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Release Your Anxiety Around Paying Bills and Spending Your Savings  (Somatic Path To Financial Freedom)

Month: July 2024

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Holding back from investing in your business, yourself, or the stock market because you’re worried about needing your savings in cash at any moment? If it feels ‘like the other shoe could drop in any moment’ this episode was made for you. 

Press play to: 

  1. Learn whether surface-level, short-term solutions or deeper, long-term approaches are best for managing your financial anxieties.
  2. When to pick surface level, short term solutions vs  underlying unconscious nervous system patterns that are leading to your anxiety. 
  3. How my client went from anxious and unsure how to spend money to feeling “like I know what I’m doing” with business investments, personal and stock investments, as well as feeling “supported and secure.’ 

Download the Father Wound Flow Chart by messaging me ‘FLOWCHART’ on Instagram here. www.instagram.com/_sheridanruth_ @_sheridanruth_  

 

Sign up for How To Sustainably Make Money As An Entrepreneur, a free embodiment practice on August 12. DM me FIERCE for your personal invitation. @_sheridanruth_   

 

TRANSCRIPT:

 

[00:00:00] If it feels like the other shoe could drop and you could need your hard earned savings in cash quicker than you think, and that’s making you delay investing it in your business, in yourself, or even in the stock market, this episode was made for you. By the end of the episode, you are going to know whether or not you should be choosing surface level, short term solutions, which aren’t always bad.

 

[00:00:39] Or if it’s time for you to go deeper into the underlying unconscious nervous system patterns that are leading to having your anxiety, I’m going to share with you the best next step, which is an embodiment practice on how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur and make wise

 

[00:01:00] embodied decisions around your bills and spending your savings, investing in yourself or saving cash. Today’s. Podcast episode is inspired from the father wound flow chart, which details how your father wound might be impacting your income and your business and what you will gain by healing it to receive that. Send me a DM on Instagram. However, you don’t need that. to get the most out of the rest of the podcast.

 

[00:01:30] This episode is inspired by a client who is generous enough to let me use her transformation and her story as a teaching moment for us all. I was inspired to share with her, share her story as well, because it’s really similar to my own. If you’re a coach or some type of service provider, you know that we end up working with people who have had really similar patterns.

 

[00:01:53] And so most likely if you’re here, you can also identify yourself in this. When my client came to 

 

[00:02:00] me, she literally wrote on her intake form that she holds her breath and tensions her jaw, tightens her jaw, were the words she used, when getting her credit card statement. She said, I have savings to invest, but I’m procrastinating doing it because it feels like in any moment the other foot could drop and it would be better to having cash, but this is just sitting in my bank account depreciating. you know, it could be as much as like 300 that you’ve saved. It could be as large as 300, 000 that you’ve saved. It could be 3 million that you’ve saved. I don’t know. But if you’re experiencing anxiety around your bills or around spending your savings, Yes, sometimes this is a surface level problem that requires a short term solution and sometimes most likely you’ve tried that just like my client when she came to me.

 

[00:02:52] When I noticed these tensions inside of my spending habits, I had already tried some of the surface level

 

[00:03:00] short term solutions my client had it well when she came to me specifically the We had both tried perfectly trying to plan our day in business. We had this thought pattern that was like, if I can just figure out my perfect wake up time, my perfect routine, if I can just find the best strategy, the way to like organize my calendar, or if I can find the best budgeting app, or if I can find the best planning agenda, or if I can even buy them the best sales script, then I can make more money, be more productive, um, feel like I have momentum, feel like I’m doing enough.

 

[00:03:31] And then I’m going to feel better about where my credit card comes. Hands up if you felt that way before. Meanwhile, this is something that she was experiencing. I haven’t quite been there because I’m really anti burnout, but she’d been working 12 hours a day, five days a week. And so in between her full time job and then building her business, she was working all day, every day.

 

[00:03:56] And when she wasn’t working, She was thinking about her business and she

 

[00:04:00]felt anxious about it and she felt guilt on the weekends and she felt like she felt like she had to always be online and like she had to like make sure that she wasn’t missing any emails or any opportunities and it’s almost like her brain always had to be on.

 

[00:04:15] I definitely felt this way at the beginning of my business. Even though I was resting, it was like I was always on thinking about it and there’s a beauty and a passion and like something so beautiful in that. Um, and also. Not so she thought the solution was to be more productive and work less But she would do that and she would feel guilty even when she wasn’t she had already invested in a coaching container for accountability But she ended up feeling distracted She didn’t reach her goals inside of that coaching container and she walked away with a really tense Relationship with the coach and also feeling a lot of shame around that She kind of oscillated between blaming herself and blaming the coach and the coaching container.[00:05:00]

 

[00:05:00] She thought that if she could make the coach fix something, then she would feel better. And then somehow her problems would go away. And there’s nothing wrong with this. I’m not here to, to shame or to blame. That’s not where we’re coming from. It’s just bringing awareness to certain thought patterns that we have, because it is that awareness that gives you the point, the decision point to change.

 

[00:05:23] Now, you can focus on perfectly planning. You can focus on being more productive. You can focus on choosing, um, to have somebody take responsibility for something that may or may not be their responsibility. That is fine. If that’s where you have capacity for. So you’re going to know if you have capacity for it.

 

[00:05:42] If what I’m about to present to you just feels like way too much. Hmm. Okay. Wait a second. You will know that you have capacity for it. If perhaps you just haven’t done it before and you haven’t learned the wisdom from taking the short term solutions or short term surface level approaches, [00:06:00]there’s a desire to like, give it a go.

 

[00:06:01] If you want to give it a go, give it a go. You’re probably going to end up back here at some point, but it might be with a different level of wisdom. So give it a go. I trust you. The people who end up working with me find that the downfall of the surface level short term pollution is that you do not get to the root of the problem or the energetic nervous system level, orientation, because your nervous system kind of orients to different things, thinking that that will provide it safety or alleviate its pain orienting to the problem.

 

[00:06:31] And you will either eventually return back to the deeper work, or you will mentally and physically burn out completely. And. Shut everything down and completely avoid it and ignore it. This is detailed inside of my father wound flow chart, which if you would like a copy of, you can DM me on Instagram, uh, to receive this father wound flow chart.

 

[00:06:54] Today’s. Podcast episode is inspired from the father wound flow chart, which [00:07:00] details how your father wound might be impacting your income and your business and what you will gain by healing it to receive that. Send me a DM on Instagram. However, you don’t need that. to get the most out of the rest of the podcast.

 

[00:07:13] It’s just like a helpful visual to have, particularly if you’re a visual person like myself. So option two is to actually go really deep in and heal the unique father wound. I want you to think of your father wound, not necessarily in that your dad did something or failed to do something, although that may be the case for you.

 

[00:07:32] It’s rather the way that your nervous system relates to every, anything that we might call Masculine, masculine energy. It’s seen in different ways, uh, depending on the school of teaching and the lineage. But I think of it as anything that tends to be more solar, more active, a little bit more outward energy.

 

[00:07:54] It tends to have something to do with provision. So being provided for, being, [00:08:00] um, Sorry, protected as well. It also has everything to do with containers and communication. Like container would be a period of time. This is the, the hour in which I’m going to record podcasts. You might have a, you might have an opinion about your structure.

 

[00:08:18] It’s structures. It’s kind of that like, Scaffolding of our life, as well as all of this solar actions that are more action oriented. It’s kind of like the hunting and the doing and the productivity and moving towards goals and, and decisiveness and protecting yourself, protecting your abysm. Anyway, once again, this is detailed a little bit more on that flow chart.

 

[00:08:38] So when you engage in anything that is related to this divine masculine. Performance, productivity, goals, strength, decisiveness, protection, your nervous system, if it has a wounded relationship with though that archetype or those actions, it defaults into a protective or a fear based [00:09:00]mechanism. And instead it becomes preoccupied with looking for love and safety.

 

[00:09:04] Gabor’s Mate Book Scattered Minds is a wonderful supportive resource that details this, um, a little bit more, , it is important for you to understand that your nervous system has an understanding of these things and its default way to look for love and face, love and safety is not just based.

 

[00:09:26] On what has happened in your life, your nervous system holds seven generations about what is safe and what is not about how to get love and how to get not about how to be provided for and how not to be about how to feel protected and how not to, about how to be productive and how not to. Therefore it is reacting not only to the moments in your personal life where you may have been hurt, abused, traumatized, disrespected, invalidated, but also By the masculine, all of these solar things, all of these action oriented things,

 

[00:10:00]but seven generations prior, seven generations prior.

 

[00:10:07] And so because you are, In embodied entrepreneurship, because you’re looking to cultivate a sense of embodied safety and unconditional loves or support in your nervous system so that you can then access the positive life affirming qualities of the masculine. You’re going to want to listen on like how to heal.

 

[00:10:30] What we’re calling the father wound, because when you access this embodied safety, unconditional love, your nervous system gets to take on these healthy, um, qualities of the masculine. And it allows you to experience things such as. My client finished with me and we have like an intake form. At the end, we do like a celebration call and it writes kind of like, what are your biggest three aha moments of our time together?

 

[00:10:57] And she literally wrote, paying my bills [00:11:00] and dealing with my credit card is basically a non event. It just feels like I’m supported. And I just haven’t really even thought about it in the last three months yet before we had anxiety. Now we don’t think about it. She said, I’m investing my savings and I feel like I know what I’m doing.

 

[00:11:13] I feel super, super safe seeing my cash gain returns in the stock market and also see the way that it’s supporting me in my personal and professional life. That’s a big deal. And the way that we’ve done that, and the way that I’m going to share how to do that with you, there’s a couple of steps. First, you were going to want to uncover your unique flavor of your father wound and create a healing environment in which it can find the love and safety that it’s been looking for.

 

[00:11:43] And when we do that, your symptoms immediately start disappearing. It’s not like a joke. It might be too good to be true, but it’s like, we don’t need the symptoms because the symptoms were a protective mechanism because there’s nothing to protect because we have a supportive environment inside symptoms, no longer necessary.[00:12:00]

 

[00:12:00] And you learn how to marry courage, focus, action, and discipline with safety, flow, and love inside of you and outside of you. These unique flavors of the father wound sometimes feel like, um, not believing in yourself because like one time you told your dad about something and he didn’t believe in you, feeling like you can’t do it, feeling like, I’m really confused, I don’t know how to do this.

 

[00:12:23] Um, also burning out and like, just like doing so much work, like those 12 hour days or trying to get everything perfect or being a little bit passive aggressive or feeling like there’s an urgency all of the time or feeling super, super scattered. Like you’re doing all of the things all of the time and like you just feel scattered and you can’t focus enough to create momentum.

