10 Ways I Regulate My Nervous System For Profitable Business, Stress And Anxiety Relief

As the year wraps up and things get hectic, it’s very important you have easy tools you’ll actually use to allow you to work on and in your business with ease.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

10 effective techniques to regulate your nervous system, paving the way for financial success, creativity, and well-being.

A better understanding of how to leverage sunlight, deep breaths, physical touch, vocal toning, dance, and more to thrive in both your personal and professional life.

You can start using these tools today. Click play.

Recommended episode 62: How to Make Money During Emotional Rollercoasters

TRANSCRIPT:

[00:00:00] Sheridan: These are the 10 specific ways that I am regulating my nervous system as a business life gets a lot busier by the end of this episode, you will know the three key things to do if you are managing the roller coasters of life, as well as 10 a. m. Easy things that you can do today that will regulate your nervous system so that you can bring in more income and ease.

[00:00:43] And stay till the end because I have an important message from my heart to yours.

[00:00:49] This episode will be released around Christmas and holidays are happening. It’s the end of the year. People are getting really, really busy. So these are things that I [00:01:00] want to encourage you to use literally today as you manage the busyness or the roller coaster of your life.

[00:01:07] Because the truth of the matter is no matter how. Much you’re feeling right now when you’re experiencing busyness or roller coasters in life It doesn’t actually need to equal less income. What it means is that more support is needed I have built this business by doing while doing some really crazy things.

[00:01:29] I traveled for four months all around Australia I healed some really intense complex trauma almost alone. I have been through so many dark nights of a soul a lot Of them I don’t know if it’s the, yeah, it’s just a lot of them and I’ve packed my bags and left for new countries many different times.

[00:01:51] I have lived through tragedy, I’ve cried, I’ve laughed, I’ve learned, I’ve spent a lot of time watching Netflix and [00:02:00] looking into the eyes of my loved ones on sunny days in soft grass. I have studied, I have loved, I have let go, I have trusted, I have braced from fear and I have lived all of the colors of life in between.

[00:02:13] I never, ever, ever, ever, ever have I let my desire to live a full life mean that my business cannot support me in it. No. It means I support myself and I support my business and then that business supports me. So right now, I’m transitioning. You’re transitioning. My book is in the works of getting published.

[00:02:38] And I spent five hours dancing last night. And regulation has just become so such an important part of my business plan. And the reason that we do this is so that we can enter into this space where the better it. Gets the better it gets. And if you’re sitting in a lot of anxiety right now, that might not even feel, , may not feel very tangible.

[00:02:57] It may not feel very real. I want you to know that that’s [00:03:00] okay. And it’s part of the process. And if you’re in the place where you’re like, Oh yeah, I’m getting to that juicy place where it’s getting really good. Uh, you can still use these tips. They apply for you at both levels. So let’s go down into the 10, the 10 things that I am doing to regulate my nervous system in this really crazy stage.

[00:03:18] of business. Yay. Oh, guys, I just really love, I just, I’m really happy and I love my life. Yeah. Anyway. Okay. Number one, spending time in the sun. Why? Basically because sunlight actually triggers the release of serotonin, uh, which is a mood regulating neurotransmitter. That means that it makes you feel good.

[00:03:40] It is very regulating to the nervous system. And what this does is it creates a sense of wellbeing and it helps minimize anxiety. If you tend towards more of a freeze nervous system state, meaning that you find it really easy to get like lethargic and overwhelmed and going to shame or judgment things, or you just feel heavy and like you can’t get [00:04:00] things done.

[00:04:00] I really recommend spending as much time in the sun as you can, particularly if you can just getting sun on your skin and sun in your eyes. If you can do it within the first 15 minutes of waking up, not through a window. You would be winning. I do not do that, and I’m still a very happy person, but if you could do that, like, five gold stars.

[00:04:22] Number two, taking three baths before looking at my phone. Look, I’ll be honest, I don’t do this every single time, but I do do it more often at the moment and I try to be more mindful of it, just being aware that I’m in like a really big transition period. And the reason that we do that is that When you take really big, deep breaths, what you do is you kind of turn on the branch of the nervous system.

