okay, I felt this tension in my chest, so I stepped away and I did an inner child meditation. Okay. I’m feeling scared. And I just spoke really nicely to my inner child. And then I came back and I, I fixed the website situation. That would be an example of an in the moment regulation. [00:05:00]You’re in the moment.

[00:05:00] Regulation might be other things such as not drinking so much coffee before you have a look at your reels or your engagements, not, um, looking at them until after you have moved and looking at them after you go to Pilates so that you’re in that really high energy calm space regulation. We can use breath.

[00:05:21] We can use movement. We can use essential oils. but in the moment regulation. Once you’re there, let’s start looking at the deeper underlying patterns that are causing you to need to be regulated so that you don’t need to focus so much energy on regulation. My question to this individual would be, why are you doubting?

[00:05:42] How is this doubt pattern serving you? When have you done it in the past? And on the contrary, What thing about possibly being so unapologetically confident in yourself would feel really scary, [00:06:00] or really weird, or really different? And I would actually do an embodiment practice about feeling into being the person who is so resilient that those things are just like, you just, water slides off your back.

[00:06:10] It’s just not, it’s a non event. That identity change, that embodiment, being that person. How does that feel? Does it feel sticky? Does it feel icky? Does there like a, like a resistance? Is it possible to access that version of yourself that just is more resilient? Sometimes there’s going to be like a block and we need to like kill some of the reasons or address some of the reasons why it’s difficult to embody and be that version of yourself and sometimes it’s just a practice and we just need to practice being that person more.

[00:06:44] Being that more resilient person. Inside of body based business, which is my one on one coaching, we do get access to ease, which is a nervous system cost on resilience. And we go, we understand a little bit more of this. Resilience is being able to bounce back [00:07:00] from something with effectiveness, efficiency, and ease.

[00:07:02] It’s not, not being triggered. So when I talk about being that resilient person, we have to acknowledge that doesn’t mean that you’re not going to be, you’re not going to have feelings of doubt. It’s like, yes. Okay. But that resilient person, when she experiences doubt and she, Waves in her own conviction.

[00:07:19] How does she respond to it? What does she make it mean? Something that’s been really helpful for me is like I had a inner child healing session with myself and it became very clear that when I have these thoughts, they’re all thoughts and I can witness them and see them almost like drip and dribble out of me.

[00:07:39] But I am that new version of myself and the other thoughts just pause. So when we go and we do the somatic healing, we do the, the parts work and we do the embodiment, we do the movement. Usually we had access to a little piece of wisdom like that that comes from you that will give you a little bit of insight on how to be that person.[00:08:00] 

[00:08:00] And then how do we set up your business so that it doesn’t matter so much. So maybe you actually have somebody else that Look at those analytics, or maybe you look at those analytics with your coach so that you’re being held inside of that container because we do, or maybe we only look at them once a month and the rest, we just let it go.

[00:08:16] We do want to be looking at engagement, looking analytics, understanding what works so that we can do more of that, but we don’t need to be exposing you to triggers. All of the time, it just may not be helpful. So either get some support with it, take it to your coach, do it with your coach. Um, do it with your best, maybe not your best friend.

[00:08:38] I feel like sometimes I can be not super supportive. Um, um, sometimes it is do it in a way, like how can you structure it? Or maybe you don’t actually need to look at all, or maybe you don’t use so much social media. Maybe you do more email stuff, or maybe you do more in person stuff. What is going to be the easiest.

[00:08:57] way for you to keep track of your [00:09:00] marketing without it triggering these wounds. All in all, kind of like, what’s the easiest and can you do that? Anyway, you’re going to love episode number.

[00:09:14] So as it relates to being and holding that more resilient person of your version of yourself, make sure that you listen to episode number 130. It’s called why money security requires more than just thinking abundant thoughts. It really focuses on understanding why traditional approaches to abundance might be keeping you stuck in financial insecurity and how to tap into a deeper sense of internal security or resilience that transcends all of the fluctuations.

[00:09:41] We will share, I share practical techniques to shift your focus from anxiety to actionable steps that will positively impact your financial situation as an embodied entrepreneur. Enjoy that. Much love to you. Links below. Speak to you soon.