 

[00:12:45] It’s not fun. This is the first step, understanding your new, unique flavor of your father wound of your wound within the divine masculine. And I’m going to share exactly how to do that inside of the free live embodiment practice called how to [00:13:00] sustainably make money as an entrepreneur. I’m really excited about this practice.

 

[00:13:04] We recently did an embodiment practice for a very small circle of mostly my one on one clients. And. The level of transformation inside of that 20 minutes is so beautiful. , everyone walks away with a little piece of different wisdom and it’s particularly wonderful because like, we’re not just doing like another masterclass or another thing.

 

[00:13:23] Like you guys have signed up for a lot of stuff for a really long time. Like we’re kind of over it. I don’t want to just like, Pitch you some random thing. No, we’re going to get in our bodies. It is such a gift to be able to share these things with you. It’s one of my favorite things to do, to be moving, to have music, to have breath.

 

[00:13:38] It’s the coolest fricking thing. Um, everyone walks away so happy with it and I’m so blessed to be able to just share it. So very excited to share it. It’s an embodiment practice on August 12th. You will find all of the information that you need inside of the show notes to sign up and let’s focus on that first.

 

[00:13:57] Let’s focus on understanding your flavor of the [00:14:00]father wound. If you can focus on understanding that for the next couple of weeks, then we’re going to work with how to address the deeper unconscious somatic patterns that are creating urine symptoms, and then how to find your healthy masculine expression, like what that looks like and how to marry flow with structure.

 

[00:14:20] Um, what burnout feels like and how to avoid it, but still be an active person. Action, um, how to feel power, how to feel, how to take away your sense of, um, running away from pain and therefore maybe avoiding some of your work. We’re talking deep, long lasting solutions, and it all begins with the embodiment practice, how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur.

 

 

 

Why Making More Money As An Anxious Entrepreneur Isn’t About The ‘Right’ Decisions

Month: July 2024

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Do you often feel like your entrepreneurial journey is a rollercoaster of anxiety and uncertainty, despite all your efforts?

By the end of this episode you will know: 

 

  • Why making more money as an anxious entrepreneur is really all about (not doing more/or doing things right). 
  • How to respond to the thoughts of “nothing is working because I’ve tried it all” 
  • An embodiment practice to hold regulation even when clients complain, you’re afraid and/or hopeless  


Listen to episode 130: Why Money Security Requires More Than Just ‘Thinking Abundant Thoughts’  – Nervous System and Somatic Training for Financial Freedom (click here to listen)

 

Sign up for ⁠How To Sustainably Make Money As An Entrepreneur⁠, a free embodiment practice on August 12. DM me FIERCE for your personal invitation. www.instagram.com/_sheridanruth_

 

 

TRANSCRIPT:

 

[00:00:00] There’s absolutely no way to get entrepreneurship right. And you cannot perfectly plan anything and you will fail. Here’s how to do that with more ease. By the end of this episode, you will know why making more money as an anxious entrepreneur is not So I’m going to talk to you today about how to respond to the thoughts of nothing is working because I’ve tried it all, and what to do when you’re thinking, I’ve heard this advice before, I’ve been practicing it, and how is this different?

 

[00:00:45] For a lot of us, we can, particularly if you tend towards anxiety or you’ve had some type of trauma in the past, there’s a large part of you that’s internalize this. I do. This belief or this hope that

 

[00:01:00] if you make the right decisions, you can avoid pain and failure. On some levels, this is really true. If I do X, I can probably create Y and avoid Z.

 

[00:01:12] And sometimes it’s not so true. True, especially when we enter into realms that involve things outside of our control and even outside of our knowledge. Entrepreneurship involves relationships with other people, involves the way that other people perceive you, the way that they respond, it involves their lives.

 

[00:01:32] You know, all the stimuli that they’re dealing with, what it involves, what’s happening with their grandmother. It involves what’s happening in the U S election. It involves economics. It involves so many things. And yes, it is our job as entrepreneurs to look at numbers and look at your marketing analytics and look at your profit and loss statement and like all of these things, yes, that is true.

 

[00:01:54] Yes, we want to focus on the things that we can control, but you know, my dear, beautiful, anxious 

 

[00:02:00] entrepreneur, that there is a part of you that looks so hard to get things right and to do the right thing that when things start to feel like they’re not going in the way that you were expecting, you start falling into that place of this is hopeless.

 

[00:02:13] Nothing has worked. I keep trying. I feel like I’m getting nowhere. Oh my God. I’m really tired. I’ve heard this advice before. I’m bored. This is just like, I I’m done. Right. You probably kind of rollercoaster through that. And then maybe the next day you wake up and you feel lighter and you keep going, or maybe it takes you a little bit longer.

 

[00:02:31] Maybe it’s a place that you’ve been for a couple of months. What I want to introduce you today is that Successful entrepreneurship, particularly if you tend to be a little bit more of an anxious person and overthinks you’re maybe a bit of a perfectionist or prone to burnout, it is less about what you do.

 

[00:02:51] It is specifically about being and holding. It’s not even about how you think it’s about being and

 

[00:03:00] holding in some ways this is kind of vague and it is intangible. I’m going to get as clear as I can. And I’m also going to share a couple of steps of how to. Be at the end of this podcast so that this doesn’t end up being another piece of fluffy feel good advice. And actually you can take what you learn from this podcast and apply it immediately to what’s happening inside of your inbox or your next sales call.

 

[00:03:25] When you’re so focused on doing or on the actions, it’s usually a sign that you are in a fight or flight response, which is a stress response saying that your body is perceiving some level of. You might be aware of that threat consciously, so it might feel like a deadline or a conversation with a client that is really important to you.

 

[00:03:44] Or it might be a less conscious threat of like, you actually have an underlying fear of failure running throughout your nervous system, giving you thoughts and emotions and sensations that make it feel like you just have to keep going and doing more. I have a client, I have a, not a sorry, a client, a [00:04:00]friend who we’re recently talking about this and she was kind of noticing it play up.

 

[00:04:05] She’d been working on this stuff in different ways for a couple of years, like with her talk therapist, et cetera. And we saw her dysregulation and her fear of failure. around a specific environment interaction with a client where she was really just focused on doing. So she’s walking out through her day in her life and she’s like focusing on like, I’ve just got to get this done.

 

[00:04:28] I’ve just got to get this done. I’ve just got to get this done. I’ve got to do the right thing. I’ve got to make the right decision. I’ve got to, I’ve got to, I’ve got to make, I’ve got to get it right. And so what did it happen is that it actually led to her. Staying up and like feeling a little, a little bit depleted.

 

[00:04:43] You can kind of tell that she’s just like a little bit depleted because she’s feeling a lot of pressure in her business at the moment. She’s got to reach certain milestones soon. And, and it’s. It’s just feeling like a lot for her. However, she has this wonderful client that brings in a lot of revenue and she [00:05:00] had a project with them and she had a meeting with them.

 

[00:05:01] She’s been focusing on doing all the things. She’s re she’s one of those people similar to you. She’s just really focused on getting it right. So she’s worked really, really hard on this project for this client. And she’s like, okay, I think we’ve got it right. I hope we’ve got it right. However, she walks into the meeting room and she can immediately see a Her client’s face.

 

[00:05:21] Her heart starts beating, her palms start getting sweaty. She is immediately activated into a fight response. Oh no, something has gone wrong. Her client says something about the work that is not great. She’s not happy. Client is not happy. And, uh, it, it, because for the client, it felt like certain things had kind of been rushed over probably because my friend was so focused on doing, um, and that it wasn’t to the creative capacity that she was expecting from the agency.

 

[00:05:55] Not great. So my friend actually starts getting [00:06:00]really defensive and defending all of her decisions. That makes sense. She’s in a fight. nervous system response. However, this defensiveness isn’t what the client needs at the time. And it just escalates the client interrupts my friend. Now my friend is feeling helpless.

 

[00:06:19] Oh my God. No, this is never going to work. And so she just starts offering like doing more, like we can do this other thing. We can add on this other thing, but it’s, it’s not helping get anywhere because the client is, it doesn’t need that. It doesn’t need you to do another thing. She needs you to remedy and be with her in the discomfort of the fact that she was expecting something that wasn’t delivered.

 

[00:06:42] She needs to. She needs you to connect with her first, human to human, and then find the solution. So, the whole thing escalates, the client basically is like, you know what, like, I don’t want to deal with this, and actually walks out. My friend cannot stop thinking about it, she goes back to work, she messages her 

 

[00:07:00] friend, she messages her partner, she messages, like, the group chat, and she’s like, this thing happened, oh my god, um, and she’s like, um, I can’t stop thinking about it.

[00:07:07] She’s analyzing it. She’s getting angry. She’s judging herself. She’s judging the other person and it ends up keeping her up all night and her whole rest of her week is just bad. I’m going to share with you what would have happened if she was in a regulated space. So if she was coming to this space from a place of being and holding a place of regulation, what would have happened is she would.

 

[00:07:31] Kind of held that position of I’m, I can fix anything. I haven’t done anything wrong. I’m not failing. I’m safe. I’m provided for I’m protected, which means that she would have seen the scowl of her, her, the bad kind of uncomfortable face of her client. And her shoulders kind of would have pulled down her back.

 

[00:07:52] She probably would have softened and she would have kind of maybe opened her. It sounds really kind of, uh, esoteric, but. Kind of opening her cart a little bit

 

[00:08:00] and she would have maybe slowed the way that she walks and sat down and looked at this client and said, Hey, I’m noticing, um, Um, and then when the client said, I’m not happy because of X right there, she would have softened a little bit more without going into the client’s, um, dysregulation and anger and soften a little bit more.

 

[00:08:23] I probably asked a question and gotten curious. Okay. Yeah. There would have been some level of understanding validation. It’s firm though. She’s not taking on all of her clients. Uh, sometimes the complaints are not fair, but she would have been able to connect with that client, make them feel seen and heard and, and important.

 

[00:08:41] And probably they would have walked away saying maybe there’s not a solution in this moment, but we’re kind of going to figure this out. She probably would have walked away. Maybe her heart is like beating a little bit fast. , it’s not that she’s not affected by this. She might be annoyed. Maybe there’s a little bit of tension in her shoulders, but she walks away from that.

 

[00:08:59] She [00:09:00] immediately calls her team and there’s an action and she kind of just lets it go. And it becomes more about, okay, how, like, this is a thing that’s happening. Let’s remedy it. We’ll figure it out. Maybe she replaced certain parts of the discussion inside of her head, but in a way of, okay, cool. What did I learn from this experience?

 

[00:09:16] And how do I move forward? She might think about what went wrong and then address it next week in a meeting. She might call a friend or just go to the gym and just kind of like work through it. It doesn’t rob her of a good night’s sleep. It doesn’t rob her of the rest of her work day. It doesn’t rob her of her self confidence.