[00:04:46] That’s called the parasympathetic nervous system. This is the rest and digest nervous system. So just taking those three breaths, it just creates a sense of calm. And it is more likely to take you out of a fight, a flight or a freeze [00:05:00] response, which can be stimulated both by the phone. And you could also try to use sometimes what we use.

[00:05:07] Let me articulate that better. Sometimes we use our phone to avoid feeling something that we’re feeling because it’s really uncomfortable or our body perceives it as unsafe. So by taking these three deep breaths, what we actually do is we become more mindful about like, what am I feeling? And this decrease, and we start processing what we’re actually feeling, which in the longterm decreases feelings of overwhelm.

[00:05:32] Sometimes what also happens is that when we look at our phone, it’s a lot of stimuli, right? And our nervous system can actually perceive that to be really dangerous. But maybe it’s also very hypnotizing in that it can kind of put us into this trance state where we almost can’t pull ourselves away from the phone.

[00:05:49] And so by taking these three deep breaths, what we’re doing is we’re kind of counteracting any Stress or a discomfort that might already be in the system as [00:06:00] well as anything that we might experience By looking at the phone and engaging in all of the stimuli of the phone. Sound good? Okay, number three I’ve been cuddling with my cat so much my I have two beautiful cats and I have one who I have a really particular bond with she’s She’s my baby, you know, if you guys have had cats, you just have that like what animals, you know, where you just have that really deep bond.

[00:06:26] This is my beautiful, lovely cat. And I’ve been really prioritizing cuddling with her. Because I enjoy it, but I enjoy it because , what it does is it releases oxytocin which is a stress reducing hormone. And it’s this really natural way of soothing your nervous system. So I’ve been really just enjoying those times and taking up space to cuddle with her unapologetically and without judging myself.

[00:06:54] Because I know that in the long term it… Gives me a regulated nervous system, which helps me [00:07:00] access my intuition, which helps me access my creativity, which helps me access, perspective and helps you move through life in a more easeful way, which makes me like make more money and have better health. It makes sense, right?

[00:07:14] It’s a small investment cuddling with my cat in order to reap a lot of benefits. The fourth thing that I’ve been doing, I’ve been doing a little bit more often when it’s just like actually beginning to feel like, Oh, okay, a lot’s going on here. Big emotions, big thoughts, big decisions to be made. And it’s humming low and deep and really locating or kind of putting that home.

[00:07:37] deep into my chest. Now that kind of means I put the intention deep in my chest and I try to kind of make a sound or make a hum that sits inside of my chest. What this does is it stimulates the vagus nerve, which is associated with the parasympathetic nervous system. So what it can do is it kind of says to the vagus nerve.[00:08:00]

[00:08:00] It does this thing kind of called toning and it says to the vagus nerve, Ooh, Hey, you can go into that state of rest and digest. And when we do this more consistently over a longer period of time, it means that your vagus nerves does something called increased tone, which essentially means that it becomes more resilient and more responsive and kind of helps you flitter between stress responses and a calm response.

[00:08:25] It becomes more able to respond to the world in an appropriate way. And so by doing this low and deep hum in your chest, not only are you bringing yourself into a calm and relaxed space so that you can engage with the world with intelligence and responsiveness immediately, but you’re also Increasing your Vegas tone nerve, which over the long term is going to help you feel like make your body more resilient, able to take on more stress or responsibility, uh, in a positive way, in a positive way that says, you know, I’m [00:09:00] really strong and you can maintain that sense of, I’ve got things I can do hard things.

[00:09:05] And through that space, access for creativity and, and connectedness with other people. When my other episodes, we talk about why that’s so important when you’re. Build it a business, but I think you can understand like if I’m not anxious and worried, then I tend to get more done, do more things and have deeper connections and sales is what easy, , fifth dancing.