 

[00:09:38] There’s no overwhelm. This is something that I get to teach you guys inside of group programs or inside of my one on one. It’s a little bit more difficult to teach in a podcast, but I’m going to try and introduce it as best as I can. To go deeper into this, I would ask you to look at the following, , advice.

 

[00:09:59] Number [00:10:00] one, what is holding regulation feel like in my body? And what are the things that take me outside of regulation? So for example, yours might be a fear of failure. And so it’s not about looking at things from a fear of failure and trying to make the right decision or to do enough so that you can avoid failure.

 

[00:10:21] It’s what does it feel like in my body? Two. Not be concerned about failure or to know that if I fail, that means I’ve learned a lot and I’ve done a really good job and I can move forward from that. And failure is actually maybe a, one of the ways that I actually work towards success. Failure is a part of the process.

 

[00:10:43] There was a great article I read that was like, , the best entrepreneurs are the ones that fail the most because that’s where we learn the most. So. What does it feel like in your body? Where do you go out of that? So what does it look like when you go out of that? What are your specific triggers? Is there an [00:11:00]inner child part?

 

[00:11:01] Or is there a sensation in your body that needs a little bit of love? That would help you hold that energy of like, Meh, failure is not a big deal. Like, cool. And then how do you hold that in the moments where the rubber meets the road? In your client conversations, when you are creating your content marketing, sometimes it’s like a breath adjustment.

 

[00:11:20] Sometimes it means that you only engage in those activities when you can feel really regulated and you get really protective around those things. So you don’t put yourself in triggering situations or you don’t have heaps of coffee before you write. Sometimes we need to look at things, um, Through the energy of it, all the trauma of like, why are we so afraid of failing?

 

[00:11:41] For each person that’s going to be different, but I’m here to help you hold and be more in the, yeah, that makes sense that I would have fear of failure. And. I can move through entrepreneurship with resilience and regulation. And as a result, I’m going to reach my goals quicker. [00:12:00] One of the really great ways to practice this is by going and listening to the episode, why money security requires more than just thinking abundant.

 

[00:12:09] Thoughts. This is number 131, and I will make sure that you have the link down below in the show notes. The other place to do this, which is going to be the most effective is in a side of your body. So I’m hosting an embodiment practice on August 12th, where you’re going to learn the embodiment practice that all intuitive entrepreneurs need to learn so that they can make money sustainably through entrepreneurship.

 

[00:12:34] This is a really. Intimate, um, embodiment practice. I’m treating it as if it were a paid container, which means that I’m making sure that every person who walks in there is the perfect fit. Go ahead and send me a DM on Instagram so that you and I can have a super quick conversation to make sure you are the perfect fit for how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur.

 

[00:12:56] If we fill you out, I will extend an invitation for you to sign up for [00:13:00]free. I’m looking forward to speaking with you.

The Real Way To Manage Your Anxiety As An Entrepreneur with Inconsistent Income (For Financial Freedom)

Month: July 2024

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Tired of feeling unsupported and anxious in your entrepreneurial journey, no matter how much you do? 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to cultivate a sense of stability and empowerment, even with inconsistent income, and stop the cycle of feeling like you’re never truly healed or supported.

 

 

In 11 minutes you will: 

  1. Learn how to find true security within yourself, independent of external circumstances.
  2. Discover effective strategies to overcome the anxiety of inconsistent income and feel genuinely supported.
  3. Understand the deep-rooted issues that might be triggering your anxiety and how to address them for lasting peace and productivity.

 

 

Resources: 

  1. Download the Father Wound Flow Chart by messaging me ‘FLOWCHART’ on Instagram here. ⁠www.instagram.com/_sheridanruth_⁠ @_sheridanruth_ 
  2. Listen to episode 127 and 128: 13 Ways Your Father Wound Is Secretly Keeping You Anxious, Overworking and In Scarcity  ⁠ Click here. ⁠
  3. Join How To Sustainably Make Money As An Entrepreneur  ⁠Click here. ⁠
 
TRANSCRIPT:

[00:00:00] If you feel like you are pushing or you are forcing, you’re trying so hard to feel protected and supported by your business or even the people around you, this episode was made perfectly for you. In the next few minutes, you will learn how to cultivate a sense of stability and empowerment, safety, and security.

 

[00:00:34] Even when you have inconsistent income, exactly what to focus on to feel like you can stop running around in circles on your healing hamster wheel and the one common mistake that people just like you have been on their healing journey for a little while now, uh, make that causes them to feel exhausted and over it and feeling like, Oh, haven’t I healed this already?. 

 

[00:00:57] When I entered into the, , online entrepreneurial [00:01:00] space, I was a yoga teacher. I’ve transitioned through teaching yoga, becoming a yoga therapist, coaching around anxiety and hair loss and OCD and a million different things until I’ve landed here. There was one thing that kept showing up, which was no matter how much money I earned, I felt like it was going to go away.

 

[00:01:23] I felt like my success was going to go away. And I would project this onto the uncertainty of income. And I would think, well, if I just had a stable income, Then everything would make sense. It would feel good. I would feel secure and that’s stable income. I thought, well, I’ll say I’ll do like a group program or I’ll like plan my launch out perfectly or I’ll strategize everything.

 

[00:01:42] Or if I get my, , if I get my. Uh, like timetable down, right? Like that will make sense. Or if I have the perfect savings plan or something, and it was difficult. Maybe you feel similarly, maybe you’re in a position where you’re coming or you’ve been [00:02:00] in entrepreneurship for a little while, you’ve got some savings, maybe you’ve done pretty well in your career, but when you consider the fact that you’re, , Incoming entrepreneurship is more uncertain or fluctuates.

 

[00:02:11] It, it makes it more difficult to buy things you really like, like the expensive yoga membership or to invest an extra amount into your stock portfolio or your retirement or, um, or to consider perhaps making a larger investment like that. Buying a house or something, maybe it means that you feel extra anxious or tight or that you need to be a certain way around sales or marketing, and it can feel like there’s so much pressure that activates your inner critic and makes you feel stressed, which then makes it hard to feel focused in your business.

 

[00:02:42] And then you feel like really like guilty and gross. And it’s just like this bad cycle. I I’ve been there. Maybe you’ve just feel like you’re unsupported. I definitely had this as well. I just felt like I was unsupported. I had this like underlying feeling of I’m not getting enough support.

 

[00:02:58] I would kind of judge myself [00:03:00] for being needy or Something or I would like project it out to the people around me. My friends don’t support me enough They don’t do enough for me or my partner doesn’t support me enough He doesn’t pay for enough things or whatever and I would kind of project it out but it was this underlying feeling of Instability and not being protected and not being provided for in a way that felt safe, that was creating a larger anxiety.

 

[00:03:27] Because the truth is, it’s not about the inconsistent income. The answer isn’t to have consistent income. If you have inconsistent income, that’s more than enough to cover your needs.

 

[00:03:38] You will feel more secure, you know, you can be handed a million dollars tomorrow and you could have it fall through your fingers in three weeks. You can have a savings account that is perfectly cushioned and you can still feel anxious about money.

 

[00:03:53] You’re going to have contracts set up for the next six months and still feel like tomorrow you need to figure out how to get a new

 

[00:04:00] sale. Your anxiety around your income or your anxiety in general. isn’t about that thing. Anxiety is a messenger from the psyche, from the subconscious to look at something deeper.

 

[00:04:14] And that’s something deeper for many of us is how wound around the divine masculine, which is that which protects and provides. I’m going to reference the father wound flow chart. These are, I’ve created it to support us through the next couple of episodes because I’m going to be going and really detailing the symptoms, the problem, quote unquote problem or the wound that’s inside.

 

[00:04:39] And then what’s on the other side of healing those symptoms. You can listen to this episode. Referencing the father wound flow chart. If you send me a DM on Instagram and either myself or my assistant will send you the Google doc where this flow chart is. 

 

[00:04:53] You do not need this flow chart to listen to this episode, but if you’re a visual person and you like to be able to reference back, then

 

[00:05:00] you like to be able to read, I I’m happy to share it with you just so that we’re really clear about where we’re going. So, as I’ve mentioned, Some of the common symptoms of a triggered father wound inside of your business would be feeling anxiety around inconsistent income feeling unsupported and On the side of this flow chart, there are also some other wounds, some other wounds mentioned or other symptoms mentioned.

 

[00:05:28] You can also reference episode number one 27 and one 28, 13 ways. Your father wound is secretly keeping you anxious, overworking, and in scarcity. I will also link that below inside of the show notes so that you, if you haven’t listened to that, I highly recommend that you do the symptom is.

 

[00:05:49] Feeling unsupported, feeling anxiety and wanting sustainable income, feeling a desire for sustainable income. What is probably happening though, underneath of [00:06:00] that is that your business is triggering your father wound and your father wound has something to do with, I don’t get enough love or resources or protection or provision from the The divine masculine, the universe.

 

[00:06:16] Common ways or flavors of this is feeling like money or success or your clients or your partner will abandon you or feeling a push to kind of pursue a high profile career or have a certain income because your father had really high expectations of you. Or on the flip side, if your father like doesn’t like the rich feeling like you need to not like succeed, supersede, go over a certain amount of income, like you need to stay poor because that will, then you’re, you’ll be a part of the income bracket that your father is in.

 

[00:06:52] And then that way he’ll feel really good when he provides for you, if he does in certain ways, or he will like approve of

 

[00:07:00] you because you’re one of like the quote unquote good guys. It also manifests as feeling. Powerless feeling like you don’t know what you’re doing having that thought of, I don’t know how, or I can’t just repeat during your day because we get in large part from our father, a healthy sense of I’m capable.

 

[00:07:20] That’s part of what the divine masculine, healthy, divine masculine will teach us. Once again, if you go into the. Father wound flow chart. This is going to go into that in more detail. It’s going to be really supportive for you. Send me an Instagram DM to get it. So if your father didn’t instill inside of you a healthy sense of I’m capable, you will consistently feel powerless.

 

[00:07:41] And then you don’t take action because you think you don’t know how, and then you don’t see the results you want, and then you feel shame about that. And then it makes it harder to take action. So you don’t achieve your goals. You also might experience a lack of self belief. So if your father didn’t believe in your ideas enough for you,

 

[00:08:00] maybe it was enough for your sibling, but it wasn’t enough for you.

 

[00:08:03] It can instill inside of us a belief that we don’t know what we’re doing and we can’t trust our decisions. I want to take a moment to really note and affirm that you may have had a really beautiful relationship with your father. You may not, but also understand that your nervous system isn’t necessarily responding just to your father.

 

[00:08:22] It’s responding to its understanding of everything that represents the masculine. So your nervous system holds seven generations of information about what is safe and normal and what is not. Therefore, when you engage in your life and you engage with yourself, when you engage in other people, your nervous system is reacting not only to the moments in your personal life where you may have trauma.

 

[00:08:46] Been not believed in, or you may have been hurt or you may have been traumatized or disrespected, or a abused, or just not supported by the masculine, but seven generations prior. We are 

 

[00:09:00] responding to seven generations of unhealthy relation with that which it represents the masculine, which is everything to do with containers commitment, um, provision support.

 

[00:09:11] This is detailed inside of the flow chart a little more, but. It creates this pain, right? And now you can go through and you can focus on perfectly planning your day or finding the perfect strategy or like working really hard or trying to, or you know, you can do, I’ve done, I did this and it was a little bit helpful.

 

[00:09:33] I pay myself a salary and that, that’s really nice. And so I, My, my income is the same all the time, no matter what my business is doing. And then I get to look and if I, you know, I get a really nice bonus this month, which is fun. Um, cause we made, we made some good money, which was nice. You know, that’s like an extra, extra support.

 

[00:09:51] Go on another holiday. Yay. Uh, it’s yeah, it’s, it, you feel supported. You can look at those strategy and inside of body based

 

[00:10:00] business, we do look at those strategies. However, we address the deeper emotional, emotional. pain and discomfort or cloudiness or ickiness or stickiness so that the strategies are much more effective.

 

[00:10:12] Because you’ve done the thing where you run around trying to do all of the stuff and get your schedule right and do this. You’ve done that. Maybe it was helpful. You’re probably tired and you want something else. So when we come in and we heal that underlying wound so that you feel more supported, so that you feel protected, now the inconsistency of your income does not cause you anxiety.

 

[00:10:37] It causes you to say, huh. Yeah, I’m gonna do this. This makes sense. Okay, cool. Spoke to my account and did that. Looks like the strategy is, oh my God, how fun. Let’s do this. Yes. I’m so excited. Let’s do it. It’s just easy. Like, and you can just achieve so much more and then you go and you make dumplings. Like it’s just, it’s just a vibe.

 

[00:10:54] So that’s what we’re here for. We want it to be easy. We want it to be simple. That’s what you’re going to achieve. You were going

 

[00:11:00] to achieve that. Ask me for the father wound flow chart, go and listen to 13 ways. Your father wound is secretly keeping you anxious, overworking and in scarcity. And if you haven’t already sign up for August 12th, uh, free embodiment practice called how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur.

 

[00:11:16] That’s the day that I’ll be opening the doors to financially fierce. And I cannot wait to see you there. You’ll find links below. Love you. Bye. 

 

If You’re Healing Trauma While Building a Business You Will Go Broke – DO THIS INSTEAD for Financial Freedom

Month: July 2024

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This is the solution to the problem you didn’t know you’ll have. We’re here to go deep and avoid burnout and financial stress. 

By the end of this short episode, you’ll have the key to feeling like you are always on track, always energized by your work, knowing your work is always the truest expression of who you are, and seeing your bank account full so that you can take your mom to Bali, book your sauna date and invest in the charities and wealth building ventures you desire. 

 

You’ll also learn more about Financially Fierce – my 6 week group program. 

 

Because… 

Your path to financial freedom requires nothing that is outside of you.

 

‘Financially Fierce’  is your somatic pathway to anxiety free and profitable business and we’re creating financial freedom for high achieving, overthinking, anxious perfectionists just like you.  

 

To prepare, join my free embodiment training and masterclass; How to Sustainably Make Money as an Entrepreneur on August 12th. 

 

I’ll be teaching the embodiment practice that intuitive entrepreneurs must know to make money in a sustainable way, prevent burnout and feel supported sustainably by your business.

 

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TRANSCRIPT:


[00:00:00]here is the solution to feeling like you are always on track, always energized by your work, like your work is always the truest expression of who you are and And also seeing that reflected in your bank account What I’m about to share with you today, I wouldn’t say that it is the answer to a mistake that people make when they are simultaneously building a business and also healing the trauma or getting more in contact with that true essence of themselves that feels light and childlike and playful and embodied.


[00:00:48] Because I don’t want you guys to think that it is a mistake that you’re making. However, what I am sharing with you is the solution to the problem that you didn’t know that you may. That you’re going to 


[00:01:00] have as you heal this journey The problem that you didn’t know that you have Is that a lot of the people?


[00:01:08] um who a lot of you guys entrepreneurs who are Maybe a little bit anxious maybe a little bit of an overthinker maybe feeling a little bit prone to burnout Um, maybe feeling insecure and unsure of like how do I how do I How do I build a business? How do I increase my income? How do I have more sales in a way that feels aligned and feels good and I’m excited to go to work to do every single day and how I get paid without abundantly well at the same time is that a lot of the goals that you’re setting at the moment are coming from a.


[00:01:44] A place of trauma, and I’ll go into the details about that in a moment. And when we heal that trauma, when we no longer feel the need to protect ourselves or to prove something, then those goals 


[00:02:00] tend to sometimes just not feel that relevant. And the problem that we run into then is, okay, cool, so How do I feel good about the fact that I’m not achieving necessarily the goals that I thought that I wanted?


[00:02:14] Um, what am I achieving instead? And how do I not feel like a failure? Because a part of me who might still be in those protective mechanisms or in that pain, Looks at what I’ve done or what I haven’t done and says, well, you should have X, Y, Zed. You should have, you know, built that business and made those 50 K months and made the program and you should have done the service and you should have applied for that thing and you should have gotten it.


[00:02:38] So here is the solution to feeling like you are always on track, always energized by your work, like your work is always the truest expression of who you are and And also seeing that reflected in your bank account so that you can go out and buy the things that you want so that you can take your mom to Bali so that you can,[00:03:00] um, you know, invest in the things that are important to you.


[00:03:04] And so that you can look at your accounting software and say, yeah, cool. Profit and loss statement looks fricking awesome and I just made some money and I did it doing the things that I love. So. This information is coming to you from a beautiful client session that I just had as well as some reflection of, of my clients over the past that I’ve been doing over the past month.


[00:03:29] Some of you guys know that I just took a month off in Europe and during that time I went through and I had a look at some of my favorite, um, case studies of clients through the body based business method. The body based business method is a trademark pending method that I’ve been utilizing. Both on myself and guiding clients through in a one on one setting for, I think it’s two years now.


[00:03:51] And we had a lot of clients go through it. Um, I’m preparing to do some different things now that I’m back in Australia with the body based business method. [00:04:00] And the first step in that is collating some, some statistics, some information and getting case studies really clear. While going through these case studies, what I’ve found is that so many of my wonderful, beautiful clients, myself included, set these big goals for our business.


[00:04:18] Some of those goals might be actually, I have some written down from the client call that I was on earlier today. Um, you know, it’s this kind of energy of, I’m going to have, 20, 000 come through each month in one on one coaching. And I’m going to create a course that does this, and we’re going to have 500 people in every month.


[00:04:40] And I’m going to buy this really like nice car and I’m going to And I’m going to have Google ads and I’m going to have three assistants and I’m going to, um, do consulting for this specific [00:05:00] company. And I’m going to also write this book and I’m going to do all of these things within six months. What is consistently true is that those goals we set come from a place of wanting to prove your worth.


[00:05:19] Wanting to prove you’re smart, wanting to impress your dad and have your dad say good work, baby girl. Wanting to be a perfect person, be the perfect entrepreneur, be the perfect wife, because your mom taught you that you have to be perfect in a specific way. Um, wanting to show your co workers or colleagues or, um, you know, even childhood friends that you are right about something.


[00:05:52] Maybe you’re coming from it because you’re in a lot of pain and every time that you help somebody else through their pain, it’s like you’re [00:06:00]healing yourself. And so it’s a very wounded healer, not in always in an empowering way. Um,


[00:06:09] you’re coming to these goals maybe because you think that you need to save a thousand million dollars before the end of the month or if not, inflation and the recession is and the depression is going to eat you alive or because there won’t be enough money in ten years or because you won’t have enough time in five years to be able to work so you need to.


[00:06:32] Save it all up now. Or maybe you’re thinking I have to always look after myself and I can’t rely on anyone else so I need my income to be extravagant. Or I need people to know that I am successful and cool so I need enough money to buy certain handbags. And now I’m not saying that the handbags are wrong or that wanting an income is wrong or that any of these goals are wrong, not at all, but they’re, they’re [00:07:00] placed from a different energy.


[00:07:02] Sometimes we place goals because we think that achieving that goal is going to alleviate us from pain that we are holding inside. That is not always a bad thing. None of these are bad. Sometimes that is actually really effective. And I’m very grateful for a lot of people in the world who have done that because it’s Bought a lot of beauty in the world.


[00:07:23] Something that consistently stands out to me is an episode that I listen to from Richard Branson of Virgin. And he talks about how he kind of built Virgin, trying to impress his mom. And it also comes to mind, unfortunately, some people just experience a lot of pain, especially if you’re more marginalized and you just kind of have to channel that and, and make something better out of it.


[00:07:46] These are not bad things. But if you’re here, you’re probably more likely to be In the realm of having the experience [00:08:00] where you begin doing the trauma healing work, you look at your inner child, you start processing your emotions and these things no longer have a hold on you. This has been true for my client.


[00:08:10] This has been true for me. I’m going to tell a little bit of story, kind of combining a couple of different experiences just to keep the anonymity of the client and provide as much context so that you guys can resonate and understand. We set these goals, thinking, Now, if I get this thing, then I prove that I can, once I have that, my dad will say X, Y, Z, once I do the course and I have all of that stuff.


[00:08:37] And we keep kind of building the business and taking the steps forward. And sometimes it feels hard and sometimes it feels easy and you just kind of keep going with it. And at the same time, you’re getting curious about your experience. You’re sitting with your emotions and one day you have this realization and this It was true for my client, literally just now, and it’s been true for me at numerous [00:09:00] different times where you realize, Oh, I actually don’t need to do all those things in order to be loved.


[00:09:06] I don’t need to do all of those things in order to be a person of value. I don’t need to actually do all of those things in order to have money. I don’t actually need to do all of those things.


[00:09:21] What often happens, and this is the problem that I was talking about, is that we just stop doing those things and we don’t move towards our goals. And we just, it just feels, doesn’t feel totally right, but we kind of just like float there for a little bit. And the solution that I found for my clients and for myself is we have to replace that with something with a bigger why.


[00:09:47] And so my question to you is if you’re not protecting yourself or proving yourself. Why are you doing this work? Why that why is important [00:10:00]at the moment? We are in rolling into financially fierce And I know that you guys you want to be that version of yourself that is embodied that is excited That is that is everything and you want to earn money for it And and for some of you that’s gonna be through the business in the way that you visualize it for the past six years 6 months, 6 weeks.


[00:10:22] And for some of you it’s gonna look different. But the why matters. Do you want to serve people? Do you just want to be a certain version of yourself? Is that more important? Do you want time freedom because that’s more important for your health? Is it because you have some connection with the divine or God and you want to express that through yourself?