[00:09:28] Oh my God. Just movement, especially dancing releases so many endorphins, which just. Regulate the nervous system and boost your mood. It also helps up helps release kind of pent up tension and stress So if you feel like you have a lot going on just getting into your body and having a groove Having a dance is amazing.

[00:09:46] You can do this in so many different ways You can do just like a three minute little boogie fest by yourself in your room Or bachata for five hours to the point where I broke my [00:10:00] tennis shoes Both work, both work, choose which one you want. Uh, okay, next one, six, hugging my loved ones. I’ve been doing lots of hugging, I think it helps as well, I, partner dancing helps I get more touch to touch, , and that re, it releases oxytocin, but just hugging your loved ones and like taking, I think it’s nine seconds the nervous system needs to really feel the oxytocin and release oxytocin from a hug.

[00:10:30] Connecting with your friends and your family and your partner and I and I really specified loved ones, you know, I think it’s really good to Connect with just one person and maybe you and your partner can have a nice cuddle But for me what’s really been very impactful and resourcing for me and helped me felt feel more um safe in my body And safe in my life.

[00:10:52] And it’s really helped me heal a lot of like interpersonal trauma that I had around connecting or being seen or being loved or being [00:11:00] seemed as worthy is like actually hugging a lot of my friends and creating a culture where. My friends and I hug each other or grab each other by the arm and, and, and have that sense of physical connection.

[00:11:13] And it’s been really, really healing for me, , friends, sisters, sisters, girlfriends and boyfriends, brothers and guys. And it’s been really important. Uh, number seven, sweating at the gym. So basically. Exercise increases endorphins, exercise, reduce, reduce the stress and anxiety, , and getting a good sweat in not only does it bring in these endorphins and gives you that biochemical response of , I can, like, it feels good.

[00:11:40] , what it also does is it increases your capacity of , of being able to say, Oh, I can do really hard things. I remember I had a knee injury when I was a teenager and I was told that I was never. Going to be able to run again. And I didn’t run for a really long time, but the other week, uh, my trainer was like, I want you to run for 10 minutes at this speed.

[00:11:59] And I looked at [00:12:00] him and I was like, Freddie. What the hell is he? You can do it. And I was like, and this is the power of having a coach. He was like, you can do it. I believe in you. And I would never have done it if it wasn’t for him, I would have said, you know, my injury, whatever I did it. I did it. Like I ran and I haven’t ran it for 10 years.

[00:12:17] And the reason I did it was because my coach was like, you could do it. And he was right. I could do it. Uh, and it just increases this ability of I can do hard things. Whenever you overcome a challenge, particularly with your body, you get the embodied experience of I can do hard things. And we’d like that because it increases their capacity to be in a regulated nervous system space.

[00:12:44] in front of stress. Exercise is stress. It can be perceived as dangerous, but when you do it and you stay in your breath and you stay in your body, you come out the other side and your body has this entire experience of , [00:13:00] Oh, that seemed really impossible and it seemed really scary and it actually wasn’t.

[00:13:04] I did it. Go me. We want more of those experiences because then what we can do is we can kind of transplant them onto business. And when you’re worried about , I don’t know, a sales pitch or posting on Instagram or writing an email, you can transfer that feeling of, I can do really hard things to the business.

[00:13:25] Fun. Number eight, crying. So your nervous system is basically holding a lot of energy all of the time and , we need to discharge that energy and if we don’t, it becomes too much for the, for the capacity of your nervous system and we go into a stress response, fight, flight, or freeze. That energy can be kind of a biochemical experience from an external stimuli such as like, I feel like I need to run away from a bear, but [00:14:00] it can, and it can also be the biochemical experience of emotions.

[00:14:03] So when there’s a lot of. Emotional energy pent up in the system, your nervous system now has less capacity because it’s holding all of this emotional energy, right? So some, one of the ways that the body actually releases the hormones and neurotransmitters and all of like the energy that the body is holding is through crying.

[00:14:27] Sometimes when we cry, it, it has a story. Like I’m specifically crying for X, Y, Z reason. And sometimes it doesn’t. Um, we don’t actually need to know necessarily why we feel like we’re crying or why we are crying. What we need to do is notice the desire to cry and let that come out through the body. What happens then is we complete the response, the emotional response that needed to occur when the original stimulus that created the response to cry occurred.