[00:10:42] Do you want to be able to support yourself? What is it? Why? Why is this important to you? Can you replace a protective why that is concerned about not having enough or having to protect itself [00:11:00] with a fierce why? One that you can commit to and pursue Because I can teach you how to make money from that place.


[00:11:13] I can help you make money from that place we’ll do that inside of financially fierce and You can let go of that money having to come through in a very specific way. It has to come through your Instagram So if your engagement isn’t correct, then blah. I can help you make money In a financially first way in an embodied way, you can be the embodied entrepreneur who is resourceful, who is creative, who is intelligent and it gets paid really well for it and feels really great when they look at their money and doesn’t hold their breath when they’re signing their credit card.


[00:11:44] I can help you with that, but I want you to come to me curious about your why I want to work with you. You don’t need to be there yet, but I want to work with you when you’re saying, you know what? I I don’t know if I need to set away from scarcity and fear I want to set [00:12:00] away from from from love and I don’t want to take actions to get there


[00:12:04] we’re Creating anxiety free and profitable business and we’re creating financial freedom for high achieving, overthinking, anxious perfectionists just like you. We’re going to do that inside of Financial Affairs. It is a six week group program that is enrolling at the end of August. And I’m telling you this now so that you can prepare for it, so that you can start saving your money.


[00:12:26] The investment is 1, 200 so that you can start thinking about the questions that you might want to ask me to make sure that it’s the perfect fit. To prepare you for financial affairs, I will be hosting a free embodiment training and masterclass. This embodiment training is called How to Sustainably Make Money as an Entrepreneur.


[00:12:46] It is going to be hosted on August 12th. I encourage you to be there. We are treating this as if it were a contain, a paid container, and I’m teaching you a very specific embodiment practice that [00:13:00] intuitive entrepreneurs. really honestly practice and need in order to make money in a sustainable way, preventing burnout, mitigating anxiety and making sure that you feel supported sustainably by your business.[00:13:14] You’ll find the links to join that below and I cannot wait to see there.  

Why Money Security Requires More Than Just ‘Thinking Abundant Thoughts’  – Nervous System and Somatic Training for Financial Freedom

Month: July 2024

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You’re tired. You’re overwhelmed and feeling insecure about your financial future as an entrepreneur. I hear you. 

 

This episode tackles the common struggle of chasing financial security and abundance while constantly battling internal resistance. If you’ve been trying to think positively about money but still feel stuck and anxious, this episode will resonate with you.

By the end you will: 

  1. Understand why traditional approaches to abundance mindset might be keeping you stuck in financial insecurity.
  2. Learn how to tap into a deeper sense of internal security that transcends economic fluctuations and market changes.
  3. Discover practical techniques to shift your focus from anxiety to actionable steps that positively impact your financial situation.
 

After listening, I recommend episode 123: Eliminate Your Stress Response with Money as an Anxious Entrepreneur Starting TODAY. Click here to listen. https://link.chtbl.com/6HgyxHtp 

 

TRANSCRIPT:

 

[00:00:00] The more you engage in all of the invitations to think abundant and be abundant, the farther you are away from the freedom, security, and abundance that you are seeking. Thank you to Erika for inspiring this episode. I want to introduce to you guys this concept that’s been so like, this is the concept that has been transformational, both for myself, but really in what I’ve witnessed in my clients. And I think this is a fundamental, difference between the type of coaching and support that’s coming from me because I have a background in trauma therapy and I understand the way that your body relates to things through the nervous system, which is where all the fundamental changes versus somebody else.

 

[00:00:59] We [00:01:00] want to create an experience where making money through online entrepreneurship is as easy as the laptop lifestyle that they kind of sold you in 2018. It’s as easy as that girl that you follow on Instagram and it’s just, it’s just, it’s just a walk in the park. It’s just because life is good and blissful.

 

[00:01:17] Life is good and blissful and sometimes this, this is harder. Then we would like it to be. And when that happens, a lot of us run to, a lot of us have, I was this person in the past and I’ve witnessed it. We run to wanting to be abundant, wanting to relate to things in an abundant way, and also expecting things to work out in a c certain way.

 

[00:01:46] Expecting things to have a specific timeline. We’re doing all of this in pursuit of money security. Feeling secure with your money, not feeling anxious about it. Feeling good [00:02:00] about it, right? Feeling happy, feeling consistent, feeling like you don’t need to work too hard, feeling like you don’t need to worry too much, feeling like it’s safe for you to just go and hang out, then do things that’s our goal.

 

[00:02:16] When our goal gets difficult, we often look to things such as even this podcast to help us get to our goal faster. That’s really smart. It’s really intelligent. We try to think abundantly, we try to influence our future, we try to make the right decisions, etc. You guys know, we’ve spoken about it in other podcasts, I’m not going to go into it more today.

 

[00:02:37] What I am going to go into is a thing, the truth behind that. When we do a lot of these things, what we’re doing is we’re kind of playing ping pong with that. Resistance. We’re not accessing the security and the ease and the flow that we’re looking for because we’re spending so much time and energy playing ping pong with that resistance.

 

[00:02:57] You’re trying to convince the parts of you [00:03:00] that are concerned about money that you don’t have anything to be concerned about, but you can’t actually do that because money is uncertain. And if I was to convince somebody and expect somebody to trust me around something that is uncertain, I’m sorry, but it’s not going to happen.

 

[00:03:16] You’re. in your mind, your logical mind isn’t going to do that either. It’s not. Totally logical. We have a lot of evidence for it, but for many parts of us, we’re not going to be 100 percent convinced that, yeah, everything’s gonna be totally fine with money. It’s difficult to feel that way when I’m, I can look at my laptop right now and down the bottom, there were like some headliner about, here we go, the hidden costs of home ownership and why they’re on the rise.

 

[00:03:44] If I’m trying to convince myself that everything’s fine with my future home ownership, it’s just very tiring, just takes a lot of energy. And then all the energy that we’ve spent into convincing ourselves that, I’m now not putting that energy into going [00:04:00] and doing things in the world that actually impact my bank account.

 

[00:04:06] So, The security that you’re looking for and the sense of ease, even when it feels like things aren’t working is beyond trying to convince yourself that they’re working or trying to figure out the way through. It’s in this place that’s like this, Oh, That’s it’s like you feel it kind of like rising up from your feet and it’s that ability to lean back and when everyone’s looking around and they’re talking about the rising cost of home ownership and Their mental health and how everything is so hard You’re kind of like leaning back and you’re able to drop down into a space inside of yourself that is peaceful and says Mm hmm.

 

[00:04:46] Yes I can see why you’re experiencing that, but I know that everything is fine. You’re able to find inside of you a security that transcends, I don’t know if I like that word, but it’s here, that [00:05:00] transcends all of the different fluctuations of what’s happening in the economy or in your, or in the stock market or even inside of your sales report.

 

[00:05:10] And it’s that security that is only found through the breath and through the bones and through the body. It’s only found in the back of yourself. And maybe as you’re listening, you can kind of feel perhaps a tiny little piece of that essence that’s laying inside of you. It’s the part of you that is safe.

 

[00:05:29] Is connected to intuition, to creativity. Who can imagine things that have never been happened that has ever happened before, and that relies on that same uncertainty that is so scary for your nervous system to create things that haven’t happened before, to live things that haven’t happened before, to create a whole new future for you and your community and your loved ones.

 

[00:05:52] And it is connected to security and that security is laying only in you. You can only access it when you become [00:06:00] so adept at witnessing without responding to the fluctuations and the fears. that manifests inside of you through thoughts, through feelings, through sensations, through emotions, but at the same time learning to dance with them and take their feedback because they’re smart and they tell you things about the world.

 

[00:06:24] They tell you when to actually, you know, make some decisions about your home loan or when to look at Maybe the approach that I’m having isn’t working and maybe that’s why I’m feeling so bummed out. You know, I’ve been doing the same thing for a couple of years now, a couple of months and it feels like it’s not working.

 

[00:06:44] So how can you simultaneously witness that, provide security to that? That’s the, that’s the flavor of security you’re looking for. Take its information and then make wise action to change something when it needs to be [00:07:00]changed. Because if you’re tired and you feel like nothing is working. You might need to change something.

 

[00:07:07] And if you’re constantly using money to look for some level of security, peace, and ease, you need to know that while it can get you, it can help you create a life in which it’s easier for you to access security, peace, and ease. The true security, peace, and ease, the one that is everlasting, the one that satiates you only comes when you can witness all of that stuff drop down into the back of your lungs, the back of your spine, the back of your legs.

 

[00:07:38] And rest, which is really hard to do when you, when you’re anxious about your bank account, it’s really hard to do when you’re thinking about your content plan for August. And it’s really hard to do when you’re berating yourself because you feel like you haven’t done enough and your healing isn’t working, but I have a solution for you.

 

[00:07:54] It is to listen to the next podcast, which is that I’m going to recommend, which [00:08:00] is 123 eliminate your stress response with money as an anxious. Entrepreneur starting today. This is going to give you something to play with to start implementing today. You don’t need to wait. You need to start changing things today because a decision not to change things is a decision to stay exactly the same.

 

[00:08:21] If you are doing everything the same way, like change something, I don’t care what it is, but change something and change something. Now go ahead and download Episode number 123, eliminate your stress response with money. As an anxious entrepreneur starting today, you will find a link in the show notes. 

The Money Talk for Entrepreneurs Who Feel Anxious Making Money (Somatic Pathway to Financial Freedom)

Month: July 2024

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When entrepreneurship’s uncertainty around money leaves your jaw tensing up at buying local honey, expensive eggs and the yoga membership you REALLY want… you know it’s deeper than mindset work and budgeting. 

In this episode you will: 

  1. Learn how to differentiate between healthy money anxiety and deeper issues that need addressing to improve your financial well-being.
  2. Discover the exact focus areas to reduce anxiety around making money, allowing you to feel more at ease with your finances.
  3. Gain a powerful embodiment practice that helps you bypass endless self-help methods and make meaningful progress in your financial and personal life.
 

Hit play to start achieving your financial goals with confidence and ease. 

 

FREE TRAINING: 

How To Sustainably Make Money As An Entrepreneur – A 60 minute, one-time training where you’ll learn the foundational embodiment practice intuitive successful entrepreneurs must know to increase income while feeling in control of and proud of their finances. 

 

 

When you do this somatic (body based) untangling you will go from anxiously obsessing over OR living in avoidance, escapism and hopelessness around your income and the impact you desire to create, to sustainably making money as an entrepreneur and feeling PROUD about it!

 

Which is exactly what we’ll do in this free embodiment practice. 

 

 

SIGN UP HERE:  https://pages.sheridanruth.com/makemoney?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=makemoney 

 

 

TRANSCRIPT:

 

[00:00:00] Sheridan: this episode, you’re going to learn the key to differentiating between healthy money anxiety and anxiety that really means that something deep down inside needs to change so that you can receive, save and circulate more money with more ease. You’re going to pinpoint the exact place to focus your energy to feel less anxious making money.

 

[00:00:22] And you’re going to be able to learn the one embodiment practice that will help you skip reading more books, listening to more podcasts, or spending your Saturday mornings, trying to figure out your projected income over the next six months. And instead maybe go hang out at Pilates and make dumplings.

 

[00:00:38] That’s what I’ll be doing after this. So if you are a female entrepreneur with who Is trying to figure out how to sustainably make money as an entrepreneur without having to get really anxious or overwork or do things that leave you feeling so depleted that you’re actually considering sitting at a desk for eight hours a 

 

[00:01:00] day in a stuffy office for a salary than pursuing your life’s legacy in work.

 

[00:01:06] You have probably noticed that sometimes you get a little bit anxious about money. This specific podcast is full of people who I’m not talking about like, Oh, An expense came up and it was more than I thought and I had anxiety for 15 minutes and I figured it out. I’m something that is very transient and very kind of like specific to a specific event and doesn’t happen very often.

 

[00:01:29] I’m talking about a deeper in your bones, in your gut, you can like feel it inside of your body and sometimes it feels like you don’t even know really what’s wrong. This discomfort or anxiety around money that is impacting the larger patterns that you have that influence the numbers in your bank account.

 

[00:01:50] You’ll know that you have this deeper, um, insecurity is the word I’m going to use, or unconscious pattern,

 

[00:02:00] nervous system based pattern around money. If you identify with some of the things that I’m about to share with you at the moment, number one would be You’ve gotten yourself set up. You’ve got some savings.

 

[00:02:12] You’ve done a really great job in your career, but as you transition to entrepreneurship, you feel like there’s a lot of uncertainty. Perhaps it feels like insecurity. And so you notice yourself really tensing up around it. a lot of the purchases that you really could do like buying more expensive local honey or getting the really nice eggs or that yoga membership that you really want.

 

[00:02:37] You find yourself holding your breath when you spend your credit card or tense tension in your jaw when you get the statement or log into your app to have a look at the balance. You might notice that your head kind of low as your chin ducks and your chest sinks when you consider. The past investments that you’ve made programs, coaches, courses, and even [00:03:00]perhaps therapists that have given you a proven pathway to quick and rapid results that didn’t work.

 

[00:03:08] You probably have some savings to invest, but you procrastinate it because it feels like in any moment, the other foot could drop and it would be better for you to have cash. However, that cash is just sitting in your bank account depreciating because even the best interest rates at the moment for savings accounts.

 

[00:03:26] struggle to, to cover inflation and increased cost of living. So perhaps you wake up with a flutter in your chest and racing thoughts of I should have done more earlier, or you’re not doing enough now. You don’t need that. You don’t know what you’re doing. You don’t own enough to afford that. You shouldn’t buy that because you might need the money now.

 

[00:03:45] And then you have to like journal for 45 minutes to release all of that instead of using that precious time to take action towards your goals. You might have a business set up, but sales have, um, dried up. This is the word that I hear a lot of people say, [00:04:00] and you are beginning to run out of motivation and you’re getting a little bit nervous.

 

[00:04:04] So it’s difficult for you to make the changes that would be necessary for you to bring in more sales. You’ve purchased heaps of courses on how to upskill for your business, but you procrastinate taking them and you are yet to complete one. If you feel this way, you’ve probably looked into productivity.

 

[00:04:21] You’ve probably read some money books. You’ve like listened to podcasts. You probably are following a couple of people on Instagram. Maybe you’ve worked with a financial planner or a financial coach before, but what you haven’t are assimilated down deep into the Soma, that essence inside of your body, your bones, your fascia, You the essence of you, what you haven’t assimilated and haven’t learned is that everything that’s going on.

 

[00:04:50] Yes, it is happening within the landscape of money, but it has nothing to do with money. It has everything to do with your nervous systems attachment [00:05:00]or relationship to love and love. Security and belonging, something that was created and now lives in the somatic structure of your bone and creates feelings and thoughts and emotions and sensations.

 

[00:05:16] Something that was created in the first three years of your life from the time you were in the uterus. What happens is your body Your nervous system is always looking to answer one of two questions. Am I safe? Am I loved? Am I safe? Am I loved? Am I safe? Am I loved? And the way that we answer those questions when we are a little infant and a little baby is we look to our parents and we learn about the world through learning how to get the safety and the provision of our parents and the love of our parents.

 

[00:05:50] So, What happens is our parents are imperfect people who can’t always be there in the way that we want. We really want them to just anticipate [00:06:00]our needs and we never want to feel any discomfort at all, ever. Unfortunately life doesn’t work like that and our body begins to orient towards our beautiful caregivers to give us things.

 

[00:06:12] and provide things for us, at some point that connection, that assimilation of our needs is broken and our nervous system, even without our conscious mind being involved. So you might be like, no, I have a really secure attachment. You can have a secure attachment and still be affected by your nervous systems, difficulties around money.

 

[00:06:33] That’s probably statistically what’s happening actually, because if 50 percent of people have statistically secure attachments, but I wouldn’t say everybody has that about money. You probably have a great attachment. You’re going to have a relationship with love. That’s really wonderful. But your relationship with money a little bit different.

 

[00:06:52] That’s true for a lot of people. And it creates these stories about money and it projects them onto money. So at

 

[00:07:00] first it started with your caregivers, then What ends up as we become adult representing belonging, love, and security. It’s now no longer what our mother and father are doing. It’s what our bank account is doing because that influences so much of our life, who we are, who we, um, relate with the decisions that we make in our life, whether or not we can do certain activities, what type of clothes that we wear, how secure we feel.

 

[00:07:26] And so money is this neutral space and all of these fears get projected onto All of these wounds get projected onto it. The wounds that were created that are now living in the energetic blueprints of how your body thinks about belonging, safety, love, money, feels about it, gives you emotions about it, or give you certain urges about it.

 

[00:07:51] And until these, wounds are healed on a somatic level. You’re just going to end up in the same patents

 

[00:08:00] because you’re holding certain beliefs, certain structures inside of your nervous system that your body just wants to, it wants to find evidence that they’re true. That’s how beliefs work. Our body is looking to confirm everything all the time.

 

[00:08:13] So let’s say that you ended up creating an experience with money Or your loved ones that deep down created a, an idea inside of you that there’s something wrong with you. So you tend to feel pretty heavy. You feel like somebody’s like going to shine light and like if you were in more of a leadership position then they would like know that there’s something wrong with you.

 

[00:08:32] Or maybe you develop this idea that like the world is just unsafe and things can be ripped away from me at any time. Yeah, so you’re pretty, you’re probably really hoping to save some money, hey, because like just in case and it’s just a feeling that you kind of walk around with, you don’t even notice that you have it because it’s just so normal, but it’s reflected in the fact that you have struggle, you struggle to invest when you really should be instead of having cash appreciate, depreciate.[00:09:00]

 

[00:09:00] Or what about like if you develop a wound of I’m going to be kind of invaded, people aren’t going to want to give me the space that I need to be myself. You might actually push away money. You might do things like be like, No, at the end of sales calls you got really kind of standoffish or you like to spend your money.

 

[00:09:21] You don’t like being in that place where you’re so full of something. You might have a wound of I’m not enough so you use your money whether that’s saving it or spending it. Or working really hard to get it, to prove that you are worthy. Or maybe you move, you use your money to be really, really big because yours is, I am unseen, I am unheard.

 

[00:09:46] Or maybe you use it because you want to feel included. So everything you’re doing related to money is trying to prove that you should be included somewhere. And that’s why you’re so anxious about it because it feels off. It’s coming from fear. [00:10:00] And there are so many other Wounds that we have that we can have that then get projected onto our money.

 

[00:10:09] I am trapped. I am disrespected. I am weak. I, um, will be rejected. I am the one that’s always disconnected. I’m going to be excluded, et cetera. There are so many different wounds. It would be impossible to go through them all inside of a podcast. And it’s also not that helpful just to be thinking about it and talking about it.

 

[00:10:31] So what we are going to do instead is I’m going to invite you to a free masterclass. This, it’s, it’s a free training. Really? This training is going to come in the form of an embodiment practice. It’s Is the embodiment practice that I truly believe all intuitive and successful entrepreneurs are either practicing already or need to know very deeply in order to increase their income while feeling in control of and proud of their finances.

 

[00:11:00] It’s happening on August 12. It’s called how to make money as an entrepreneur. It’s 60 60 minutes long. On that same day, we’re going to have doors open to Financially Fierce, which is a six week program where you will learn to sustain sustainably make money as an entrepreneur without the anxiousness, without overworking, without feeling like you’d rather run away to a secure desk office.

 

[00:11:22] What you’re going to do is you’re going to prepare your wallet because the six week group program Financially Fierce is going to cost 1, 200 dollars. It’s going to be a program where nervous system regulation, trauma healing. meets business strategy. You’ll learn more about it inside of how to make money as an entrepreneur and over the coming weeks and months as I begin to share more about it.

 

[00:11:43] However, the first step to learn more about becoming financially fierce, and the first step to take this podcast information and pull it down into your body so that it creates lasting change. You don’t have to listen to these things anymore. I know you love my voice is to [00:12:00] enroll in the free training, how to make money.

 

 

[00:12:02] As an entrepreneur, you will find the link for that down below in the show notes. See you on August 12th. Mark your calendars. Ciao. 

13 Ways Your Father Wound Is Secretly Keeping You Anxious, Overworking and In Scarcity PART 2 (Nervous System Training for Financial Freedom)

Month: July 2024

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Tired of feeling scattered, overworked, and unable to achieve your goals despite all your efforts?

This episode dives deep into how unresolved father wounds can secretly keep you trapped in a cycle of anxiety, overworking, and scarcity. If you’ve ever struggled with focus, discipline, or a tumultuous relationship with your ambitions, this discussion is for you.

 

 

In this episode you will: 

  1. Learn how to discern and wisely allocate your energy for higher returns in both your business and personal life.
  2. Discover strategies to break free from the healing hamster wheel and confidently pursue your dreams.
  3. Gain insights into creating a balanced life where your business thrives without sacrificing your emotional well-being.
 

 

Recommended episode: 

 

 

 

66: Not Your Usual Goal Setting Advice. How To Build Financial Freedom with Trauma Healing, Nervous System Regulation and Stress Relief

 

TRANSCRIPT:

 

[00:00:00] This is part two of 30 ways. Your father wound is secretly keeping you anxious, overworking, and in scarcity. As the. Mentioned in part one, this was originally a, a one, one episode, but I know that you guys prefer shorter episodes.