[00:14:57] Sometimes that’s something literally happened right [00:15:00] now and I feel like I need to cry. And sometimes when we’re doing a lot of this work is An experience that we had 20 years ago or that our mother had in the womb that wasn’t transferred onto us needs to be completed through our tears. And it’s just kind of only coming out now.

[00:15:18] So I want to encourage you if you find yourself with this idea of crying, not to judge it or necessarily even connect a story to it, but just allow your body to have that emotional expression. Right? What it then does is through that release, it kind of resets the nervous system and says, okay, cool.

[00:15:36] Stress response completed. Let’s go back to normal. Then you have a more regulated nervous system and you can go do life and do business. Number nine, , switching coffee for tea. So kind of failed at that this week, but it’s been something that I’ve been doing now for a couple of months. And if you had said this to me a few months ago, I would have been like, what the hell?

[00:15:56] No, I’d never quit coffee. But. I have found, , and [00:16:00] it’s been for a couple of different reasons, but I’ve just found that by consuming less coffee, I just have more energy and my nervous system feels more calm and I am more in touch with kind of the truth of what I’m feeling inside of my body, whether it’s what emotions or energy or intuition.

[00:16:19] And It’s just because coffee stimulates the nervous system. It brings in this artificial activation and that can increase anxiety and it can also mask your intuition and your connection with the real energy inside of your body. When you switch that for tea, it has a calming effect. A lot of them have a calming effect and it can reduce anxiety.

[00:16:40] But more importantly for me, it’s just, it’s less, most teas are the ones that I’ve been have less of a, uh, Activation on the body. It has less, it’s less impactful and so it helps me really feel into like the truth of what my body is [00:17:00] experiencing, the level of energy it has, its needs, its emotions, its desires, its, you know, intuitive voices.

[00:17:07] The tenth and the last is noticing but not changing my breath. So, It’s just connecting with the breath. Nervous system regulation. I’m going to say this. When you listen to this, if you take anything away from this podcast, this is it. Nervous system regulation is about connection, not about control.

[00:17:26] Nervous system regulation is about connection, not about control. So when I want to regulate my nervous system by simply connecting to the breath, I start becoming more present. It reduces anxious thoughts. It brings me back to the moment and it helps me access a different state of awareness, a different state of consciousness that anchors me into my body and then allows me to move forward with life and business.

[00:17:54] Hmm. So I’ve given you a 10 pick one, pick one, pick one, pick one and allow [00:18:00] yourself to play with it. Don’t try to pick all of it. Pick one because you are doing an amazing job. I know you are. If you’re listening all the way down to the end of this podcast, you are doing an amazing job and I know that sometimes it is hard.

[00:18:13] And I know that sometimes you doubt yourself and I know that sometimes you get caught up in your own self judgment and your shame cycles. And I know that sometimes you are really, really hard on yourself or you have really, really high expectations. And I want you to know that that’s all normal and that’s all okay.

[00:18:29] And you have a vehicle inside of your body that literally wants to work with you to create all of the dreams and desires on your heart. We just need to learn how to drive that vehicle. And by practicing just one of these. Just pick one of them. Don’t try to pick all of them. Pick one. You are going to learn so much more about driving your specific life vehicle, both in business and in relationships and in every single thing [00:19:00] that you’ve ever done in your entire life.

[00:19:02] And that is what I am here to help you with. Good work today. Sending you. So, so, so much love. If you would like to take this a little bit further, I want you to go back and just go back to the other podcast number 62, which is called how to make money during emotional rollercoasters. It’s, it’s a nice little story about one of my clients who has gone through one of the biggest, most difficult parts of her life.

[00:19:33] And in the meantime, she booked and fully booked her first. Program. Her first group program. So really freaking awesome. You are going to love it. I’ll make sure that you have the link below in the show notes and be kind to yourself. [00:20:00]