 

[00:00:14] And this one ended really long cause it turns out I had a lot to say.

 

[00:00:32] If you have trouble focusing or you feel like you shouldn’t be as disciplined as you are or you just cannot be disciplined or you have a kind of, Icky relationship with goals, or you’re always thinking about what to do and how to solve the problem that might occur when your launch does X, Y, Z thing in August of next year.

 

[00:00:51] Oh, my love. This episode was made for you

 

[00:00:56] Number seven, the cousin of working hard, [00:01:00] using energy on things that do not have a high return on investment. I kind of jumped to this before, but because you don’t have a strong integrated masculine that is discerning, you just don’t. You’re just like burning energy because the feminine and especially when she’s not contained by a healthy masculine energy, she is just like doing all the things and it’s all fun and over here and we can do that and we can do that and we can do that and it ends up being really dysregulating and we end up overworking.

 

[00:01:25] It’s really anxious. It feels really scattered. The divine masculine provides the structure and says, wait a second, pause. If we do that, what is the result going to be and is that going to make us money or get us to our goal? Using the least amount of resources in the shortest amount of time and sometimes, you know, because you are a humble, wise soul who has healed your father wound and has therefore healed your ego, you are going to be able to say, you know what, no, actually it’s not, but it was a really fun idea and I really like to do it, but like, it’s not.

 

[00:01:59] [00:02:00] And it’s having that mental discernment. and not just like pursuing energy and working for the sake of pursuing it. There is a place for creation for the sake of creation and expression for the sake of expression. But In your business, it’s not always the place unless the goal of the business is creation and expression for the sake of it.

 

[00:02:23] If profitable business is your goal, we need to be discerning and mindful in how we spend our time, energy and resources and make sure that they are actually going towards the things that bring in more time, energy and resource. Um, I think this goes synonym with number eight. Wow. I’ve done like 13. I’m so, did I overwork?

 

[00:02:47] Number eight, which is reacting to every creative idea and thought, which is very similar to what I’ve mentioned before, but there’s a slight difference [00:03:00]in that

 

[00:03:04] she who is the feminine, the feminine runs with the energy. It is the energy. It’s in the energy. It’s, it’s flowing with the energy. what we, uh, divine masculine provides structure and slowness and space and discernment. So when we’re on the, when we’re inside of the father wound, we’re reacting. When we’re on the other side, we’re able to witness him, witness our thoughts.

 

[00:03:28] And because we are more capable of accessing the part of our psyche that is He who observes, so we are able to witness kind of the canvas of all of these thoughts and ideas occurring and marinate in them and not impulsively act on them the same for our emotions and our thoughts, but just, ah, they’re here.

 

[00:03:50] These are things that I’m experiencing. I wonder. How they’ll end up manifesting. And I have the patience to focus and be disciplined and focus [00:04:00]on the things that bring an income and the patience and the discernment and the wisdom to wait and pause on the things that are not quite ready to be actioned yet, because it’s not clear how they are going to pour back into me.

 

[00:04:18] Number nine, following and staying on the healing hamster wheel. Guys, if you are still trying to heal your trauma, um, so that you can XYZ, let’s say get financial freedom right now. And, and you’re not there and you’ve been doing it for like more than a year. I said like a lot of you have been doing it for like, you know, a couple of decades and I love you.

 

[00:04:41] I love you so much. And you were on a healing hamster wheel and you were trying to protect yourself or prove something. Um, or you are avoiding something or you are avoiding discipline or you are avoiding goals and your divine masculine doesn’t want you to do that because he wants you to provide solutions for the world and to [00:05:00] protect your finances.

 

[00:05:01] So when you integrate that on the other side of healing your father wound. You will be able to get off of this healing, this idea of like, I need to heal. I need to be better. I need to fix myself in order to achieve something. No, no, you need to learn to structure your business in a way that is unique to your body and you need to learn to read your body compass instead of responding to every flimsy or flimsy is such a cruel world, but like flippant experience that it has, you need to find discernment and wisdom and power and discipline, which is already inside of you.

 

[00:05:35] Like, I know you have it. You know that you have it. Okay, number 10, always prioritizing working through triggers or emotion and pleasure at the expense of your dreams. This is where my people like there is, there is a wisdom in saying right now I’m feeling more emotional and I need to work through this emotional thing that’s going to bring me the highest return on my energy.

 

[00:05:57] Only working on the emotional thing so [00:06:00] much that you’re not putting things out into the wall. You’re not creating the content. Um, you’re not serving people, you’re not following up on your clients, you’re not asking people how you can do more of this work, you’re not pitching, you’re not putting yourself in places like networking, you’re not getting yourself out there enough that you’re, that you can’t do your dreams.

 

[00:06:20] Sometimes we just have to be uncomfortable. And do the thing that the business needs, because there’s two things here. There’s the thing that the business needs in order to grow. There’s the thing that you need in order to feel emotionally secure. We want to be doing and building businesses and building structured lifestyles that, that feed both of those needs independent of each other.

 

[00:06:39] And sometimes, and like, this is just like the pep talk that you didn’t know you need it. And also the reality check is sometimes if you’re not willing to do the thing that the business needs, you need to be okay with the fact that it didn’t get done. And you prioritize your emotions or you need to make sure that it gets that the business gets its need met.

 

[00:06:56] Later on, or [00:07:00] you need to get somebody else to help the business, get the need met and like get it out in another way so that you can be with your emotions or you need to get the business need met and create a structure for your emotions. So I have spoken before about when I was building my business, I.

 

[00:07:15] Was it very, very like the beginning, like when I was transitioning between yoga therapy to coaching a little bit more, I was really structured and I had like grieving time. I was going through a heavy period of grief. Um, my ex husband had passed away. He was very abusive to me and he died by suicide and I was extremely traumatized.

 

[00:07:32] It’s a whole story, but I had to use structure so that I could like keep the business going. And then I think at 6 p. m. every day, I had a specific protocol that I used. Um, okay. So I’m going to talk a little bit about what I used and I did the emotional processing every single day. 6 p. m. My clock works. 6 p.

 

[00:07:51] m. Emotional processing, dinner, sleep. I was disciplined about it. That way my business got what it needed in the day and my emotions got what it needed at night. Your [00:08:00] specific structure might look different, but this is a good example of using discernment with love, love, love, love, love, love. Not compartmentalizing necessarily, but discernment to love yourself and your business.

 

[00:08:13] Um, okay. Number 11, not having a healthy sense of confidence to pursue your dreams. So that father wound, it decreases our confidence. It gives us this, this idea that there is something wrong with us because daddy doesn’t love us. There’s something wrong with me. So a sign that you have a father wound is just having kind of a low level of confidence.

 

[00:08:36] Maybe for you, it feels like imposter syndrome, but it, it’s not. might even just be not even considering yourself worthy of your dreams or not even thinking of your dreams or feeling a difficulty when you think of perhaps what you might want. you don’t feel confident that you could actually make it happen.

 

[00:08:50] It feels like it’s for everyone else but you. On the other side of that father wound is a healthy level of confidence of a father. This might be difficult, but I know I [00:09:00] can do hard things. This might feel new, but I know I can do it. It’s not arrogance of like, I’m better than you. It’s confidence in like, okay, cool.

 

[00:09:08] This is new. This is different. I can do this. And I would need that in order to do X, Y, Z it’s confidence. It’s embodied and you feel it like in your thighs, in your belly, in your abdomen, the back of your body, number 12, hypersensitivity to others. So as I’ve mentioned before, The father wound is the loving, sorry, the divine masculine is the loving part of us that is discerning and structured and gives us wisdom and doesn’t make us be like to the wind in our emotions.

 

[00:09:38] The feminine is like the emotional experience and everything is like flowing around and we are in it and we are just embodying it and it’s carnal and oh my god like the depth of the profound love and it is so freaking beautiful and it’s also so painful and it’s like you were just. flailing around in your emotions and you’re so sensitive to them and they’re so, it’s such a beauty.

 

[00:09:58] It has such a value.[00:10:00] It is creative, it is loving, it is beautiful. And sometimes it is not helpful because you become hypersensitive to others and you end up hurting yourself. So hypersensitive to what they think of you, hypersensitive to what they might say about you, hypersensitive to how they might respond.

 

[00:10:16] On the other side of healing your father wound is that divine masculine that’s like, Hmm, I’m having an emotional experience around. Um, and I’ve got myself and I love myself, but I’m relatively calm. It’s like, you’ve always got this one part of you that’s just calm in the storm and then you witness yourself having the emotions and you can dip into the emotions when you really want to, when you just want that like juicy emotional feeling, but you have a really calm and benevolent and graceful part of you that is present.

 

[00:10:51] More than not. And the last one, number 13, giving up. There is a difference between giving up 

 

[00:11:00] like, and, and deciding to pivot or to move in a different way, but like just giving up, giving up, giving up because you don’t have access to sustainable, discerned discipline and emotional. regularity or nervous system regularity, you end up giving up because it becomes too much because being in the throes of wounding and emotional ups and downs is painful.

 

[00:11:23] So of course you give up. But on the other side of this, on the other side of healing, Your father wound and integrating all of these different parts of you is you this embodied entrepreneur who is discerning, who is smart, who knows exactly how to make entrepreneurship sustainable. It is sustainable. You don’t burn out.

 

[00:11:44] You have a profitable business. You’re proud of your fully expressed. It’s amazing. It’s beautiful. That’s what’s on the other side. And on this podcast, you’re going to continue to learn about how to do this. A really beautiful place for you to go right now, if you haven’t already been there [00:12:00]is episode number 66, it is called not your usual goal setting advice, how to build financial freedom with trauma, healing, nervous system regulation, and stress relief, relief, as I mentioned earlier, the healthy masculine relates to goals in a very healthy way.

 

[00:12:15] And I know because you guys have told me, because I was there, goals can be really hard. When you’re coming from your pain, they can be confusing to a dysregulated nervous system. And so I’m going to give you some advice that you’ve never heard before. Um, you’re going to love it. It’s going to change the way that you relate to your goals and can’t wait to hear how it goes.

13 Ways Your Father Wound Is Secretly Keeping You Anxious, Overworking and In Scarcity PART 1 (Nervous System Training for Financial Freedom)

Month: July 2024

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This is why you struggle with focus and discipline, and why setting goals feels daunting despite trying to get it right for years. 

ThIn this episode, we look at the unconscious, engrained patterns stemming from your relationship with your father that are silently influencing your productivity and emotional well-being. As a trauma therapist, I bring insights from nervous system work, tantra, and Ayurvedic practices to help entrepreneurs like you overcome these hidden barriers.

 

 

By  the end of this episode you will: 

  1. uncover the root causes behind your difficulties with focus and discipline
  2. learn how to cultivate a healthier relationship with your inner masculine energy
  3. discover practical strategies to transform your business approach for better success and fulfillment.
 

Part 2 is episode 128. 

 

TRANSCRIPT:

 

If you have trouble focusing or you feel like you shouldn’t be as disciplined as you are or you just cannot be disciplined or you have a kind of, Icky relationship with goals, or you’re always thinking about what to do and how to solve the problem that might occur when your launch does X, Y, Z thing in August of next year.

 

Oh, my love. This episode was made for you. So I’m going to share just a couple of common symptoms that I see  as a trauma therapist who. Really supports entrepreneurs and has a background in nervous system work as well as a tantric understanding and Ayurvedic understanding and I used to do relationship coaching.

 

So I’m coming to this with an understanding of polarity, both from the energetic sense  as well as imploring meaning the positive conclusion. Traits of the feminine type of energy and the positive traits of masculine energy and how they play within each other as well as an understanding of the different types of wounds that occur inside of our psyche and therefore inside of our body and our nervous system that changed the way that we relate to these energies, , particularly relating to our caregivers.

 

Today’s episode is going to be really focused on your relationship with your father and how a lot of us. And I’m including myself who have strained relationships with their fathers, , haven’t developed a healthy sense of  healthy masculine inner energy inside. And it comes out when we try to do business in so many different ways, but it makes it very, very, very difficult to remain focused and grounded enough in order to get your business up and off the ground and running profitable. 

 

 Your father wound, it might be the That you had an amazing childhood  and your father.  You still have some pain around your father, or maybe your father was still kind of figuring out his own expression of masculinity and healthy masculinity. And, you know, because he was still kind of figuring out, figuring it out within himself, you didn’t receive good modeling of what the healthy masculine is.

 

I’m Or you didn’t have any father at all, or maybe you had an amazing father with amazing masculine traits, but you still kind of walked away feeling like, okay, there is still some things that I’m figuring out as it relates to my own relationship with the masculine. So I’ve gone over this in a couple of different episodes, but I’ll do a quick recap here and I’ll reference your next best listen at the end of the episode.

 

But your father.  wound is essentially something that happened between you and the divine masculine. So that might even be God, uh, or Jesus Christ or,  um, Buddha,  or it could be your father that is created inside of you.  Um,  uh, distorted relationship with the divine masculine. So what I’m talking about, the divine masculine, I’m talking about these beautiful inherent traits that are stereotypical  of testosterone and the divine masculine, the divine masculine is he who can contain things, he who can observe things, he who provides, he who protects, and the feminine is she does and is and just like  is activity and aliveness and vibrancy and movement and chaos and energy. 

 

And if you’re experiencing a father wound,  you might be doing a couple of these things I’m about to share. Number one, attracting codependent coaching relationships or clients. So codependent. In a very short sense and a very, very, very, very simplified version of the actual definition is that you’re looking for validation and a sense of security outside of yourself.

 

Meaning that you’re struggling to find it from inside. Meaning that when your relationships are unclear or there is distance that is  uncomfortable for you, or there’s closeness that is uncomfortable for you, you  Waver and you shake within yourself. You tend to get into rumination, overthinking, obsessive optimism.

 

Thoughts about the relationship and the other person. Do they like me? What were they thinking? Do I like them? What am I thinking? Was this the correct decision or your idea of success and self worth and security and general sense of okayness comes from the status of this relationship, whether or not you receive positive feedback or not. 

 

A second sign of a father womb that would probably be keeping you overworking and also in scarcity is that you’re not able to focus. Even if you have a lot of things going on, when you are integrated in your divine masculine and you have, so what I mean when I say that is that inside of you, you have healthy psychological subconscious, unconscious, um, corporal,  somatic structures. 

 

that support you in focusing, you have a healthy relationship to the masculine. So if you struggle with focusing, you struggle to sit down and focus on your work,  it is a sign that you are  struggling in your relationship to the masculine. Even when you identify with being neurotypical  or have ADHD. Yes, I said it.

 

Because when you have  a secure relationship with the father wound, not only Your nervous system isn’t oriented towards being, um, in deficit of attention so much. It’s not oriented towards looking for other things to focus on because a lot of what ADHD is, or ADD or lack of focus is that your nervous system is preoccupied with, it wants to focus on something else and you want it to focus on that thing. 

 

But when you have a healthy relationship, meaning you feel that deep love from the divine masculine, and you have, you know, Deep structures inside of you that support you in focusing and funneling your energy and you’ve practiced them enough that they become embodied and integrated.  Now we have both the structure of the masculine, the father, the father, as well as the love from the father.

 

And so it’s very effortless the way that we focus. Yes, it can be annoying logistically having to organize things. I’m not saying that  everything becomes easy, but you are able to focus.  If you are Have a father wound that is secretly keeping you anxious, overworking, and in scarcity, you might have struggle, you might struggle with goal setting and discipline and getting up and doing the things that you said that you’re going to do and sticking to your word and even identifying goals.

 

I know a lot of you either identify goals that are way too big and you feel this pressure, like you need to move forward and you don’t know how, and then that pressure becomes anxiety, and then anxiety comes over thinking, and then because you’re thinking about things so often that you don’t really get anything done, and then you end up collapsing, you want to be in bed for three days. 

 

And I know some of you just like don’t put goals because if you were to put a goal, then you might actually fail that goal and then you might have to be confronted with your fear of failure.  Ouch. It hurts. I know. I’ve been there. I’m sometimes still there.  So sometimes we can have a difficult relationship with goals and discipline. 

 

When you have a healthy relationship with the divine masculine, meaning you’ve healed your father wound,  you are able to identify goals that enlighten and like in enliven you to move forward to them. And you are able to take consistent action that is disciplined to move towards them. Because at the end of the day,  discipline  The question we’re asking is like, what am I disciplined about?

 

It’s like, what am I a disciple to what am I disciplined to move forward to a woman  with an healthy,  inner masculine, no matter how chaotic or intuitive or whatever you are or how much of a healer you are, whatever you are,  when you heal your father wound, you are disciplined in a way that it feels like flow.

 

I’ve been really disciplined this past couple of months and it just, it feels like such flow and you can’t even get yourself out of it  because you’ve healed your relationship with the divine masculine and you, you pull on that like,  Divine daddy energy  to get you focused because you care about the work that you’re doing in the world.

 

And it just feels so beautiful to have that structure and to have those goals and to, and there’s no emotional stickiness around it of like, if I fail, I did this and what will people think? And what will I think? And, and how’s I feel? And how do I manage the pressure? No, you move from task to task to task with presence and love and structure. 

 

And that’s how you get, that’s how you create the profitable business. That’s how you make financial freedom and that’s how you make it feel easy all along the way.  Okay. So number four, um, a sign that you could benefit from really healing from this father wound is that you find yourself jumping to solve problems in the future that just do not need to be solved right now. 

 

One of the amazing things that we can learn from the presence of testosterone in the nervous system is its ability to work,  focus on the thing that you’re working on, then rest and then focus on the next tool and project and the next problem, solve that problem and then rest and then identify the next problem and then solve that problem and then rest.

 

It is single focused. The masculine is single focused. That’s why it’s so freaking annoying that your boyfriend isn’t planning the holiday that you think that they should be planning right now because it’s happening in three months. Um, they’re not concerned about it because it’s happening in three months, but your feminine brain that is soaked in estrogen that is literally made and has been wired for eons to take care of six children at a time and cook something and look after the camp and make sure that your friends are okay because we are wired through relationships. 

 

We’re wired to multitask.  Our brain finds it easier to think about things further in the future  because we’re in less single focus. And that’s actually really awesome. And I love that. However, particularly as it relates to business, sometimes we can learn from the divine masculine  on single focusedness.

 

And that’s actually something that in an ideal world, our father would teach us. They would teach us the, the discipline and the focus and then the rest, and we would integrate that. They would model it to us. They would teach it to us in  conscious ways and unconscious ways. And then we would create that structure inside and we would replicate that through the rest of our life.

 

And for some people, if you have a father wound, either that has been completely rejected or it just didn’t occur. somatic trauma healing, which you find in all of my programs and causes, et cetera, in my work, then. Um,  you can stay more present and you can focus your energy on just the problems that need to solve now.

 

But you can also access your amazing superpower of knowing what problems need to be solved in the future. And we can access that, that innate project manager inside of you, that innate strategics, strategical thinker and analytical thinker inside of you. And then we couple that with your feminine magical essence and your presence and your power and like, Jesus, wow.

 

Wow. The world is lucky to have you.  Beautiful. Number five, um, trying to make things perfect. So the feminine. It  has all this energy and wants things to be very perfect and beautiful. And that includes yourself, actually. A lot of what has happened in society is that innate ability that, that females have to want to make things so perfect and so beautiful  because it’s actually would require changing society.

 

If we were to make society perfect, we would have to change a lot of things  and the people at the top of society at the moment may not want us to do that.  So we redirect that energy  and we try to change ourselves. We try to perfect ourselves. Oh, we try to heal so perfectly so that we can create the thing.

 

We try to make ourselves so perfect so that that person loves us.  We try to perfect the sales pitch so that we make the sale when actually all we needed was to love ourselves and it sounds really cliche, but here we are again, that’s the lesson  is to be fully where we are.  And so,  yes, there are things that can be bent that can change it in yourself. 

 

On the other side of the father wound that you currently have, that’s making you want to make yourself perfect. So that you can receive the love of the divine masculine and the providence, like the providership and the protection  of the father. Whether it is your business being that masculine structure that’s providing for you, or you want to relate it to God, or your version of that. 

 

Instead of doing that, what we, what we do when we heal the divine masculine is we are discerning in the way that we treat ourselves. We say, how can I love myself so well,  that what I do,  It’s only loving for me and the business I create is only loving for me and the people inside and it ends up being perfect. 

 

But it’s not because we were analytical trying to make it to be perfect. It’s because we said, how can I love this very well?  Meanwhile, our energy gets projected out into the world and we get to be of service.  And because we are of more service. We make more money.  And so instead of putting all our energy on ourselves and trying to perfect ourselves, we put it out into the world.

 

We create the best impact and the most value that we possibly could. And as a result, money just comes on through  because also we’re smart in the way that we structure it out, but we’re not like, we’re not, this is another thing actually. Did I write it down? Let me check. Yeah. Let me put it in. So  Overworking just like the, just the vibe of overworking to want to prove yourself of like, it’s, it gives this energy of like, daddy, look how, look,  look how hard I work, see how valuable I am. 

 

Give me your love.  And we end up bringing that into our business. Like, look how hard I work. Look how much I create. Look how much I do. Look how many free calls I can do. Look how, look how smart I am. Look how smart I am. Give me money.  You don’t have to prove anything, my love.  You don’t have to prove anything. 

 

 

You’re loved.  The father, your father, whatever the father is, loves you. You don’t have to prove it. You don’t have to work so hard. 📍